My son father passed away and the family did want my son there.

Kianna L - posted on 10/02/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello Everyone,

So my son father passed away back at the beginning of this year and the family didn't reach out to me. I found out that he passed away through my best friend who text me and told me. I wanted about 24 hour just giving them time to deal with everything and in hope they would reach out to my son. (Now his father has been in and out of his life and we spoke weeks before his death in Walmart about him seen his and we exchange number. Nothing ever came of that.) Well day went on and I didn't heard nothing from anyone and it kind of hurt me because I feel like my son should have know. Well I because I am always open and honest with my son I told him about the death of his father and there wasn't much emotion because they really didn't have a relationship with him. I asked him once I find out the funeral arrangement would you like to go pay your respect to your father and he said yes. Now a week went by and I couldn't find out any information on the funeral plan for his father. So after some searching on Facebook I found his mother page with all the funeral information and it was too late for my son to attend the service because the was having that service that day. After reading the obituary a they never added my son in there and that hurt me deeply and I felt some type of way. So I just kept everything to myself and just let it go. But now because I have a change in heart I want to reach out to the Mother and let her know how Jamill is doing and sending her some picture cause after all he has a right to know who his father family is. My question is should i reach out to her and just let her know how his is doing or should I just leave it alone. I am not sure what to do. Please help

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Sarah - posted on 10/02/2015

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Reach out and if you get no response keep reaching out at his bday and Christmas. Send a photo and a letter about his life and what he is up too. Someday it may come back to you with great gratitude.

Kianna L - posted on 10/02/2015

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Thank you for your advice! Yes she does know about him and has only seen him twice since he was born. I guess when i broken thing off with my son father we never kept in touch. My son also have to other sibling and there were acknowledge but my son was the only one left out his the middle child which is my son. I do receive his death benefits which is very helpful. But a part of my heart was always cared about him cause he was my son father and I just feel really disrespect by the whole thing. But because I have that caring heart I want to reach out and let them know how he doing if they don't contact me back .

Sarah - posted on 10/02/2015

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Are you sure she even knew about her grandchild? I would definitely reach out. Having a living legacy of her son may ease her pain immensely.
Also, your son is entitled to social security death benefits. Take his birth certificate to the county clerk and ask for a certified copy of the death certificate. Your son, depending on his dad's income will be entitled to a monthly amount that you can save to help pay for college etc.

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