My son is 10 today he likes all girl clothing is it a problem?

Jenny - posted on 03/08/2015 ( 80 moms have responded )

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I bought him two packs of satin panties, 13 disney princess dresses, and 5 large pink ballerina/pageant tutu dress is that too much. He wants more girl clothes what should I do?

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Chana - posted on 03/11/2015

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I wasn't going to get into this debate because it hits a little close to my heart but after reading it for the last 2 days I really felt like I had to voice my opinion. First let me say no child, boy or girl, needs 13 princess dresses and 5 tutus and I agree with whoever said they couldn't name 13 princesses. I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and couldn't do that. I have 2 family members(my brother and my niece) that are openly gay/lesbian. I was raised a Christian and attend church faithfully. That being said I do not believe that being gay/lesbian is a choice, if you pay attention to half of the struggles and discrimination that a gay or lesbian person goes through who would chose that for themselves? I know this is going to sound like a contradiction and in a way it is but it is how I feel about it. I do not have to agree with what they do but I have to accept them as a person. You can't help who you fall in love with, I fell in love with the ex-husband of when of my sister's best friends. As mature adults we have to agree to disagree and accept people for who they are not their sexual preference. What you do in the privacy of your home is your business which leads me to this comment, Abby I (and a can probably speak for others) don't care what your husband needs taken care of, again your business.

Raye - posted on 03/11/2015

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Abby sounds like my mom. She isn't racist because she had black friends at work, but "just don't bring them home". Sorry, that's racist. She also is disgusted by seeing gay people showing affection for each other, even just holding hands. Now, I was at a public park where two women were practically having sex on the playground and I felt that was entirely inappropriate, but I would also have been offended if straight people were doing the things they were doing in front of children. Bad behavior is bad behavior regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.

I agree with Jodi, that sexual orientation and gender identity are separate things and are not a choice. One of my best friends that I've had for nearly 30 years is gay. I saw the struggles she had with trying to come to terms with being different. I have several other male and female friends that are gay, and I don't know one of them that would have chosen that because of the hardships they've encountered. One of my other friends is transgender (male to female). She had grown up as a boy, got married, had a kid, tried to do all the things that society said a male should do, but that's not who she was inside. Once she transitioned into a woman, she was still struggling because of sexual preference. I think she is bisexual, but she was concerned about others criticizing her if she showed interest in girls. She has moved away and not kept in touch, so I don't know if she's come to terms with her sexual preference.

I am not a religious person, but I do consider myself a spiritual and moral person. If I had to put a label on it, I would say I’m Agnostic. Although I think that the existence of God (or Gods) is extremely improbable, I can neither confirm nor deny His (their) existence, and it’s not my place to say that a big chunk of the world’s population is wrong. I do believe that there are forces at work that we don’t/can’t fully understand.

It’s difficult for me to narrow down something as monumental as a belief system. There are times that one doesn’t fully know what one believes until they’re faced with a certain situation that calls for that aspect to come to light. So, I feel that beliefs are fluid concepts, always evolving. I distrust people that are too rigid in their belief systems; that they don’t allow for personal/spiritual growth. They cling so tightly to the psychological security blanket of Faith that the wool is pulled over their eyes and they are unable to tolerate other ideas or be a completely functional part of humanity. And I feel the same about any fanatics, not just religious fanatics.

I know not every Christian is that way, but there are a lot of people that do bad things in the name of religion. They pick and choose verses from the Bible to support their twisted views, and they ignore the parts that directly relate to the judgments they pass. Yes, there may be passages in the bible that say a certain action is a sin. But it also says your personal judgment should be such that it causes you to recognize and understand that people are fallible. The bible says not to fear the sinner, only discern the right from the wrong and live your own life accordingly (each person is responsible for his own sins). It says that final judgment of sinners is reserved for leaders, appointed judges, the clergy, and ultimately God himself. And that’s even Old Testament, not to mention the repeated tolerance and compassion themes found in scriptures of the New Testament.

I’ve seen so much wrong committed by people that think they are absolved of their sins only because they go to church on Sunday. They don’t have repentant hearts. They don’t strive to live their lives following God/Jesus. And I don’t want to belong to such a group. It would feel dishonest to me to claim belief in God or Jesus - and to feign belief when I don’t feel it in my heart would be a sin also. So, I try to be honest and sincere, and live by my own standards of right and wrong. Many times people mix up the words ‘values’ and ‘beliefs.’ I can have values without religious beliefs. I try to be a lawful, responsible, caring, tolerant, moral person. And I don’t feel that I need guidance or strength from some mystical entity or threat of punishment in the afterlife to achieve that purpose.

