my son has a ADHD and severe behave issue any suggestion

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Marama - posted on 07/04/2011

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My son, who is almost 11, has been diagnosed with ADHD since he was 8 and has been medicated since then. We seldom have a week where something has happened that sends the rest of the family in a tail spin. he has attacked his brother which led to severe bleeding, he has been inappropriate with both his brothers, no amount of punishment works, he steals, lies and has no conscience when it comes to the impact it has on our family. We have firm boundaries and routines and we cook all our own food so I know what he is eating. We are as patient as saints, but sometimes, I really fear for safety.

Jodi - posted on 11/05/2009

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Get help now!!! My son ( now 22) , started having behavior problems in the elementary years..we got contstant calls from the school. He was diagnosed with adhd and odd. He got medications for this through the years, which never really helped. When he got old enough he would throw the medicine away. This continued through his high school years with calls daily from the schools. And many many suspensions. He now lives with my husband and I and doesnt work. He stays in the basement and is on the computer all the time. In the past he was very violent. Throwing things, breaking things, putting holes in the walls etc...So get your son help NOW..Dont end up like me

Audra - posted on 11/22/2009

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Terrific replies ... but as you can tell, everyone is different for what works for them. Go with your gut when deciding what is best for your child, no one else will honestly know what is best. I have raised a son with ADHD and I learned as much as I could, groups, food, medications, etc. But now seeing him all grown into a 20 year old man I know I did the best I could do and I did it alone while raising 3 other boys.

In the end - it's just a label for a personality type. Everyone has to find a way to function in life no matter how they see the world. Life is always flavorful with ADHD and you live life to the fullest. Love your children and keep them safe, you'll make it!

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There are a lot of caring posts, and wonderful suggestions. One thing I need to point out is to take the guilt out of the picture. If you choose to medicate your child, you are not taking the easy way out, or drugging your child. You are simply utilizing a tool to help him with his behavior issue. We had to go with medication, and now we realize that our son is not just disorganized or lazy, but on the contrary, very bight and in need of stimulation, structure and loving attention! It is a heavy load on our minds, but we are doing our best, and if that includes medication, that is our decision. Other people might not understand totally. It is only if they walk a mile in your shoes that they would get the picture. Hang in there and take care of yourself too.

Christyna - posted on 11/07/2009

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Hi there my Son is 11 and he has ADHD OCD SLEEPING DISORDER AND ASPERGERS. It is not an easy life I have been to hell and back so many times we have tried every medication going and all the classes and courses we could but nothing has really helped he was only being kept in school until 12.30 every day over his behaviour he can be very violent and stubborn some odd thing they said. I hope you get the help you need before it is too late I was pushed around for yrs with my Son until I blew up and told them I wanted the help he was intitled to

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Marsha - posted on 03/19/2012

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Patience. Lot's of Patience. I have 2 autistic sons. One is 21 years old, blind and completely nonverbal. The other is 11 years old, highly intelligent but nonverbal. Even though both boys are nonverbal, I have found how they communicate in other ways. So, please be patient and allow them to help make decisions. Give them respect and patience, and you will see them bossom. Most of all, be very careful about any medications you allow them to be placed on. My oldest was using Respirodine for 2 years (first medication I ever allowed) and (it did control his behavior) he almost died less than a month ago due to horrible seizures (stopped breathing twice and had NEVER had seizures prior to using this medication) and renal failure. I got my boy back but he is acting out b/c he doesn't have the medication to control him.

My other son is not on any medication but acts out at times. But he is wonderful. He helps with the laundry. If he folds the clothing wrong, I just put them in the basket and refold them without him watching (Praise him the entire time). Then this boy helps cook dinner every night, helps clean the kitchen afterwards and when he is done eating, he will scrape his own plate and place it in the dishwasher. Then he non verbally requests I take him out an outdoor adventure (rollerblading, bikeride, bowling,etc) OR shows me he wants to work a crossword puzzle with me. He loves writing the letters in the correct boxes when I spell the answer. So, exercise a lot of patience and you will receive back a whole lot of wonderful behavior, including hugs, kisses and requests to spend time with the child.

