My son is 16 and doesnt want to live with me

Lori - posted on 07/17/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son has lived with his father for most of his llife. His father has had a heart attack and now im left with try to pick up the piece. He lives in Madison and i live in Greenville he refuses to live with me. He is living with his dads girlfriend of only about 8 months. She doesnt want him living their anymore and he want to live with a friend in Madison. Im not sure what to do? He says he will be arrested if i try to make him live with me.He doesnt like anyone telling him he cant do something. My heart is broke ! Can someone please help me?

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Apryl - posted on 07/18/2016

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I moved out on my own at 16, my parents were dysfunctional and I literally had to find my own way. I got a job and support myself. At 16, he has to choose what path he wants to go down.

Apryl - posted on 07/18/2016

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If he doesn't want to live with you and you force him anyway, he may rebel or leave on his own. In a short time, he'll be 18 and at that point you will have NO legal say over where he lives. Good luck!

Lisa - posted on 07/18/2016

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I am sorry your heart is broken. I know this can be hard. Has the girlfriend spoken with him? Who is the friend in Madison, is it a stable environment? Are the parents of the friend involved? There are quite a few options, but sometimes we have to slow down and process and evaluate. Can you work on the relationship? Maybe let your son know that you want the best for him, and what is in his best interest. Right now, you need to be able to trust him and to work through the logistics of where he is going to live. If he doesn't have hope that life will work out, he may carry through on his threat and that will not help anyone. Maybe family counseling? I am sorry for your struggles. You can speak with a licensed counselor at this number 855-382-5433 (Focus on the Family) they will be able to help you think through your next steps. Hugs mama!

Leslie - posted on 07/18/2016

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I'm in agreement with Ev Witt. He's a minor and you still have a say. You are the parent and he's the child. He may think he's grown but if you lay reality out for him than he will come around. Let him know you love him and you are doing the best for him.

Ev - posted on 07/18/2016

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Chasity--
This boy would have to prove to the courts he is able to take care of himself and hold a job and pay his bills.

Chasity - posted on 07/18/2016

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He can legally become emancipated at 16. Which means you wouldn't legally be responsible for where he lives, his schooling, or any legal matters.

Plus, some judges will consider a 16 year olds request if they don't want to live with a parent. They do have rights too.

Ev - posted on 07/18/2016

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He is a minor and he has to live somewhere and a girlfriend is not a legal guardian or legally responsible for him. You need to step up and be a parent and tell him he has no other choices at the moment and has to live with you. His friends parents could not legally sign for anything for him for permission for doctors, school things, and other legal matters.

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