I also don’t get offended when someone wants to say prayer before a meal or says “God Bless You” to me after a sneeze. They are wishing me well in their way, and I am grateful for their good intent. I’m not opposed to having a time of silent prayer or reflection in schools as long as it is open to all faiths to use that time in such a way that doesn’t infringe on the ways of others. If someone’s religious faith helps them cope with life’s struggles and be a better person, then that’s great. But, too many people are focused on how different or wrong everyone else is, when they should be respectful of differences, they should embrace diversity, welcome the learning potential of new ideas, and pay attention to keeping their own lives on track.

If people of faith could proselytize to others more as a personal disclosure (an act of love) than as a condemnation or conversion tactic (an act of ego), then it might lead to less negative reactions by the non-religious. When people approach faith as something which attacks love, attacks respect, in favor of obedience to the higher power, then I feel it strips the faith of any value. People of all beliefs should show respect and understanding. One can respect something without adopting that view. I wouldn’t attack or make fun of someone due to their beliefs, and I wouldn’t demand that they adopt my view as their own.

There is common ground in the values and goals of various religions and with non-religious people. There is the opportunity to be part of the change we wish to see in the world. It doesn’t mean that we need to compromise our beliefs. But we can create a dialogue with those who are different than ourselves, learn to understand others, and to live our lives in a respectful and loving manner maintaining our own moral integrity.

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2015

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I wasn't actually criticising WHO you are. I don't know you, I'd never do that. I am critical of your beliefs because you have chosen to voice an opinion based on zero education on the issues other than what you have been told or been brought up to believe.

You say you are open-minded, but then state that you won't read anything you have no interest in.....and yet you are more than happy to put up your opinion on that. To me, that is not being open-minded.

Welcoming gays people into your home is not a sign of open-mindedness. It is a sign that you have friends who are gay, but you have no interest in knowing more about their experiences and their true pain. Your knowledge and "open-mindedness" is superficial.

Here is how I know you are uneducated - Crossdressers are actually not necessarily gay, and gay people don't necessarily cross dress. To suggest that buying a child a tutu means he is gay is demonstrating ignorance of the actual issues. Gender identity and sexuality are actually very different things. If you don't understand the difference between these, as a functioning and so called "open-minded" adult in society, you really should understand the difference. Your absolute unwillingness to even understand this through a small amount of reading demonstrates you are not as open-minded as you'd like to believe you are.

Would I buy my son a tutu? I actually can't say. I've never had that predicament presented to me. I probably would buy one for him to dress up in at home.

My son DID ask for a baby doll when he was 4. I bought him a baby doll for his 4th birthday. No, he isn't homosexual. No, he isn't transgender. How do I know? Because he is grown and has a healthy HETEROSEXUAL relationship with his girlfriend.

My daughter also DID ask for a pirate outfit, a lego city police station, and wanted her hair chopped short (which we did). SO what! That doesn't mean she's gay. She also likes to wear dresses and wearing nail polish. Let's face it. The OP didn't say her son NEVER wears boy clothes, or won't play with boy toys.

Would I buy what the OP's son has asked for? No way. Even my daughter wouldn't get that. No child needs 13 princess dresses and 5 tutus. That's just ridiculous. But so is suggesting that a child who wants toys or clothes that SOCIETY says are for the opposite sex is gay (I don't recall the Bible making it clear that dolls were for girls, only girls could wear dresses, and so on). That is actually not an open-minded view at all, but an incredibly close-minded view.

But I am very glad to hear your gay friends are welcome in your home and to share your laughs. You have demonstrated how very hospitable you are.

Just for the record, I believe the OP is trolling, but I enjoy the debate on this issue, because actually, it IS close to my heart. So thank you for confirming why I still have to fight the good fight on behalf of those who don't choose who they love, but instead, love someone because that is what comes naturally to them based on the person they are and the person they were born as.....but that person they love just happens to be the same sex. We all deserve to be happy.