LILLIAN - posted on 11/23/2009

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I WANT TO ALSO TAKE A MOMENT TO SAY HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL YOU MOMS OUT THERE. WHEN WE LOOK AT IT ALL IN THE END WE ARE TRULY BLESSED BEINGS

LILLIAN - posted on 11/23/2009

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i just wantto say thanki you to all the moms that reached out. i will answer everyone please be patient with me i am at my witts end

Crisanne - posted on 11/14/2009

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allow your son to expend his energy ex. running, swimming, playing, but you have to watch him closely to avoid any physical injury. Give one simple instruction at a time so that your son can complete the task which promotes self-esteem. Be more patient. hope to hear from you.

Bea - posted on 11/08/2009

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My ADHD son will be 28 in December 09 and these things helped me. When providing instructions to him, make sure you are only inches from his face and have him repeat the instructions to you. Always remember how frustrating it must be for him. It will help you remain patient. Always allow him to be himself but be stern as to what you expect when in public. For accurate diagnosis, visit a Pediatric Neurologist and ask them to do an LLAEP. Of course this was a long time ago so they may have updated tests by now. DO NOT allow teachers to make him feel inferior or stupid. Make sure you have a great AEP for him through school, all the way through graduation and make the teachers abide by it. Remember most medicines are considered "Controlled Substances" by the armed services and may prevent him from joining (ARMY, NAVY, etc.) I also never gave my son his meds over the weekend or Summer unless we were going somewhere that absolutely required it. Time-release meds is the best. Good luck!

Raquel - posted on 11/08/2009

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Create a behavioral chart and set short term goals and long term goals with him.

Cheryl - posted on 11/08/2009

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I am with keeping busy sports ... my son has ADD we keep him involved in sports but he is also on medication as well for help just during school. I no alot of people aren't for the medication but he would be failing school if it wasn't for the little help of that.

Cheryl - posted on 11/08/2009

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Hi Moms, An idea for the kids is to send them for horse riding lessons. You must think Im mad but it has been proved to work and overseas they use this alot with horse therapy. The kids enjoy it every time and they dont get bored. Just the normal grooming of a horse and leading him around does wonders for the kids. Contact some horse riding centres in yr area and discuss this with them.

Lucy - posted on 11/07/2009

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My son was diagnosed with ADD and then we had him re-diagnosed and he is non-verbal learning (Autism Spectrum) with dyspraxia. He is a bright kid, who was completely missed in public school. I now home-school him with the help of a certified teacher. He gets over-stimulated in group environments and will not learn. He needs structure and quiet. We have followed the medication and structure route. He also has tons of anxiety. He is a lot like me. I didn't have him diagnosed until he told me he couldn't concentrate and it made him cry. I believe ADD and autism spectrum are diagnoses that are made too often and too early. My son is excelling in academics now and fairly well-behaved, though he does have issues that arise from time to time. His senses are more highly attuned than other kids. A scatchy tag in a shirt would make him scream as a younger child. Now he can tell me what bothers him. My answer depends on how old your boy is. If he is over seven, you could take him to a neurologist. If he is younger, I would try keeping him super active physically, structure his day and isolate him in time-outs when he acts violent. The diet approach did help me when my son was younger. We cut out food coloring, additives and wheat. It is exhausting to have such a kid, but I do believe those kids are brighter, if more scattered. I was one of them.



Lucy

Christina - posted on 11/07/2009

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My 19 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6. He also had some behavior problems. We changed his diet, had him on a strict routine and took him to counseling. When he was 14 his behavior deteriorated and after a period of time, he was diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder. He doesn't care to take a lot of medications and works hard at managing his disorder with diet and exercise. On those nights that he has a lot of anxiety and can't sleep due to racing thoughts, he drinks an herbal tea with valarian root and chamomile. It takes the edge off and he is able to relax w/o drugs.

As a mother who has dealt with a son with several diagnosis, I STRONGLY urge all parents of children with this type of diagnosis to watch their son/daughter closely. Particularly as they reach puberty. One of the things children will do is experiment and self medicate.

My son has amazing talents in the arts. He is doing well these days, but it was very difficult for a while.

Good luck to each of you!

