My son is 18 months old and when he throws a tantrum he goes blue in his face and passes out what can i do to stop this?

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Niki - posted on 08/16/2012

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hi my little girl is the exact same except she doesnt turn blue she just goes grey, shes just started doing this and its realy scary but i took her to hospital and they told me theres nothing they can do because she is doing it to her self and that when she passes out she will always start breathing again, this made me feel a bit better but im still terrifed.

Kara - posted on 01/11/2009

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OMG,



This must have terrified you. I have seen a doctor about this as both my children have done the same thing while having a fit. There is an actual term for this, I cannot recall what the doctor called it because it was in french. The doctor told me to not worry and that eventually my baby would grow out of it. This was true for both of my children. I think it stopped for both of them before the age of two some time.

Janis - posted on 01/11/2009

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Hi Ulandi!



My name is Janis and when i was young my Mom told me i used to do this. The only thing that she said worked was to put my head under freezing cold water and it would shock me back into reality. She would run the cold water on the kitchen sink tap and just stick my head under until i stopped and it was usually very effective very quickly. So if you want to give it a try, hopefully it will work for you. Take Care and good luck



Janis

Kristie - posted on 01/11/2009

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I worked in childcare for 7yrs and had a few kids like this, it is very common. I found that blowing in their face makes them take a breath. It works really well for young kids. Although it doesnt cure the tantrums it will make him take a breath. Goodluck.

Penny - posted on 01/10/2009

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I used to do this to my mom and dad and the doctor told them to put me in a cold shower, they only had to do it like twice before I stopped doing it. Just remember don't put them face first or make sure they have their head down so they don't suck in water when they breather.

Kimberly - posted on 01/10/2009

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Have you taken him to a docotor? This is not normal. If that doctor says it is fine, it is not, go to another. Have them check your son for any heart problems in case there is something there that is wrong. Babies throw tantrums, but I have never seen one turn blue and pass out - unless he is holding his breath for a long time, and if that is the case you have a very stubborn child!

Rebecca - posted on 01/10/2009

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Hello my son was the same and we took him to a specialist. There is nothing to worry about, as it is just attention seeking. So if you can ignore it, i know it is hard but please try. My son is now 8 and only does it if he has been hurt extremely bad.

Evelyn - posted on 01/10/2009

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hi that is about the age my son was when he started throwing fits too,but we figgered out that it was every time he ate something with artafile food dye,red is the worst one but yellow also can be hard for him to handly .I would try to take red dye out of the diet and see what happens.IT IS NOT EASY !!,I know reading all food labels

Louise - posted on 01/10/2009

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Hi,my little boy who is five and a half used to do this when he was a toddler,used to scare me so much,he passed out in my arms once,the doctor checked him and he was fine,he said it is quite common and he will grow out of it as he gets older,which helped to hear that,he has done it the odd time now but not near as bad,hope this helps,its not nice seeing your child like this 

Louise - posted on 01/10/2009

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Hi,my little boy who is five and a half used to do this when he was a toddler,used to scare me so much,he passed out in my arms once,the doctor checked him and he was fine,he said it is quite common and he will grow out of it as he gets older,which helped to hear that,he has done it the odd time now but not near as bad,hope this helps,its not nice seeing your child like this 

Jessica - posted on 01/10/2009

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What a terrible thing!
I am so sorry that you have to work through this.
I would have a conversation with him and explain that you are not going to pay any attention to him when he acts like that (when he is calm and nothing has happened). Then, if he does throw a tantrum, completely ignore him - NOTHING. Just make sure that he's not in danger of hurting himself physically.
Praise him when he does appropriately express frustration or anger and that you are listening when he does so that he doesn't feel that more is necessary. Some children's books about dealing with frustration or anger might be helpful too.
Good luck!

Tamara - posted on 01/10/2009

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yeah i would say the best thing to do would be to leave the room and completely ignore this behaviour. he will soon stop when he realises that you arn't bothered by it

Debbie - posted on 01/09/2009

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my Daughter was the same it freaked me out!! i was told my daughter had me wrapped around her little finger and that it was time to put my foot down!! I was also told that when they do pass out there body will automatically take over and start breathing!! Crying will not kill a baby!! hope this helps it helped me!!

Heidi - posted on 01/09/2009

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Nothing.  My oldest son used to do that and I would get all bent out of shape.  Now that I have two additional children when my oldest throws a tandtrum I let him do it.  You can't stop your son from holding his breath and passing out.  He will be fin.  He is doing it to seek your attention.  Once you stop bending to his will, he will stop the blue face and passing out.  I make sure my son is safe when he has a fit...either in his crib or on the floor with nothing that he could hurt himself on.  When he is finished I kiss/hug him tell him I love him and that I'm there for him.  i don't give in to what he wanted at the time of the fit though.  He has learned that even by throwing a tantrum, he isn't going to get what he was after.  I hope this helps...Good Luck!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2009

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He's holding his breath.  It's scary, but he'll grow out of it. Passing out actually resets his body again and he'll start breathing again.

Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2009

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He's holding his breath.  It's scary, but he'll grow out of it. Passing out actually resets his body again and he'll start breathing again.

Carolyn - posted on 01/09/2009

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Tough love my dear, he's just trying to get your attention and he's winning!!!  The sooner you don't give in the sooner he will quit.  When he does this just make sure he's in a safe place, through his fit pass-out then you act like What-ever don't even patronize him with a comment when he does it.  However, do Reward him when he gets your attention in a more appropriate manner or asks politely.  Remember you are the boss not him, it's your way not his.  Good luck!!!



 

Kristin - posted on 01/09/2009

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When he passes out, he stops his tantrums.  Also he will start breathing again.  They do this all for attention. 



If you ignore it, eventually he will stop.  Good luck.  I sometimes wish mine would hold his breath and pass out.  The constant kicking and yelling mommy drives me nuts.  But, I have to ignore it.

Ulandi - posted on 01/09/2009

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Thank you to all for advice, if i read everything you guys say it boils down to ignoring it, which is so hard to see your child in that way, but i must confess my son is very clever at manipulating and me freaking out everytime he throws his tantrum does not help and he probably caught on that his tantrums are working and just keeps doing it. Funny these kids of ours, way too clever HEE HEE

Susan - posted on 01/08/2009

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I did this as a child. My grandfather cured me (or so I am told). The best option is to ignore the behavor. He is in no real danger unless he is having the tantrum in a dangerous location like a parking lot. Once he passes out he will begin breathing again, so you just have to ignore him. He will eventually figure it out that he is not getting the attention he wanted from this and try something new.

Samantha - posted on 01/08/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

Hi my 1st daughter used to do exact same thing, she would completely pass out and looked like she had passed away, my Doctor told me to frighten her as soon as she started to hold her breath by flicking water in her face, I hated having to do that but it worked. She grew out of it by the age of 4...hope this helps you and good luck and take care xx



hi my son used to do it especially wen he hurt himself the gp said he is stopping the pain and that he grow out of it he did at the age of 3.. best of luck xx

Lisa - posted on 01/08/2009

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Hi my 1st daughter used to do exact same thing, she would completely pass out and looked like she had passed away, my Doctor told me to frighten her as soon as she started to hold her breath by flicking water in her face, I hated having to do that but it worked. She grew out of it by the age of 4...hope this helps you and good luck and take care xx

Nicole - posted on 01/08/2009

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My son used to do this all the time.  So I asked my son's doctor and she said that he will outgrow it, but when he does it, put him in a safe place and let him go.  She said that if I picked him up that I was allowing the behavior and so I needed to ignore the behavior.  As soon as he passed out he would start breathing.  He is now 3 1/2 yrs and rarely does it.  The only time I notice him doing it now is if he has hurt himself really bad or if he is extremely tired.

Sherry - posted on 01/08/2009

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That's almost funny. I'd ignore him. Or, tell him he can always go to the doctor and get a shot for that problem.

Louise - posted on 01/08/2009

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Do nothing! I did it as a kid and so did my 3 year old. The more attention you pay to them the more they'll do it. If they do pass out just blow in they're face a few times and they'll wake right up and then go on with your normal activity.

Lori - posted on 01/08/2009

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i agree with karen a s well. I put my daughter in a room or area where she is least likely to get hurt and walk away... she is strting to get the hint and her tantrums are becoming less frequent

Rebecca - posted on 01/08/2009

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My daughter has done this since she was three days old. And my mother-in-law tells me that my husband and brother in-law did the same thing. I don't think that it is all an attention seeking thing, not for all children. For my daughter, as she got older it would only happen when she would hurt herself. When she was younger I would hold onto her until she regained her breath. But as she has gotten older, she is 2 1/2 now, I just let her lay on the ground. If you see it happening always make sure that they are away from anything that they can hit their head on. I did talk to my doctor about it and he just advised me that it is something that some children need to grow out of. I have to say that the episodes are less frequent now. It will get better!

Joanna - posted on 01/08/2009

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Hi Ulandi, I've have no experiance of this myself but I have read about it. From what I have read it's alarming to the Mum but doesn't do the child any harm. The lack of oxygen to the brain is re-establish the moment the child passes out so no damage to the brain is done.



The advice that was given in the article was to ignore it. In many cases the child is encourage to do it because of the attention he gets when it happens.  After one or two further episodes of not getting any attention they no longer go down that route.

It must be so difficult to ignore it! How awful for you.

I'm not a medical profesional just a Mum who has done loads of reading :)

I wish you lots of luck.



Have you spoken to his doctor, What has the Doc said about your son doing it?



Joanna

Karen - posted on 01/08/2009

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My little brother used to do the same thing, all the while my mum would be freaking out, yelling at him and shaking him trying to make him stop. All it did was make it worse - attention seeking. Ignore it! As long as he doesn't do it in a dangerous place leave him to pass out. His self preservation mechanism will kick in and he will start breathing again. He will soon learn that it won't work in getting your attention. It worked for my little brother.

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