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2015

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"I was raised to believe".....So you actually haven't done your own research and are merely parroting bigoted perspectives. Do you not have a mind of your own? You cannot RAISE your child to be gay. You cannot RAISE your child to be attracted to a particular sex.

I never suggested you would buy him girls clothes, etc, but to SUGGEST that this leads to boys being gay, or that a certain upbringing makes a child gay demonstrates a lack of having educated yourself about sexuality.

" Born gay is an excuse not factual."

Please show me where this is fact. Oh, that's right, you can't because it ISN'T.

And please, by all means, share that with your gay friends. Of COURSE they had issues growing up - they all knew they were a little bit different but couldn't explain it, because they were BORN that way, but everyone around them tried to tell them there was just something wrong with them.

Am I offended? Absolutely. You have never even bothered to do your own research on the issue and yet pretend to be an authority because that's the way you were taught to think.

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Crystal, well since you're such a good Christian women then you must know how it is a sin to judge others. And how wearing clothing made of more than one fabric is a sin. The bible says it is a sin for a man to lie with another man the same way he'd lie with women. It does not state anywhere that it is a sin for a person to be attracted to someone of the same gender. That would be because you can't help whom you're attracted to. Being "gay" simply means being attracted to the same gender. Which isn't a sin. It becomes a sin when the two people have intercourse. The bible also says women are to serve there men and never talk back, they aren't allowed to know more than the man, they aren't allowed to act as a mans equal even. So did you make sure your husband allowed you to get on here and commit a sin (judging others)? If you are as much of a christian as you claim to be then you wouldn't be on here judgeing a little child. The Bible also says that he who turns their own away is worse than a non believer. Oh and make sure you're not following the new testament since the bible says to take from or add to the word of God is also a sin. And that's exactly what the new testament does.

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Jenny - posted on 04/25/2015

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I got him more of what he wants. And got two more years for American Girl Magazine subscription.

AKFn - posted on 03/13/2015

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I think you should sit down with him and ask him why he chooses to wear girls things. Than calmy and nicely explain to him how those clothes are meant for girls and he should try some boy stuff. Ask him his favorite characters and see if maybe he wants clothing with those characters. You don't want to hurt his feelings, he may be confused. Just try the best you can to explain he should be wearing boy things. Try to introduce him to things that are more geared towards a boy and see if that helps.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/13/2015

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This Abby person seems to not understand that part of her job as a parent IS researching topics that she may find distasteful, such as child molesters, etc, and the subject of sexual orientation. It scares me to think of how her children will be treated and viewed by her if they dare to come out (if one is gay, for example).

One cannot bury one's head in the sand about controversial topics and pray they go away.

Sarah - posted on 03/13/2015

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If we back up to the OP, it was a question about a child wanting to dress in girls costumes, Like many have pointed out this does not mean he is gay or even a transvestite. Maybe he just likes to feel pretty. The silk panties make me think troll.

If you chose to believe the Old Testament; we were all nude until Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit. Then they were ashamed and clothed themselves. God did not direct them how to dress. I am sure at the time they covered with whatever was available but my point is that God did not ever dictate the way a man should dress or that is should be different from the way a woman dresses. Society has done that; out of practicality and convenience, but not based on instruction from God.
Finally, Abby, you ask "If it's not wrong to be gay why are gays always hiding? Why can't they be open right away?" The answer is fear, just like a child who breaks a rule and does not want to be punished by his parents. While the climate for homosexual acceptance is slowly improving, not long ago gay people were ridiculed, assaulted or even murdered for just being themselves. If I thought I was going to get beat or tortured, I'd hide too.

Chana - posted on 03/13/2015

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Very true Michelle, it is kind of like trying to reason with a toddler - it doesn't happen! She is making it sound like all Christians should believe as she does. I personally do not because like I have said and others as well no one would choose to go through what a gay or lesbian person goes through. She says she is a Christian but seems very quick to pass judgment on others, not very Christian like. If you disagree with someone's lifestyle, chosen or not, it is not for you to condemn, They will receive their judgment at a later time by a higher power.

Michelle - posted on 03/13/2015

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There's no reasoning with someone who is closed to educating themselves, even on subjects they aren't really interested in.
It has been entertaining to see her arguing and arguing without really getting anywhere.

Jodi - posted on 03/13/2015

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Did she really just compare gay people to child molesters, murderers, rapists and gangs? And yet she wants us to consider hers an educated opinion? Please.......