Ruby - posted on 11/06/2009

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Hi, this must be a very stressful time for you and very difficult to know what is the best approach. Homeopapthy works very well with behavioural stuff and kids often respond quickly. My son was really full on and many friends suggest he had ADD but I never got this diagnosed by a GP. I took him to a homeopath and gave him the remedy prescribed. I was surprised to see a huge shift in his energy within two weeks time. He actually started sitting by himself in his room and playing with his lego for 30min stretches. I repeat this remedy about 6monthly. Might be worth investigating. All the best :)

Diana - posted on 11/06/2009

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I am a mother of 3 sons,, grandmother to 8...Please go to a Naural Health Educator & have your son tested for deficiencies in amino acids. I have just recently been going to one for my long running health problems & finally can say I have found some help. I also have taken my 20 year old granddaughter w/learning disabilities & she has showed & felt a great improvement..

Jeanette - posted on 11/06/2009

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Quoting Maureen:

I can tell you that it is a long hard road, I can write a book on my son,who is now 18. You just have to be very careful with doctors and meds. Look for support within your family because in some cases outsiders have no idea and will judge right away. Most of all just love them and take it one day at a time. If you would like to talk or ask me anything I will be more than happy to help. Let me know and I will send you my e mail. Oh yea by the way my name is Maureen all my friends call me MO.


 

Karen - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yes.....go to the website www.chadd.org where you will find a wealth of information on children diagnosed with ADD or ADHD. Check out some behavioral interventions you may use.

Karen - posted on 11/05/2009

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Yes.....go to the website www.chadd.org where you will find a wealth of information on children diagnosed with ADD or ADHD. Check out some behavioral interventions you may use.

Rebecca - posted on 11/05/2009

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My son is 17, I would not could not handle putting my son on a medication that would alter him. But when he got into Middle school and was failing and came to me and asked me for help because he did not understand why things were happening to him the way they were. I finally took him to the doctor... and now I understand everything. He has now improved in everything! And I am glad he is on medication and so is he.

Tina - posted on 11/05/2009

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I am not sure where you live but if you are anywhere near DePere, Wi. Call the Herb shop and ask to have a kinesis test done on your son. He might be lacking in something. My son was diagnosed with ADHD when he started pre K. i was told that only medication was going to help him. I heard about this shop, called and took him in. Found out his body was lacking in certain minerals and vitamins. He takes DHA, combo potassium, and Barley juice. He has improved greatly over the years plus is doing great in school.

If you don' live near DePere, WI check around your area to see if there is a herbal shop that might do the test. For me it was worth the $40 to have my son tested.

good luck

Gail - posted on 11/05/2009

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join a support group in your area. I have 2 boys, one w/ADHD and the other has Tourettes, OCD AND ADHD! Really, I have had so much support from the families at the meetings and so many good suggestions! Don't be afraid ..seek one out!

Samantha - posted on 11/05/2009

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Everyone has a different opinion and that's ok, you have to find what works for your family and sometimes that means it can be a long stressful time before it happens. But take time for you first so you are happy and calm which inturn will help your child. Personally we fought medication at first. But now it has been the best thing. My son has major aggression issues too. But we now have him on Focalin XR 20mg. It took sometime finding the right one and the right dosage. The only bad thin about the medicine is that ALL of them upset his stomach. But this one for my son is the better or the ones we tried and he is not losing weight currently. You have to very careful and make sure it is not hurting the child more than helping. Also monitoring the diet helps. The gluten, sugars, caffiene, red dye, etc. Calmness, structure and activities seems to help also. It's just trial and error. Read as much as you can and expierement until you find what works for you. Best of Luck to you and your family

Diane - posted on 11/05/2009

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Structure and routine are important in my daughter's daily life. She has been diagnosed with autistic tendencies, spina bifada, ADHD, bi-polar/schizophrenic behavior. She is 15 years old now. Yes, medications may be prescribed when behavior therapy is more appropriate, but my child's meds improve her focus and thinking processes tremendously. It would be unfair to expect her to "behave" with no chemical tools to help her. She was born with a genetic disorder that promotes OCD behaviors. It bothers be to no end when people give blanket advice against medicating children. Each case is different! We are gluten-free, dairy-free on a regular basis, we read books, attend seminars, etc., but the bottom line is: have your son tested (psychological), and take him to a neurologist who can look at the specific behaviors and advise you. Find out what services are available in your state to help pay for diagnostic tests. Pray!! It helps me sleep at night when my daughter has had a rough day. Where do you live?

