My son is 18mo old and no longer sleeps through the night...

Shannon - posted on 10/30/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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If anybody...and I mean ANYBODY can help me with this, I would be forever grateful! My son was sleeping 12hrs a night, until his older sisters went back to school in early September. Now, he his up anywhere from 1-10 times a night. The pediatrician has tried melatonin, alone and along with some other medications to help him sleep. He still wakes up!! I am literally living on an hour of sleep a day because I'm up with him constantly!! If anybody has any suggestions on how to get him back to sleeping all night, please tell me! At this point, I'm willing to try whatever works!!

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Angela - posted on 11/26/2010

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I have 3 kids and went through the same thing with all of them. If you keep going into the room at night and speak to him, he will never stop. Honestly, the only thing that will work is not letting them sleep alot in the daytime. One nap of 2 hours max. At night, if he wakes up, when you go into the room, do not talk to him. Just see what is wrong and go back to bed. When he hears your voice, he thinks it is time to play. He may be young, but he is not stupid. He is at the age where he is going to test you with everything he can to see what he can get away with. It is time for you to show him that he needs to do what is expected of him. This may sound mean, but it works. I learned to do this from the Parenting magazine. As soon as I started it with my first one and seen teh results, I was hooked.

Heather - posted on 11/25/2010

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My 4 1/2 yr old daughter did that very exact thing at the same age it was horrible , my husband i suffered with 2 3 hrs a sleep a night for a year before the doctors were able to find something that worked. Our daughter was diagnosed with spd (sensory processing disorded) Her little brain was going a 100 miles a minute and just couldnt relax. we had to have our pediatrician refer us to a pysciatrist and an from there an occupational therapist she has tried many different meds and we have found that for her sleep issues trazadone has worked wonderfully. I am not saying that is the case with your little one but as soon as i saw that your dr has already perscribed melatonin all my memories of our struggles came flooding back. I dont know if you were aware that melatonin only helps you to go to sleep it dosent keep you asleep, that was our problem with our daughter and looking back things went from bad to worse before they got better if you would like to talk about this more please feel free to contact me .

Katrina - posted on 11/21/2010

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My 2 boys go to bed at 18:30pm every evening, my first son slept a full 14 hours from de day he was born, my 2nd didnt know de meaning ov sleep, but I spent alot ov time sitting on top ov my stairs and guiding him back in2 bed every time he came out ov his room, He was 2 years nd 9 months old b4 i got a full nites sleep, i know i was spoilt with my first, but now both my boys will not arise from der beds till dey here my curtains open every morning, it is deffo alot ov sitting outside his room dat you will need to deal with, nd plus another thing, children most deffo sleep better with der doors closed, dont get dem in2 de habbit nd YOUR fear ov having de door open, hope dis is ov help, keep it up nd keep strong, you are de adult, its yur rules, sorry for sounding so strict, but sleep is great in the long run, Best ov Luck, x x x x x x x x





PS, Can i add, yur baby really dus not need to be fed during de nite at dis age, mine at dat age, got der evening meal, a normal milk bottle, formula finished at 18months old, and off to bed an hour after de last feed, at weekends my [former] none sleeper wud now eventually wake up around 11:30am, dat is a blessing after all de nites i spent up with him, x x x

Arlene - posted on 11/18/2010

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Yep that's the time that occurs and you will never get him to nap in the afternoon after that. Sorry! It is a fact of life so you will need to figure a new plan out. Let me ask if you breastfeed. If you do you would get him waking 10 times in the night. It sounds like he gripes with the formula he is getting. Have tried soothing easy listening music? Music always calms the beast soul. LOL If you sing also soothes. do you read stories to him. some children as soon as you read and try to read monotonely they bore to death and sleep LOL. I know how you feel at that age you really only get one or two hours of sleep and you get grumpy too. Try to sleep when he is sleeping. when he is up do your chores, put him in a playpen so he sees you busy. Be careful he will soon climb out of the playpen. I will pray for you for it is not easy being a young mother.

Janelle - posted on 11/15/2010

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Maybe he hears your sleep noise and it wakes him up. Maybe he should sleep in his own room. My son was the same way until we put him in his own room with complete silence.

Renae - posted on 11/14/2010

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PS - Shannon - you are entirely right to say that he sleeps better when he has a good nap during the day - all babies do, so dont let anyone tell you to stop that nap and allow him to become overtired as this WILL make your problem worse.

