My son has no friends.

Crystal - posted on 01/20/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi. I have a son that is 14. 6 months ago we moved to Florida from Ohio. In Ohio he had a lot of friends, was always going out, or having someone come over. Since the move, he has not been able to find one friend. The other kids at school pick on him and call him ugly, worthless, etc. I do not understand why there is such a difference between here and there. It breaks my heart because he wants friends, and wants to go out. We are looking into volunteer work, in hopes that he can meet some people that way. His confidence is almost gone. He comes in his room and stays there if he is not at school. I believe that he is depressed. Please help. I am so heartbroken, and at a loss of what to do.

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Cecilia - posted on 02/01/2013

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That's great to know. Glad he's going to go hang out. Many times all you need is just one friend.

Crystal - posted on 02/01/2013

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I have been "coaching" him daily before school. I have had him talk to atleast one new person each day. He has a "play date" or whatever you call it when you are 14, this Saturday. He is going to go to another boys house. I am super excited about that. I hope that by him making one friend, that kid can introduce him to other boys and girls. He is also going to apply at the YMCA for volunteer work, not only to meet people, but for scholarship requirements. I hope that he is making a change for the better!

Cecilia - posted on 01/21/2013

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well i suggested youth group for that reason. He'll make friends from school. He'll find the nicer of the bunch and get in that way. Tell him to try it out for a few weeks and if he isn't getting along there then he can stop going. I know most cities run baseball leagues in the summer.

As far as your younger getting along fine, its the age. At 14 it is very hard to join into a pre-formed group at school. By then no one likes newcomers into their circle.

Crystal - posted on 01/21/2013

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I have suggested church and church groups, but he is afraid that the kids from school will be there and then he will not want to go back. We will be looking for volunteer opportunities outside of our town, in neighboring towns. I will look into the Red Cross. We have talked about sports, and he would like to join a baseball team outside of school. It is so strange, because my youngest, 9 years old, had friends with in two days, and has not looked back. Of course, I feel that this is my fault because we moved him. I know that popularity is not the most important thing at school, and I also know that these ARE NOT the best days of his life. I just hope that they are not going to end up being the worst. I pray for you in your move and the transition of your children!

Cecilia - posted on 01/20/2013

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First I'm sorry that your son has to deal with bullies. They are horrible!!

I don't know your religious preference but in high school i went to a christian youth group. I suggest this because although i've learned that adult Christians aren't always accepting people, as kids they are. Ours was on Thursdays and had many trips and lock-ins. He'll make friends and get out of the house.

Try getting into city run sports (different than school run)

Volunteer work is also a great idea for him. I know the red cross will allow 14 year olds to volunteer. They would be the ones handling the snack counter. Or getting into the blood drop costume and running around outside. I was thinking maybe a big brother program might be great for him also.

i found this website, i don't know where in florida you are though- http://www.volunteens.com/


This is my fear because we are moving out of state this summer. 2 kids in highschool and one in middle it's going to be rough to transition.

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