Diane - posted on 11/05/2009

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Bless you. I have a daughter, 15, who has been in the same situation all of her life. How old is your son? Taylor started Early Intervention Services when she was 3, and she's been in a self-contained SPED class since Kindergarten. Behaviors became more aggressive, and T. was more agitated the more that teachers tried to "stimulate" her in school. We started medications right after that - some worked and some were terrible for her (she was ready to peel wallpaper off the walls when on Ritalin), but her neurologists and orthopedic doctors worked together with MRI results to find the right combinations that worked until she matured/grew, and then new dosages and meds were needed. Truthfully, Taylor could not carry on a conversation until she started taking Seroquel and Straterra; she also takes Clonidine and Fluvoxamine daily. I believe that some children - like ours - are chemically unable to cope with things in life that are routine for most kids, and that medications enable our children to successfully interact with peers without constant frustration. We see a geneticist, neurologist, 2 orthopedic doctors, and a urologist several times a year for tests. EEGs are conducted twice a year.



I am a retired public school teacher (K-8), and I have taught kids straight out of Juvenile Detention. It is really important for teachers to connect with kids with behavior issues. My daughter attended one school where she was considered "gross" and "bad." You've heard about self-fulfilling prophecies. She started acting the part more and more. When she was sent to an inviting school where the teachers were patient (didn't yell) and caring, Taylor was a pleasant child to be around instead of throwing things, kicking, and hitting. What kind of environment is your son in when he has episodes?



Good luck to you!



Diane

Pamela - posted on 11/05/2009

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hi casandra,

i may have an odd sugestion for you, but have you had him tested for FOOD ALLERGIES ?

the reason i ask that is because i've seen many children fall through the cracks of the medical "feed them pills" system and when the children HAVE been tested they find out that ,that is exactly the problem with the child .

see food allergies affected my child the same way till i had him tested and now i watch what he eats and between the school and a diettion through his doctor working with me to keep my son safe and healthy he has gone from failing horribly to b's and c's in school .

also he does not fall asleep in class all the time now and his personallity is so much more agreeable to deal with . all around i now acctually like my child now and we talk more.

hope it works out for you hon good luck .

pamela lake

p.s. alittle tough love is ok to use i did and it worked .

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do realize its not for every child but just a sugestion.

also bi-polar is verry out there now and that might be an avenue you want to test on .

Rachel - posted on 11/05/2009

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My son 2 12 was also diagnosed with ADHD and put on meds. He is now almost 15 and completely out of control. In doing research and speaking to many specialist most boys that are diagnosed with ADHD do not really have ADHD @ all. This is why the meds do not work. It is not until they reach about 18 or 19 that the MD realizes they are Bipolar which is true in my son's case. He has recently started on Bipolar meds as he has been self medicating with illegal drugs to stop the pain. He will start individual couseling and family counseling also. You may want to seek other medical advice. AS for us we are doing everything we can to save our Logan. I hope this helps!!!

Katherine - posted on 11/05/2009

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my daughter seen dr. okelly from ottawa, and put her daughter on pills just a light dose and she is a different little girl, easy going now, she is making an appointment for her other daughter that has adhd to go and see her

Aviva - posted on 11/05/2009

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My 7 year old daughter has ADHD as well and the best strategy is to keep her busy. I don't have her involved in any sports yet however I try to keep her busy at home. She loves to help cook and clean. I allow her to do things at a minimum to her level. Overall it just takes being constantly involved and finding things for your child to do.

