My son father will not return my son

Shekeitha - posted on 08/07/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son lived with his dad the last 2 years with the consent of me. I have never placed him on child support or even mentioned pulling him into court until now. We both agreed for him to come back home for the school year were I live in north Dakota. my son is in Baltimore. I called Baltimore police and explained the situation but they said they will not get involved unless its court ordered. his dad keeps me out of the loop as far as his education, health and well being. barley returns any of my phone calls or my family. he has my son calling his fiancé mom, has him thinking I don't love him, just all kinds of stuff. we have a notarized document but the police says its not a legal document and I cant file kidnapping charges. I just want my son home. I thought I was being the good "babymama" by letting my son see his father and for him to be in his childs life. the first 3yrs of his life, his dad didn't do anything but call. he barley called. I need help.. I have to get a lawyer in Baltimore and I don't know were to start

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Dove - posted on 08/07/2016

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I'm sorry you have to deal w/ this. It would be GREAT if all split couples could co-parent peacefully throughout their children's lives and not have to involve courts at all. Unfortunately... people are human and sometimes that means they are greedy or self centered or just plain idiots (because all of that is normal human nature)... hence the need for court orders from the very beginning... to protect everyone.

Go out and start looking for a lawyer tomorrow and good luck!

Jodi - posted on 08/07/2016

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Well, the fact of the matter is, you had no legal custody agreement, so no, it isn't kidnapping. This is why you should have had a court ordered arrangement. He has a legal right to keep the child, just as much as you do. I am confused as to why you would ever even think you COULD have put him on child support, that part of your post confuses me.

Unfortunately, it is questionable that you could file for custody in Baltimore, because the child doesn't live there, so they may not have jurisdiction. The child does not reside in Baltimore, so the orders may need to be from North Dakota. But that's where your legal advice comes in. Definitely find yourself a good family lawyer to discuss this, but understand the state of residence for the child is currently North Dakota and this is what you are going to have to work with.

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Shekeitha - posted on 08/07/2016

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I am saying that I have never put him on child support the first 3yrs of our son life (our son is 5 now) when he abanded him. I did not threaten to take him to court at all. I thought by me co-parenting without the courts getting involved, I was doing a good job but now it has come to bite me in the ass. and thank you all.

Dove - posted on 08/07/2016

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Oh... and Jodi is right about your child's state of residence. You will have to go through the court system in the state where your child has been living for the past 2 years. A lawyer in your area might be able to help you... or might be able to point you in the direction of another lawyer that can help.

Dove - posted on 08/07/2016

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This is why court orders are important from the very beginning. All you can do is get a lawyer and pursue your joint custody/visitation rights through the courts now. Start looking in the phone book and making calls to find a lawyer that seems like a good fit for your case.

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