My son doesnt want to learn.

Candice - posted on 02/16/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi. I have a 8 year old son who still refuses to learn. He knows some words and can spell his name but I can not get him to read or learning spelling words is a hassle. He won't pay attention to anything I say or try and teach him. He always thinks he already knows. Like a teen already. Lol. We held him back in kindergarten so he's in first grade right now and his grades are As and Bs but I don't see how. I'm afraid to confront his teacher cause I'm scared she will hold him back and he's already a 8 year old in first grade. I have asked her how's he doing and she always says great. But he can't read!! Doesnt even want to try. What can I do ?

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Dove - posted on 02/17/2016

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My son is in second grade. He does awesome in school and the teacher is blown away by how bright he is.... yet it can take me HOURS to get him to write a paragraph for homework and usually the only way he will do it is if someone tells him word for word what to write. Other homework is not an issue, but writing... at home... forget about it. lol

If the teacher says he is doing great and he is getting A's and B's... it is likely just a case of him not wanting to do the work for you. Talk to the teacher about the struggles you are having w/ him at home and perhaps the two of you can work together to get him motivated.

If you are still concerned you can request that he be evaluated and someone will come observe him in the classroom.

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Sarah - posted on 02/17/2016

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I reread your post and if he truly cannot read, I'd think the teacher would want to discuss the matter with you. Holding a child back is not a unilateral decision that the teacher can maker. She can recommend it, but you would not have to agree. If he is mastering the the first grade material and getting good grades, then maybe he is more capable then you think. Also, not all kids can read in first grade. I have four kids; one was reading before kindergarten, two others started reading in first grade and my youngest took a bit longer and did not read well until third grade.

Jodi - posted on 02/17/2016

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He only doesn't want to do it when he is at home by the sounds of it. If the teacher is saying he's doing great, it is only you he doesn't wish to read or spell for. He's been at school all day. Maybe he's had enough.

Jen - posted on 02/16/2016

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It's not uncommon for a kid with learning differences to be able to fly below the radar at school. You're his mom though and you know him best and if you feel something not right there is no harm in getting a professional opinion. This is particularly common with dyslexic kids who are very bright and intelligent and by the time they reach 8 are really good at hiding their deficits because they know they are different. I would suggest going to this link and watching the video about dyslexia. You are your son's best advocate so don't be ashamed to push for correct testing and therapy, the longer you wait the wider the gap between him and his peers becomes. http://www.dys-add.com.

Sarah - posted on 02/16/2016

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LOL? really for an 8 year old who does not want to learn. First and second grade are usually starving for information. Time to get an evaluation for the child; he may have a learning disability or other issue you are not aware of.

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