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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You posted a whole bunch of questions....I thought you wanted an intelligent debate or discussion.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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Actually no I never said YOU were a troll, but the OP IS! I am simply replying to your questions.

This is what I was responding to about insulting others and name calling "You say I'm wrong for calling gay ppl sinful and I say your stupid for not knowing the difference between a penis and a vagina."

I have no judgement over you but I will certainly have a conversation/debate over this.

Abby - posted on 03/12/2015

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Never have I insulted this women who posted this topic. I even went on to saying she can do whatever it is she wishes to do with her son. However I will not sit here and allow a group of women judge me for my point of view. I've been called uneducated a joke a troll for my point of view. I also said I treat gay people like any other I just don't agree with their life decisions when it comes to their lovers. It will start with clothing and it'll grow into something worse . I have every right to tell this woman how I feel. Do I hate her child ? No I love children . But I do dislike you women for being so hypocritical... To hate me for who I am and my point of views to call me names and insult my religion...
With that this discussion is over. Don't mention me if you didn't like my original post . Your suppose to give her your own opinion and move along . Not try to tear me apart about my beliefs .

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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Hold on Abby....so much of what you said needs to be addressed. But name calling is not going to be tolerated.

First off, if someone thinks that just because someone likes to wear the opposite sex's cloths is gay, well that is where they need to understand the difference between being gay/lesbian, and being transvestite.

Why are LGBT always hiding? Not all of them are. But yes, many do due to judgment, and fear of the unknown. Fear of being shamed, beaten, hurt, threatened by people that have no tolerance. Being shunned by loved ones. Just because they are LGBT does not mean it is wrong, but it is certainly wrong the way people react. Not everyone is as accepting and open minded. Many people are short sited, and bigots.

If you don't understand why people of the same sex cannot reproduce, may I suggest a biology class?? Just basic stuff.

You cannot MAKE someone gay. They are born that way. Nor can you "pray the gay away".

You can think it is a sin, but it is not. If you truly believe God is almighty, then you will understand that God made people the way that they are for a reason, and it was intentional. For you to insist it is wrong, then you are insisting that God made a mistake. That you are putting your own judgments before God....that he/she is wrong for making LGBT. Are you willing to say that you know more than the God you pray to??

Abby - posted on 03/12/2015

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My thing is why ask the world if what your doing with your child is ok or not if your heart is convicted or your confused then thats where the truth lies. If it's not wrong to be gay why are gays always hiding? Why can't they be open right away? Being gay is like watching porn and being afraid to get caught. Why can't gays reproduce on their own if they Are meant to be gay? . If being gay is not a sin then why doesn't it make any damn sense? any human can love but to love the same sex to the point were ur having sex and getting married is madness. If the little boy wears girl clothes society will view him as gay . They will press on with the idea and soon he'll believe that he is . Or he's being influenced by others.. You had a son not a lil girl. I don't like it when people want to start casting stones over a topic that isn't worth the hassle . You say I'm wrong for calling gay ppl sinful and I say your stupid for not knowing the difference between a penis and a vagina.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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Sooo....looking through the OP's other posts....yeah pretty sure you are a troll. I still stand by everything I said, but I think you are very wrong for trying to create issues and debates on this site when you most likely don't even care about these very important, and very real topics.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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Raping and child molesting being compared to certain clothing likes and dislikes? How does one even think that those comparisons are alike in any way shape or form? They are not. Raping someone is NOT the equivalent to wearing women's panties, and dresses. Or boys playing with dolls, or girls playing with toy trucks. Perhaps molesting a child can be the same as a boy wearing pink? In what sick world can someone even justify that as a comparison?

Abby - posted on 03/12/2015

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Welcome - another one. Why you guys keep bringing up my name - I can't even focus at work. All because a little boy wants to wear dresses ? Ahahhahha what is going on here. All of you can sit their and pretend this is good but i won't join the club. I'm sure you guys wouldnt be defending child molesters this way or gangs. They too see no wrong in what they are doing, A rapest feels great about raping let's all rise and stand up for them as well. Ahahahaha. 😂😂😂😂. What in the world is wrong with you women of all ages and races . Open ur eyes and stop teaching innocent children what's wrong. If her son is gay I will blame his mother . Children wang juice but if he doesn't learn that juice all the time isn't good for the health he'lol have health problems down the road. Simple