Cheryll - posted on 11/05/2009

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Take your child to a child to a phsycologust and whatever you do, don't use retilin, my on was diagnosed when he was 8 and we had occupational therapy and worked with the school and after a year everythings was fine - hang in there

Codye - posted on 11/04/2009

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i highly agree with watching his dieting, the teacher at school and etc...what helped me with my husband, and kids that i have babysat with adhd, is to find a subject or hobby that really interests them..my husband loves mind teasers and worknig on vehicles to calm him down..see what favorite toy he plays with all the time and pick it from there..just kinda go with the flow...best wishes

Kim - posted on 11/04/2009

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Our son is 17, the end of this month. He has been diagnosed with ADD, my family would say ADHD, but since we have just him, that's just him to us. One of the things that we struggle with the most is "social" skills. He has trouble with "personal space". The thing I think we do the most to help him is: Be honest, point out "behaviors" that other people might take exception to, we don't allow ADD as an excuse for anything like he has to work very hard for his grades, but the expectation of the "B" honor roll is met as often as not. He gets frustrated with having ADD and sometimes mad, I would too. We as parents also get frustrated as it is not easy, tempers fly at times, yelling and arguing on both ends. LOVE without strings!! ADD, boys anyway, tend not to be as mature as others in their class, this is part of the "social" issues. Impulsivity can be hard to make them aware of, that it is not always good. He was on medicine for 4 years, he said he was able to concentrate better on it, socially was a little better, but after some discussion, HE chose to go off, with our full support. Really each child is different and you have to work together, to find what works best for all of you, always keeping in mind that the ONLY Voice your child has in the "real" world is you, so YES....ADVOCATE !!!!!!

Lesa - posted on 11/04/2009

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I have to agree with diet, sports and no drugs. I have a 23 old that has ADHD and he just graduated from Harvard. He started gymnastics at age 9 and it made a world of difference. High school he did track and diving. Now that he is old enough to realize what has helped him he says it was the structured sports and even now workouts and running helps him to stay focused. Healthy food and snacks keep his blood sugar where it is suppose to be so he doesn't have sharp highs and lows. I also had to work with his teachers so they knew how to treat my child when he was having a bad day.

Alisa - posted on 11/04/2009

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I would tell you to go to the library/internet and get as much info as possible. He had to try three med. before they found the one that was right for him and now he's fine. Also each med. can have different amts. to be given also, as to find the right one that will work. Try to find the remedy that works for both you and the child.

Jen - posted on 11/04/2009

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for your son I would research gluten free and chemical free diet. You would need to be super strict and not cheat even once for a whole month to really see a difference. There is a direct connection with gluten and brain function. It changed my daughters life.

Kris - posted on 11/04/2009

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Lots of replies to look at and consider..... I do not have personal experience with ADD/ADHD etc. but I do know a few peolple who have had excellent results with isotonic supplements, especially the childrens line. Some of these people have been helped with Bi-Polar even! The body is bombarded every day with pollutants from one source or another, including itself, and cannot fight off everything it needs too, along with trying to heal and take care of negative situations in the body.



A good diet is a must but high quality supplements are the next priority. Ritalin is one molecule away from cocaine. There is so much to say and I do not want to take up an entire page. In my opinion you need to go to a certified Naturopathic Dr. and check into some quality supplements and I don't mean the chain stores.



I have testimonials if you would like to see them. I can even get you in contact with some of the people I know that have had excelelnt results with ADD/ADHD, Bi-Polar, Autism, etc. You can email me at kris@curativetherapies.com if you would like.



There is help and a solution!

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First I want to say I know your pain and frustration. I have a son who is severely ADHD and Bipolar as well, along with many sensory issues. My first suggestion would be to take it one day (or even hour!) at a time. Try to not let this to define your child. With my own son have done an extensive dietary change and that seems to help but not completely. I also do things to help cleanse his body of toxins and heavy metals that tend to effect children with these illnesses. We have tried medication but he metabolizes them so fast they are uneffective. He has been hospitalized three times this year (is actually there now) but it is mostly a safety precaution since I also have a three year old daughter at home. Another good suggestion I can offers is to educate yourself on ADHD. Getting a doctor to listen and help find natural things to help is difficult but worth it. Naturally helping him not only is safer but is usually more effective. Take some time for yourself to re-energize. You need your strength to keep up with him. Keep him busy. Find others you can talk to and who will listen instead of judge you. You are not in a "normal" parent situation, others that don't deal with the same things tend not to be as understanding, not out of meanness but due to a lack of knowledge and understanding. Hope this helps.........

