My son has a trample fetish is it okay to help?

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Hi my name is Kayleigh I'm 38 and my son is 18 and has a trample fetish, I already know about this for a few weeks but I am still getting used to it, I used to notice my shoes not being like I left them and sometimes the soles were cleaned. So I began to suspect such thing and whore the pair of heels that had always cleaned soles to see his reactions and noticed he was starring at them, one time he even tried to take a picture with his phone, so I started talking about the fetish like I just saw an article about it and from one thing to another he admitted he had the fetish and that he fantasized about getting trampled and licking heels and feet etc.
I'm actually okay with that though I'm still getting used to it, so I stopped caring that he would pleasure himself and lick my shoes clean, I even started to let him "play" with my just worn shoes when I got home from work.

Either way it's been I few weeks and a few days ago he asked if he could actually lick my heels as I was wearing them on my feet, so I let him lick them for a few minutes and it felt so awkward and weird, he got really in to it and even kissed my foot, afterwards he laid down and asked me to trample him, but that's still to weird for me so I just put my feet on him for a while, stood up (still on him) and them got off him and walked away.
Now Im okay with his fetish and want to fully accept it, and the only reason I didn't refuse letting him lick my heels and then standing on him was because he looked very scared when he asked me very timid I know it's embarrassing and I didn't want to embarrass him more and make him think I do t accept it or so, he's a sensitive yet responsible boy and I really love him!
So I wanted to see if I can get any advice and ideas from other moms who have the same or a similar situation and relation with their son, I've already read that I'm not the only one ho has a boy with a foot fetish but am I the only one who actually helps him out by letting him worship my heels and stepping on him? Is it too much or can it be acceptable? I could really use some help

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Sarah - posted on 05/02/2016

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It's fine for you to accept his fetish and encourage him to practice safely and with proper hygiene. However when his sexual desires cross over into your life and the use of your belongings that IMO is way inappropriate nor acceptable. If he wants to be trampled, he can find a woman who is not his mother to "do the deed". Whether he washes them or not, your shoes should be off limits. Why he finds your shoes arousing is strange to me. He is 18, he can go find a pair or find a girlfriend who shares his proclivity for feet and shoes.
You would not stand in the room to watch your child masturbate, so why is it ok for you and your feet to be there? My son's would be horrified if I saw them masturbating. That he felt comfortable licking your shoes, while you were wearing them and actually kissed your foot tells me some boundaries have been crossed. Time to clear this up, set some rules and get him to keep his private life, private.

Dove - posted on 05/01/2016

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No, no, no, no, no. He needs to respect YOUR things and YOUR space. This is your child and there are boundaries between a parent and their child that should NEVER be crossed. Being comfortable enough w/ you to discuss his behaviors is one thing... sharing in those behaviors is another topic entirely and I strongly encourage you to both seek therapy immediately.

Dove - posted on 05/01/2016

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It's awkward because it is 100% inappropriate. You need to STOP it immediately and get you both some professional help. There are boundaries that should never be crossed w/ a parent and child and you are crossing those boundaries. This is the type of thing that turns your child on. You are his mother. Stop and seek help. Now.

If he has a foot fetish... let him buy his own heels. Engaging in these behaviors w/ his MOTHER'S shoes... is crossing the line. No one is exaggerating. This is serious business that you are not taking seriously.

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Wow you people can sure exaggerate, I'm not giving him foot jobs or telling him to get naked nor do I want him touching himself in front of me! I know he has his time with my heels, flats etc and I'm okay with that now, but now I see he's getting comfortable with me knowing that and I like that too becaus I don't want him to feel embarrassed or whatever, but I don't think he realizes it's still awkward and weird for me, btw I would never stand step or walk on my son with full weight even if he likes or wants it, that's too much, but letting him kiss and lick my heels or just puttin my feet on his stomach doesn't go too far I don't mind too much, but it's still awkward lik I said and I wanted to know how i can talk to him about it to co trip it and not get to comfortable or to used to it

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Dove - posted on 05/01/2016

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I'm not talking about therapy for his fetish. I'm talking about therapy for you crossing the line sexually w/ your child and the fact that either of you think that is ok on any level whatsoever.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/01/2016

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FFS. While a fetish may be normal, indulging in that fetish with a parent or child is most definitely NOT normal, and certainly DOES indicate a need for therapy and possible separation. This is sexual assault, and incest, which is illegal.

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There's no need for therapie, I know for a fact that a trample fetish is something more common than we think, and having a fetish is normal, just wanted to hear from somebody who's in a similair situation

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