Abby - posted on 03/12/2015

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I'm not like your mother. I talk to gays comfortably - to me they are sinning but they aren't different from me . We all sin. My gay friends love me because I'm honest. Never have I ever tried to change them or force my opinions on them , we agree to disagree and continue our friendships. One thing I know is a gay would never ask me what they should dress their son - gay people aren't stupid or blind to sex. They know what they are and what they are trying to become. IF they can't create another human they are going against the grains. No shouldn't have to feel sorry for gays - it's clear they are human just like me. What you choose to do with your life is your problem . Doesn't make it right.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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Abby, you think it is sinful that her son wants to wear cloths? Ok, so be it.

As far as clothing style....well quite frankly "girl" cloths and "boy" cloths are assigned by fashion and media, not by God.

Anyway, I am proud of you Jenny for being so open minded and help your son explore his options. Even having an open mind, and being supportive of your son, still comes with the heavy burden of seeing your child suffer....whether it be the difficult time he has and will have understanding why he likes girl cloths, to friends being less than friendly about it. I think it takes a strong parent to do what you are doing.

BUT I do have to say, I hope this is not a troll post to start a fight.

Abby - posted on 03/12/2015

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I'm glad you've enjoyed my responses. I love to make people laugh.
I too view your point of view funny. But what can we say we are all humans with different opinions

Abby - posted on 03/12/2015

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Good for you. At the end of the day he's your son. If you which to dress him like a girl that's your business.. I have no interest to learn about something I view as a sin just like I would waste time studying about child abusers or murders..

Sarah - posted on 03/11/2015

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Good Heavens, I had a rough day at work yesterday and did paperwork all evening and missed the "fun?".
As a Christian woman, and a scientist I have no doubt the your sexual orientation is part of who you are from the beginning. I think the other others have done a fine job of representing the truth.
Abby, I am sad that you would turn away from learning about something simply because you are not interested? You say you'd open your home to gay person but never agree. Agree with what? That they are gay, that they were born gay or that they were "turned" gay?
Chana, you make a good point when you say if homosexuality were a choice, who would choose it? I see kids at school that are so heavily burdened by the secrets they carry out of fear of coming out. If there was a choice, they'd choose the path of least turmoil and pain.
It is a good debate, one that will continue no doubt for many years.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/11/2015

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Abby, Abby, Abby, your position is laughable at best, and ridiculous at most.

UPBRINGING doesn't create sexual orientation, my dear, misguided 'christian' woman!

Educate yourself. And pray that your son isn't gay, because I feel that you'd ostracize him rather than show him the love he deserves.

Michelle - posted on 03/11/2015

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Jodi has said everything so well. Especially about cross dressers not being gay and gay's not being cross dressers.

Abby - posted on 03/11/2015

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Any advice on getting pregnant? That truly the only reason why I joined this thing.

Abby - posted on 03/11/2015

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I'm very open minded. I'm 36. I don't feel bad for who I am. I know I'd welcome a gay into my home and share laughs but I'd never agree .. That's what grown ups do agree to disagree and move on. I don't have the desire to study any of it. I never have never will. It's not in my interest. She asked if she went overboard buying her son a freaking tutu and I think she just might of lost her damn mind Hahahha .. Of course you don't buy ur son a damn tutu u get him a truck if he's gay he can be gay with a toy truck. No need for her to support his odd desires . They are indeed very odd thats why she felt uneasy and asked the question ... He's no longer a cute he's a boy a lil developing man who's highly confused... Can we end this discussion? I believe my husband has a woody I need to attend to 😝

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2015

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I can tell. Not funny, though. Quite sad. To believe that people who are gay are made that way or have a choice is sad. Especially when the evidence is out there and you just choose to remain ignorant. How open minded of you.

Can I ask how old you are?

Abby - posted on 03/11/2015

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Are you done. I'm not offend I just don't care for your point of view just like you don't care for mine . Silly

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2015

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"I don't read stuff I have no interest in."

So don't offer your opinion as fact then. And don't be offended if others ask you to educate yourself. Just accept you are uneducated about an issue you are trying to offer as opinion and that you have no interest in actual facts.

The Bible is not FACT. It is opinion. There is no research that supports the claims about homosexuality in the Bible.

How you were raised is not FACT. It is opinion.