Catressa - posted on 11/04/2009

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I'm 34 years old and I also suffer from mental illness. Including ADHD. I know how hard it is to live with sever depression and ADHD all the way to psychosis. PRAY, and teach your son to ask God for help. God is real and he does listen he has helped me many times. Just be as patient and maybe get counceling for yourself or take classes from the National Alliance on Mental Illness at 703-524-7600 or 1-888-999-6244, www.nami.org or there is also a nonprofit organization called Mental Health America at 703-684-7722 or 1-800-969-6642, www.mentalhealthamerica.net please just make sure you read all the warnings and side effects some meds do make us worse. Good luck and God Bless you and your family.

Ayrjia - posted on 11/04/2009

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See a homeopath and change his diet. take out wheat,sugar, dairy, and anything with hyderogenated oils.Processed foods would be good to remove. Try a probiotic and a GOOD multivitamin to fill in where the diet may be lacking. Goodluck. Ifyou need continued help,my homeopath may be able to help over e mail.

Melynda - posted on 11/04/2009

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Hi don't usually do this but my son has adhd also. How old is he first of all? My boy is 12 and we have been dealing with this for some time now. I make sure my son understands he has to learn to deal for the rest of the world the world doesn't have to learn to deal with him and his behavior. I don't give him slack because he has to live out in the real world one of these days and has to learn to live there.

Brenda - posted on 11/04/2009

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I taught in the public school system for over 20 years. It is very important that you be very firm and be consistent with discipline. Also routine is very important to children with ADHD. A book that a doctor recommended to a past parent of mine for Discipline issues is 1-2-3 Magic. I don't know the author, I gave my daughter in law my copy, but you may be able to find it by the title.

Jana - posted on 11/04/2009

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My son is now 27 years old and I have dealt with ADHD since he was diagnosed when he was 4yrs. I found a Dr. that dealt with behavior with immediate action...good and bad. We had poker chips that were rewarded when he did the right behavior. The key was when he wanted to do something (activity as simple as watching TV or puzzle or reading) he had to pay back with chips so he learned that he had priviliges not rights or entitlement. The chips were given at every opportunity (getting out of bed, brushing teeth on the 1st or 2nd reminder, picking up toys, holding my hand, playing nice with brother or friends, etc). Another response about taking time for yourself is so important so you can break from the stress and frustration you will feel throuhgout the day....it is not easy. Each child is so different, So check with your Dr about seeing a behavoral specialist for behavior modification.

Cathy - posted on 11/04/2009

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I have found a therapist that deals with ADHD and he give us lots of help. My son is on meds and went from referrals regularly to great grades. His behavior is a daily struggle and we have found what will work for him. Homework is done in segments, 1 assignment at a time then a break. He is a creature of habit so too much change is like starting over. Pick and choose your battles. Each child and situation is different. Stay strong, your health is important take care of you and dont feel guilty for Mommy time.

Tammy - posted on 11/04/2009

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i am a mom of two kids with adhd one is very controlled but the other also had behavior problems my help was concerta and a very strict diet and scedule now he is a totally different child

User - posted on 11/04/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:

Monitor you sons diet like a hawk, no sugar and Gluten free foods only. Make sure his teacher has the proper information on how to deal with your child in a school environment from a professional. No medication!!!!!


I totally agree. I would recommend to get the book Is this your child from Dr. Doris Rapp. You can get this book in any library. This books explains how to do the diet. I did it with my 4 year old son. In a week I saw a huge difference. My son used to bite other kids, hit them, not follow instructions, not sit in circle time at school, it was a nightmare.  My son had food intolerance to almost everything, juice, sugar, bananas. wheat, corn, etc. After a month of removing all these foods I started re introducing one food at a time  on a 4 day rotation diet. Now he can eat all of this foods but only every 4 days. You need to read the book so you can understand what I am saying. There is also a video in youtube This diet changed my life and my sons life.

