My son frightens me

Roseanne - posted on 04/25/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son is 15 and is very difficult. If he doesn't get his way, he gets very angry. He wants to eat junk all the time and when I don't buy him or allow him to have unhealthy food he literally gets explosive. I feel sacred to be around him. Every little thing sets him off. He told me he f--cking hates me because I told him he can't eat cookie dough, he went NUTS, grabbed my arm like he was going to hit me. I am worried because if he is getting this upset about not having cookie dough, how is he going to function in life. Life is full of disappoints. I am worried. Any advice?

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Dove - posted on 04/25/2015

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You need to let him know immediately that laying a hand on you is 100% unacceptable and the next time he does it you will call the police. If he has no behavior issues at school or w/ his father... it isn't medication he needs. He knows you won't or can't do anything to stop him... so you need to let him know that you WILL stop him... even if that means pressing charges against him.

Roseanne - posted on 04/25/2015

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No it hasn't happened over night. He has always been difficult, difficult toddler, now it is a lot worse in his teens. I have punished him by taking his phone away, computer away... I just don't know how to deal with him anymore. I'm trying to guide him to do what's right. Taking him to therapy, starting medication, spending quality time with him, but nothing is working. I feel so hopeless, afraid and alone.

Jodi - posted on 04/25/2015

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I'm imagining this verbal abuse of you is not just something that happened overnight. What consequences have you implemented for this? You shouldn't have to walk on eggshells, but he does need consequences. However if he has been allowed to get away with it, that could be difficult.

Roseanne - posted on 04/25/2015

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He's on a mood stabilzer Lamictal, and the doctor added focalin because of his unability to focus in school. He has no behavior issues in school, but with me he's verbally abusive. It's constant lack of respect. I was againist medication but felt as though it was worth a try, I see no improvements, & I feel hopeless. I want to stop walking on eggshells around him all the time.

Roseanne - posted on 04/25/2015

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I am divorced, his father does get through to him, but with me I feel like he takes totally advantage of me and doesn't respect me. With his Dad, he won't pull this. I have him in counseling, and he's been on medication. I don't see any improvement.

Jodi - posted on 04/25/2015

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He needs some counselling and anger management. You shouldn't be allowing him to treat you this way, and physically grabbing you? No way, that's NOT okay. That is a basic lack of respect in your home for your decisions. If he wants to eat junk he can buy it himself (it's a bit hard to restrict a child's food intake if they have their own income, though, especially at this age, so keep that in mind). You are not obligated to buy him whatever he wants.

Where is his father?

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