My son is 13. He has been invited to go away for a few days with good friend. He is a worrier and is thinking about not going. I am very worried about huis friends teasing him and how this will hurt his ability to make friends. Should I make him go.? I like the parents they are great people. Help

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i doubt that it will have any effect on his ability to make friends. whether he goes out with people or not, if he's just not a people person then it won't work. i was the same way, and i hardly ever went out with friends until i was much older and in high school. nobody cared that i didn't go out much, they were too busy with their own friends to bother with me, and that was the way i liked it. but there's nothing wrong with being a loner as long as you can still communicate with others.

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i'd encourage him to go, but it depends on what kind of trip it is and if he really IS friends with the other kid. there are plenty of instances where the parents get along but the children do not. if he has good reason for not wanting to go, don't force him.

Christy - posted on 01/25/2012

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Also, if he decides not to go, have a list of things you need him to do around the house while he stays at home. That might motivate him to go!!!!!!!!!!

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/25/2012

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I would also encourage him. Talk about how exciting it will be and all the fun stuff they will do. However, I would not "make" him go, he should get to choose. I would just try to make it fun and I would talk with him to see what he is worrying about, help him understand himself what those things are, perhaps you can guide him to go.. ;)

Christy - posted on 01/25/2012

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I would encourage him to go. I was also scared of everything at that age and as a result really isolated myself from my peers. My mom seemed to encourage my behavior so that didn't help at all. Why is he worrying about going?

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