My son has 2 days to decide

Denise - posted on 06/04/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My baby boy has decided to join the Department of National Defence and the Canadian Armed Forces .I am crushed. I don't want him to go. He applied with out my knowledge back in December and they called the other day. I answered the phone and was shocked! I cant believe he wants to do this. I cryed talked don't know what to do. He is joining the infantry and I am freaking out. He has 2 days to get back to them. then he will leave in July. I pray to God for a change of mind!! Please help I am so frightened!
Denise

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Tanya - posted on 06/05/2014

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Denise, once again I do agree with you 18 is young and sometimes they make bad decisions that lead to be in school until they are 40....That is why children need guidance. 18 is still a child, you would not kick your 18 year old out and say 'okay, you're now 18, see ya...go fend for yourself'

Degree after degree I've seen it with my own eyes in my family.

He may be making the right one though.

However, I think you should sit with him and discuss the pro and con's. We're in Canada not in USA we have a completely different mentality than Americans when it comes to being patriotic. PLEASE NOTE: I am not insulting Americans. It is that Americans are way more patriotic than us in terms of their services and we don't support the army as much as they do. That is why it is hard for you to digest what he wants to do.

Once again I am not insulting anyone...and this is just an opinion, it doesn't mean I am right.

Erisreignssupreme - posted on 06/04/2014

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you can't know whats right for him. everyone has their own path. he might save someones life who goes on to be the president. you just don't know what destiny has in store. and if its not right for him then he will have to find that out for himself by trying. people often join the army for a few years learn all manner of skills and self discipline and find great friends and even figure out what they really want in life by just joining the training. be sure and be supportive as well as realistic. and maybe ask him some questions about why he wants to do it. you could ask him about what it involves and what are the statistics of injury or combat…hopefully he has done his research and knows but if you find he doesn't know then you could suggest he find out before committing. :) whatever path he takes in life all you can do is be there for him:)

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Denise - posted on 06/05/2014

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I know he is just 18 I think that is so young. I am trying to support I will support but it is hard.

User - posted on 06/04/2014

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I wanted to join the Navy right after HS and instead I tried community college per my mother's request. I skipped classes and was unintrested. I called my recruiter and asked when the soonest I could leave, they said 4 days. I did it behind my mom's back, and she was upset, but did it that way because she didnt support me. The Navy was the best decision I ever made. I made lifelong friends, traveled, and learned life lessons. I stood for a greater cause, and made selfless decisions.
Support your son, he needs you to trust that he is making the right choice. Being in the service is a noble feeling!

Tanya - posted on 06/04/2014

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Denise I totally agree with you!

I would defiantly discourage my son!

However, the ladies are right...he is a grown up and has to make his own decisions...

Jana - posted on 06/04/2014

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You have to realize that he is a grown up who is going to make his own decisions. My brother served two terms in Iraq, and it is scary. Just remember he is a man now, and you raised him to be one.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/04/2014

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I understand, when my son expressed a desire to join the army, I had the same initial reaction, but I can't stop him, because he's an adult.

So, I support him, I love him, and I don't plan on telling him how hard it is for me to have him gone.

Denise - posted on 06/04/2014

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I am very very very proud of my son. I just want the very best for him. I don't want him to be in harms way and I will would never discourage him. I just need help with this. it is scary and He is an awesome young man. I love him with all of my heart and soul.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/04/2014

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Why are you upset that your son is patriotic, and wants to serve his country?

BE PROUD of him, don't try to discourage him.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/04/2014

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I understand this is difficult for you as a mother, but be proud of your son!! He wants to serve his country. You should be giving him your full support in my opinion. He is an adult, and needs to make big decisions on his own....not just do what you tell him to do. Be proud. You raised a son that wants to do something with his life. Not only can he learn to be a soldier, but he can get a college education out of this. He will also learn a valuable skilled trade. Let him be who he is. He is not going to live the rest of his life with you anyhow. He is making decisions about his own future, and what he wants to be. Good on your son. I wish him the best of luck.

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