My son is 14 moths and still walking assisted?

Noilyn - posted on 06/22/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Im very paranoid to let him go by himself because I don't want him to fall and get hurt on our hard terrazo floors. I keep him in play pen when I can't walk around with him, because I can't do that all day long. But I feel bad for him like I cave created a little cage for him to protect him. I don't know what to do, I feel frustrated but I can't let him go. I just can't. Any advice? :(

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Noilyn - posted on 06/24/2011

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hank you all ladies for your comments and advice. So I agree with, some are too extreme. I have been letting him a bit. I stay in the same room. I can tell you he is happy :) having a great all time. My nerves are chattered, however but I'm trying my best. After all, it is about him not me. He got a bruised eye today because my older son was holding him and then suddenly let him go so he went down face first on a toy that was on the floor :((( I've bee going around babyproofing aswell. I think Im gonna buy those foam mats with letters on them that they sell at k-mart and sears and set it up on the main larger areas to help.
I like the idea of the helmet ;)

Elfrieda - posted on 06/23/2011

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Noilyn, I understand exactly. I live in a house that has concrete floors with acid etching for a finish, so they are HARD. It's really sad to watch the bumps and bruises, but you've got to let him do it. Just make sure that he's either barefoot or in shoes. (no socks, too slippery) If you want to give your little guy some extra support, get one of those pushtoys. My son zoomed around with that thing from 12 months to 15 months (when I put it away) I had the FisherPrice letter carrier one, and it was a good one.

Dodie - posted on 06/23/2011

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Oh! Ladies, I Just thought about something funny that my youngest did when she was only about 18 months old! I couldn't figure out why the tops of her feet were always scraped up &/or her socks were showing up with blood on the tops of them. She had been walking for awhile by then, so I just couldn't figure it out!!?
Well, I decided to ask her sister to watch one day & she came in to tell me that Melodie was using the tops of her toes & feet to stop herself going downhill on her ride-on toy!! She never complained about it hurting or anything! She was such a funny little thing!
Anyway, Noilyn, the reason I am telling you this is to reinforce that you have to let them go their own way in order for them to learn!
My step-mom--well, I was 23 when she married my Dad--was a sweetheart. However, she would never let or make my half-brother, Tony, do/eat/say anything he didn't want to! He was of genious level IQ--in the 160's!! like my Dad & me!--but he never even finished High School! She didn't care, because she didn't want him to "leave the nest". He was the only child she had & wasn't about to give him up to anything or anyone!!
So, be careful how much "protection" you give your Little Guy! I'm not saying you are doing it for the same reasons as my step-mom did with her son, or anything like that! What I'm saying is that he will get the impression over time that you will do or say anything to "protect" him! Like lie for him if he doesn't do what he is supposed to at school/home assignments, & stuff like that.
GIVE HIM SOME SPACE TO FALL DOWN & SHOW YOU AND HIMSELF THAT HE IS CAPABLE OF GETTING BACK UP & TRYING AGAIN!!
God Bless...Dodie/Nana
PS. If anyone is wondering, I use all caps for stress because you can't hear me, so don't really know what I am saying that is REALLY IMPORTANT!!...chuckle-chuckle!!

Yvonne - posted on 06/23/2011

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Let him go he is learing how to walk and wheather you have cement floors or carpet or hard wood or what ever babies learning how to walk will fall thats normal they will get bumps on the head and bruises thats NORMAL let him go its OK

Bec - posted on 06/23/2011

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drivers licence and legal to drink is feaky not bit of a bump crawling and walking about the house!!

Bec - posted on 06/23/2011

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I reckon buy a big carpet or rug put a coffee table in the middle of it and let him go walkies.Just think some kids head butt for either attention or special needs and you aould be amazed at how resiliant they are. I don't mean that to be sounding blahzee but you have to let go as it will bread frustration and possably then lead to aggression and your child has to learn his or her world wait till they get a licence LOL!!!

Bethany - posted on 06/23/2011

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I completely agree with Dodie, you have to let him go, if he falls, he falls that only make a big deal out of it if you do. My son learnt to walk by pushing his pram up and down a steep concrete driveway and the worst he got was a few grazes on his knees. I would also suggest a walker for him to push around, it will help you both with the confidence of him walking.