Renae - posted on 11/14/2010

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@Katherine - medicating babies to get them to sleep used to be extremely common. Family doctors or GP's did it all the time, from as young as 6 months old. However the late 90's SIDS research put an end to it, health department released warnings about its use and most doctors have stopped using it except in extreme cases... and I mean EXTREME. Which is why I was curios as to what was tried before resorting to meds.

@Shannon - I'm still not getting the total picture of what's going on. But it is sounding more like your baby has a sleep dependence which is being in your room with you - babies with sleep dependences often go through periods of regression off and on until their sleep becomes self-dependent and self-regulated. This either happens by the parent teaching them to go to sleep in a room by themselves with noone around or they grow out of it at around 4.

You haven't clarified exactly what medication he is being given, but generally they should not be used long term. I know it is a melatonin based med so he may have already been on it long enough to have to be weaned or he will have withdrawals. In my opinion, and this is solely my opinion, medication should only be used to assist the learning process in conjunction with a sleep program, medication in itself does not solve the problem permanently.

Plus, a melatonin based medication is only going to help if the babies problem stems from a physiological issue with his brain being unable to regulate its own melatonin levels - if his melatonin levels are not the problem and the problem is behavioural, then giving him melatonin is not going to help anything.

You are welcome to contact me to help you devise a sleep program if you want to.

Jill - posted on 11/14/2010

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Hi, My daughter always slept throught the night and then stopped..... Waking up several times a night. I tried teething tablets at first thinking more teeth. She seemed to be thrashing about and whining. I was so tired. She napped fine but at night she would go down for a couple of hours and then it would start. Then someone said growing pains. I was like really....So I tried some childrens motren and waalaah, she slept 4 hours brfore she woke up and then went from a size 5 shoe to a 7..LOL Then a month later it came back and was gas so I tried to make sure her dinner was well you know. I hope this helps. Also the heat, a cool mist humidifier works well this time of year. My Emma's nose dries out and she wakes up. with the Humidifier she doesnt.

Katherine - posted on 11/14/2010

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I've never even heard of medicating a LO to get them to sleep. I don't blame you. Maybe it's just a phase and he needs some adjustment time....

Shannon - posted on 11/14/2010

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Matthew takes one nap a day...he sleeps from anywhere to 1 1/2hrs-3hrs a day. It seems the longer he naps, the better he sleeps at night. He does not sleep in my bed with me. He does sleep in my room, but is in his crib. His routine has not changed at all. I have no problem getting him to go to sleep, it's just staying asleep. He's a little better on this new medicine, combined with the melatonin, but he still gets up at least once during the night. I don't want to have to medicate him every night to get him to sleep!

Sarah - posted on 10/31/2010

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Oh bless your heart! I know that has to be hard. :( My 13 month old has had some sleep regression, too. He used to sleep at least 11 hours a night, but for the past several months he is waking up at least 1 or 2 times a night. I'm not sure what to do with my son's situation either. I hope you get everything worked out. I know you guys need some sleep. Good luck. :)

Renae - posted on 10/31/2010

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What did you try before your paed prescribed a melatonin medication? Where I live we it takes years, or at least many many months, to get a paed to prescribe something like that and they will only give it after lots and lots of failed behavioural intervention. They insist that months and months of crying methods are used first because they think that all babies can be fixed if the parent just toughens up - ugh! so not true! drives me nuts how ill-informed they are! Anyway, sorry, back to the problem at hand... :)



Lets get all the facts out on the table here. So he was sleeping 12 hours - has he always done that? At what age did he start sleeping that length? Has he ever had a sleep regression (gone backwards) before?



Have you ever used any behavioural intervention for his sleep (sleep training), recently or any time in the past?



How does he go to sleep at bedtime, what do you do to get him to sleep? What do you do during the night when we wakes to get him back to sleep?



How long has this night waking been going on for?



Sorry for 20 questions. Its likely that I can help you. But sleep regression at this age can be harder to get to the bottom of so I need a clear picture.



Do you mind if I ask exactly what medications he was given? How long where they given for, what was the dosage and what effect did it have on him?

Katherine - posted on 10/30/2010

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How many naps is he taking? I have a 19mo who doesn't sleep either, never has. Is he teething? Does he sleep with you? If not it might help if he did for a bit.......at least you'll get some sleep. Is he BF? Sorry for all of the questions!!! Did you change ANYTHING recently? Does he take a pacifier?

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