Addie - posted on 11/04/2009

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I agree with Stephanie B below.....DIET!! My 13YO DD has been in and out of therapy, doctors, meds, etc. I recently came across a book "The Sugar Addicts Total Recovery Program" " and "Carb Addicted Kids"......must-reads! They will shed a lot of light on how diet might be effecting him. We've only altered a few of the many steps in these programs and I'm already starting to see a huge improvement!
Good Luck!!

Glenda - posted on 11/04/2009

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Yet another post here. My 11 year old son has ADHD that was complicated with Neurological Lyme Disease and a learning disability with writing (he's described it as a 6 lane highway trying to merge into 1 lane when he tries to write his thoughts. He is prone to "melt downs" when things don't go the way he thinks they should, is very impatient, can't help but butt into conversations and correct teachers. Last year he was given a teacher that was very organized and very strict--what I thought would be best for him. Half way through the year they switched him to another teacher who wasn't so organized but very loving, and he thrived. Just to let you know that the books don't always get what the kids need right. I had always read that organization and structure are key. They are very important for him, but more important was the feeling that the teacher liked him, and fewer transitions during the day.
In addition, (I guess because he has an IEP) the school, working with us, put together a behavior plan and goals and rewards for him. It helps him keep focused.
Hope a little of my experience helps...

Maria - posted on 11/04/2009

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FIND SOMETHING HE LIKES AND THAT HE IS GOOD AT. MY SON HAD IT. HE WAS IN ORCHACTRIA, BASKETBALL, TRACK, AND CROS COUNTRY, HE DID BETTER ONCE HE WAS IN ALL THESE ACTIVITY, BY THE TIME HE WAS IN JR. HIGH HE DIDN'T NEED HIS MEDS. HE LEARNED TO PUT HIS ENGERY INTO HIS SPORTS AND CONCERTATING ON HIS VIOLIN.

Doylene - posted on 11/04/2009

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I gave my son DHA. It helped him a lot. Teachers are now telling parents about DHA for their children with ADHD. You can buy it at a health store and it is completely saffe.

Michelle - posted on 11/04/2009

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I have a 17 year old son that was diagnosed with ADHD since he was 7. I now wish I had never started him on the meds. I have seen him go thru so much. Depression being the major one. As far as his behavior, I have had to hold him accountable for the wrong that he does. Good Luck. and have ALOT of patience with him.

Paula - posted on 11/04/2009

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I have a 17 year old son that was diagnosed with ADHD at age 5 and in Kindergarten. We medicated him for a few years, changed his foods, and worried alot. The biggest things I reccommend are talking with your teachers, set up an IEP for your child's needs, get the school to be on board with you and not allow them to tell you what you are going to do, but what they are going to do for you. You have rights...so many when it comes to school it is amazing, but many parents are not informed...get informed! With my child I felt that spending as much time with him, wrestling, playing, holding, hugging him was really important. Also, being extremely consistant with how I treated him whether it was praise or discipline was a huge key to success. I didn't so much change his foods as I did go for no sweets in the house at all, unless I made them for a special occassion, and brought in a ton of fresh fruits and vegetables, lean meats, fish...lots of protein. I was an advocate for my child whatever the cause or concern. I belonged to every activity organization that he did and made sure that he knew I was there to support him, but I did allow him to fail...don't think I was there to intervein...only after the fact if possible. They are still kids and should be treated as such but they are also learning everyday and need guidance. He is now 17, meds free, doing well and involved in sports. I do reccommend a lot of sports activities that center around discipline (wrestling, martial arts, swimming, yoga, weight lifting) as it will help keep them focused and directed. Music is also a very calming aspect that mine seemed to like...guitar is a great outlet as is drums. Hope this helped...good luck. Oh the most important...show him everyday that you love him for just being himself...sometimes that is the hardest but most rewarding thing you can do for a child!

Krista - posted on 11/03/2009

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I agree with your first poster. Watch the diet! My brother in law was ADHD when he was a kid and their mother fed him all natural, meaning no processed sugars and ZERO preservatives. Weird as it seems, the preservatives were a huge issue. Other than that, keep him busy, sports clubs healthy friends etc etc. I know boys aren't always open for all sports, but gymnastics is a great one for energy burning!

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