Science is based on reproducible and empirical evidence, not opinion.

Michelle - posted on 03/11/2015

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I'm not bullying, just stating facts.
And I'm not your Hun, that's what my husband calls me, not another woman.

Michelle - posted on 03/11/2015

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You don't have to keep replying in another person's thread if you don't want to.

Michelle - posted on 03/11/2015

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You were the one that posted this: "if your child becomes gay it's based off on his upbringing, gay isn't in DNA."
That statement is incorrect. We are just saying do your research before you post things as if they are fact.
I brought religion into it because it's religions that tell people it's wrong and you can "re-program" people into not being gay. They also say it's to do with upbringing and not how people are born, just like you.

Abby - posted on 03/11/2015

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I don't read stuff I have no interest in. Just a list of excuses to justify ones flaws. Because so and so said so it's all of sudden ok .

Abby - posted on 03/11/2015

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Are you done as well? So science is correct but Christianity isn't?? Your right I'm wrong? But if I dare believe I'm right then I'm wrong? Because humans didn't come up with science .. Science for some reason is fact because science is science correct? I said a boy is a boy and a girl is a girl not once did I mention religion.

Michelle - posted on 03/11/2015

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No, you are wrong Abby. "Being Gay" ISN'T upbringing, it is the way you are born. The issues that your friends have probably had would be because everyone has been telling them that being gay is wrong.
I have 3 Aunts that were all brought up the same, by the same parents (very anti-gay Father) and 2 of them are gay. You can't tell me upbringing has anything to do with "becoming" gay.
Like Jodi said, do your research but not on Christian sites, go to the scientific sites.

Abby - posted on 03/11/2015

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Ok? Are you offended? If so my response was for someone else. I was raised to believe that opposite sex attract and create others. I will teach my son to behave like a son and grow into a man who likes opposite sex . If my child at any point of his life decides to not like the opposite that's his own decision but I will never fancy the idea by buying him skirts and painting his lips orange and pink .. It'll only confuse him and in someways make him think it's ok to want to be a sex that he's clearly not. If he has a penis dress him like a boy buy him boy toys and allow his father to lead him down the right path ...just speak truth into the boy... If it looks like a duck quacks like a duck then that my child is a damn duck . Born gay is an excuse not factual. No need to sit hours on end busting my head on what's clearly not right. Do I hate gays nooooo I have gay friends who all admit they had some issues growing up . Period.

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2015

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And upbringing has nothing to do with anyone becoming gay either. You are probably also one of those people who thinks boys who play with dolls end up gay too. As I said, get yourself educated. Read some ACTUAL research.

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Jodi - please find a different tree to bark at. I'm not here to argue with anyone. I clearly said upbringing didn't limit it necessarily to clothing.

Jodi - posted on 03/11/2015

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Oh, for goodness sake, Abby, a person doesn't "become gay" because of how they dress. How absurd!!! Get an education!

Abby - posted on 03/10/2015

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You have a son .. Dress him like one. A child will behave like a child he doesn't know any better ... If your son wanted to jump off a cliff would you let him because he wanted to??? If your son wanted to ride an older siblings bike would you allow him to??? Pink isn't a girl color red isn't a girls color but girls are more likely to like the color ... If your son likes pink or red then simply get him pink or red clothing from the boy section .. I wouldnt go buy him a skirt. It's just wrong upbringing .if your child becomes gay it's based off on his upbringing, gay isn't in DNA.

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Hi Jenny!
While I applaud your willingness to be supportive, I also think it is equally important to
avoid sending mixed signals as your son is still developing emotionally. To reinforce his
transgender tendencies to the extent that you have might confuse him more than he already is. As a young child about your son's age, I experimented with trying my mother's panties on in secret more out of curiosity than anything else and to explore my newly developed interest in the ways of the opposite sex and sex in general.
I have written at length about this in a related article on this site (13 Year Old Son Wearing my Panties - Again). This might give you some added insight. Do keep in mind
that our societal views on the subject of transgender people has changed dramatically
in recent years compared to when I was a child years ago. In my case, it was mostly
a mild panty fetish more than any gender identification or sexual preference issues.
It is hard to say how each of our personalities develop be it biological, environmental
etc. In your son's case I think it would be advisable for the two of you to look into professional counseling. No matter, love him unconditionally and continue to support him.
Good Luck!

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