My son is 10 misbehaves but mainly lies!

Sarai - posted on 10/21/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

7

0

3

When my son is in school, its a nightmare. All hes worried about is socializing with other misbehaving kids, talks back to the teachers, doesnt do his homework/classwork, lies about everything. Even when confronted. Ive taken away tv, games, outtings, phone, music. But I have lost it and spanked him but still he remains the same. He was an honor roll student all these years and this school year has started so bad. I've tried asking him questions to figure things out but he just stares at me with no answer. Then at times writes me letters to make me feel guilty saying he doesnt deserve a mom like me, like im so wonderful and so on and promises to do better but doesnt. Im at my limit I cant handle him anymore! Its always something new everyday now.

4 Comments

View replies by

Gardensparrow - posted on 10/29/2014

134

0

1

Hi again Sarai~
Just saw your response and I'm so glad to hear things are improving with your son. That's so great! So, thanks for the update and I'm glad some of the info was helpful. Keep us posted!

gardensparrow
#girlluvs2garden#

Sarah - posted on 10/23/2014

10,637

0

26

If you moved to a new state, he is the "new kid" at school. That's tough for any age. Maybe the curriculum is too difficult for him and that's why he isn't doing his work. Kids do strange things when they are anxious and uncertain. I think a therapist is a great idea. I have mixed feelings about cutting him off from friends. If you isolate him from his peer group, it may work in the short term but I don't think it will last.

Sarai - posted on 10/23/2014

7

0

3

Thank you so much! Yes I met with his teachers and they said he had been talking back, coming late to class and not handing in work. But something happened, my husband decided to cut any friends he had from here on until he gets back on track. Yesterday was day 1, I even got a letter from his teacher na call from the principal at how great of a day he had and wanted to know what changed overnight. I'm crossing my fingers that this continues on a good path. We just moved to a new state 2 months ago so I don't know if the transition affected him. But he loves it here. The therapy sounds like a good idea. Thank you for your wonderful advice!

Gardensparrow - posted on 10/23/2014

134

0

1

Sorry things are so tough with your son right now. And I think it's good you've been trying to talk with him to figure out why there's been this sudden change in his behavior. Has there been any changes with things at home? If not, have you had a chance to talk with his teachers and get their perspective on why he's been acting this way? You might also think about going into his school and observing if that's possible. Lastly, if it really seems like your son has had a dramatic change in the way he's been acting lately and it's not just normal boy behavior, you might want to think about talking with a therapist. I'm sure they could help you get to the bottom of this and figure out how to best respond to your son. So, just some things to consider. Hope they help!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms