My son has ADHD
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Guest - posted on 10/21/2014
What is your question?
I have ADHD and I work VERY hard and struggle every day to control my symptoms so that I can behave appropriately within society. It isn't easy, we need strong support systems to organize our minds and keep us on track, but I can assure you--he's having a harder time with his behavior than you are.
Guest - posted on 10/21/2014
I get you. I know it must be frustrating for the people who love us, especially our parents and spouses. We all need to vent sometimes and this is a great place to do it :)
It isn't so much that I forget what my husband tells me....I remember it, I just forget to take action. For example, I can know all day long that I need to pick up bread from the market on my way home--I will think about it AT LEAST 20 or 30 times that day--then I will drive right past the market and "remember" the bread after I'm home and I open the pantry door to cook dinner. I hate it. And I get so frustrated because ALL FREAKING DAY I was trying so hard to focus on work and kept getting distracted with the bread thought (and whatever other 50 things happen to be floating about in my head at any given moment) so not only did I manage to get squat done at work because I was distracted, but I forgot the &*^%$ bread too. All that effort--and it really is effort--for nothing. It makes me feel like such a complete failure.
That said, while I do feel like a failure often (at least once a day), therapy and supportive family have helped me to discover my strengths and develop strong support systems for myself based on what I'm good at, to sort of counter act what I suck at.
Maybe you can help your son by helping him figure out what he is great at, and using those skills to work around his weaknesses.
Sarah - posted on 10/21/2014
You gotta let it out sometimes and I certainly don't fault you for that. Maybe just preface your next post with "I need to vent" and then let it rip. We are not perfect parents, at least I am not. There are days I wonder what the heck am I doing? Or days that my kids drive me so frigging crazy, that If I don't let it out somewhere, I will take it out on them!
Hang in there!
My hubby has ADD and it's exhausting! It isn't his fault that he forgets things I have told him, and sometimes I feel like stabbing myself in the eye with a fork!
Yes, we have all sorts of methods and back-ups and planners and alerts etc. He's trying....but I am human too.
The - posted on 10/21/2014
Are you doing what a therapist says in order to insure that your son is getting what he needs in order to become well adjusted? Medication is not the total answer some of the medications can alter the way the mind works as well in an adverse way. I suggest seeing a therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist who deals with adhd patients. Preferably if you can find one that has adhd themselves that knows what the child is going through.
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