Dodie - posted on 06/23/2011

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First of all, Noilyn, There is nothing wrong with a baby who doesn't walk at 14 months. Second: You have to STOP BEING WORRIED ABOUT HIM!!! Your Little Baby Boy picks up on every nuance of emotion that you have. You may think that you're hiding it well, but you're not! I have had many children pass through my house in the past 40 years, & I never "kid-proofed" for any of them, including the newest grandchildren who will be 2 & 3 years old next month. If you have something especially dangerous, like cleaning materials, etc., teach them not to go in to those cupboards! Other than that, unless it is a really "Prized Possession" that you don't want him to break, just teach him gently what he can & cannot touch--I'm assuming here that you are a stay-at-home Mom? Both of you will learn to respect each other's space more!
It is not too late to enlarge that "cave" you have put him in! It's OK to have him in a play pen if you are out of the room for a short time, or are washing floors, etc. I had the Walkers-with-wheels, like the sit-and-play things they have now. However, no matter how much it scares you, don't leave him in there! Just imagine if, every day your Mom had put you in a kennel--I call them cages because that's what they are & that is what a Play pen can feel like--& then left you to do her gardening or her shopping! Of course, you wouldn't get into trouble, but you would feel "caged", right? Also, have you gotten him a "walker"? They convert to ride-on-cars later, but he would be able to "walk" while pushing it now. It is a safe way for him to learn, &, try to remember: HE DOESN'T HAVE VERY FAR TO FALL!! He's only a Little Guy, so when he falls, it's like you falling when you are kneeling down! He isn't made out of porcelain or glass, either, so he won't break!!
It's hard to see your Baby fall &/or cry, especially when it's your First Child. Having said that, though, it is important that you not treat him like a raw egg, either! While I sympathize with you, I have to say that you are not doing him any favours:( So, let him go, already!
God Bless, Little Mother...Dodie/Nana

Betsy - posted on 06/22/2011

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allow your child to explore, keep your house childproof. block any open stairway and just keep an eye on them. My great grand father was a doctor and he had a great saying -this applies to feeding your child, but the same goes for keeping an eye on your child as well- for those that prop a bottle for their baby ' if you can't feed your child by holding them in your arms then you don't have time to be a mother' (maybe not the exact quote-its been a long time- but i think you get the purpose. So if your child is exploring and walking let them be, but if you need to clean the house or something and they are okay in play pen for a little while thats okay too- just remember how long they have been on this earth and give them the time to have fun -walking is also great exercise and wears them out a bit. I hope this is helpful and in no way am i intending you or anyone else is not a great mom. We all get exhausted, but its part of the job.

Louise - posted on 06/22/2011

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If you are really concerned then buy him a helmet until he is more stable. I hear what you are saying but if you watch a baby fall they tend to full either flat on there tummies or back onto their butts. Try and give him freedom as much as you can. Take him in the garden onto the grass and let him practice his walking and falling skills.

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You have to let him go. He needs to learn to walk and be independent. You're not always going to be there to catch him. :) If the floor is a slippery type surface let him go barefoot for better traction or slippers with some kind of rough texture. He'll be fine, and you'll probably be feeling better having your arms to yourself a little bit. And yes, he may get a boo boo, but that's what kisses are for. He'll be back up and running before you know it.

Sherri - posted on 06/22/2011

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Buy those foam kids mats that attach together or purchase a cheapy rug for the time being to soften the blow.

Noilyn - posted on 06/22/2011

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terrazo is pretty much cement floor with a finish. it's rock solid. and my little guy is very unstable. He fell once and boy is no fun. Their little heads are so tender and I want to protect him. I've thought of buying the foam they put under carpeting and filling up at least the livingroom space but then I have to figure out how to keep him in the area. SO it's hard. I have a 7 year old boy too but when he learned to walk we had carpeting in the house we lived so we was all over the place.

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I didn't misunderstand... just didn't respond quite correctly. Sorry about that.

What is terrazo? The good thing about unstable, walking toddlers is that they aren't that far from the ground when they fall. ;)

Noilyn - posted on 06/22/2011

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You might have missunderstood my post a bit. We walk and play around the house a lot; of course I don't get anything done and my house is up-side down all the time. but I am right there next to him. If I have to do something I either take him with me or put him in play pen. How do I babyproof a terrazo floor? I faint to the thought of him hitting his head on that hard floor. I just can't wait for him to walk on hhis own without falling every other step. It's frustrating to me.

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You won't let your toddler walk around in his own house? Really?

Babyproof things the best you can and then just watch him. Yeah, he might get hurt a little, but that's WAY better than having your life stifled by being kept in a cage all the time.

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