my son is 2 year 9 months and still doesn't talk !

Kylie - posted on 02/01/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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September last year he had an operation for grommets and even though they have stopped the constant ear infections he was getting still no REAL improvement . The only word he says is digger, you can see that he trying and all new sounds he starting to do but nothing not even the little words like ta , no , mum and dad are said on occasion if im lucky, Is there anyone else out there in the same boat as it can get frustrating and upsetting Many thanks xoxox

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Sharon - posted on 02/01/2009

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My daughter was 2years, 10 months before she said anything- even mama.  I was really worried because my first talk spoke in full sentences at 19 months. She had her hearing checked, which was fine. Nothing else seemed out of normal- she responded and understood everything, she just would not speak.  Then she started preschool and it was almost as though she knew all the words, she just wasn't saying them. She started saying everything within a few weeks. I know it's frustrating, but it will happen.

Esther - posted on 02/01/2009

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Neither of my sons spoke until they were four. My second son is five and he is just now understandable. I don't worry because my 12 year old was the same way and he can speak fine. As long as he has had his earring check, I wouldn't worry. He is only 2. :)

Nicole - posted on 02/01/2009

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My son is speech delayed and our doctor recommended testing at age 2.  Each state is different but there is a federal program for early intervention in each state,  if he qualifies its free and they generally have the best specialist.  Once he turns 3 he qualifies for Special Education through your school.  Our son is 4 now and still delayed but special ed preschool has really helped.

Camille - posted on 02/01/2009

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My first daughter didn't speak until she was 3 1/2. Don't get frustrated, it will come in time. Is your doctor concerned? Trust me, this is bliss. When he does start talking you will be asking how to make it stop! Enjoy it while it lasts! :)

Nikki - posted on 02/01/2009

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I started speech therapy for my son at 18 months of age.  The SLP diagnosed with developmental apraxia.  They told me that is usually what they label it when they understand but don't speak.  He is now 3 1/2 and is in Pre-K and does speech therapy in the school system.  He is doing so much better.  He still leaves some endings off of words, but if he slows down, he does fine with most sounds.  As a parent, I am a true believer that Early Intervention is the key.  Have him evaluated and start therapy.  Parents know their children better than any pediatrician or other therapist, etc. can so we have be proactive if we feel there is a problem.  I know it is frustrating, but hang in there.  

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Ginger - posted on 02/01/2009

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I would try switching speech therpist. Start by getting an evaluation at the public school he will be going too when he starts kinder. If he qualifies, it's free. Also, depending on how serious it is, he might qulify for pre-K at the school, also free (this is assuming that you are in the USA).



If he doesn't qualify for pre-K, you can enroll him at a 2 day a week Mother's Day Out program at a local church. These programs are not daycare. They focus on teaching the children, usually have a reasonble price, and give mom a break! Our speech therpist recommended that we put our daughter in a MDO program because it would encourage her to talk! I even found a program where I could be a teacher's helper, and have my daugther in the program for free. We always encourage the children to use their words. I've found that the speech therapy is slow, but the MDO has improved her speech greatly.



My daughter has some issues with the physical way she says words, has difficulty making words that are formed in the back of her mouth. Your son might not even have a problem at all. He might just need to be in social situations. It hard to know until you can hear him say the words. Other kids are amazing at getting kids to talk. Take care!

Meredith - posted on 02/01/2009

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I agree with the speech pathologist.  It is important to follow-up with an evaluation to see if there may be a cluster of symptoms that are not yet identified.  With an early diagnosis, your child will have more opportunities to access help and feel much less frustrated because the adults will be better prepared at providing opportunities or accomodations that your child may need to get a jump start in this area.  Best of luck to you.  The greatest fear is to not find out. 

Danielle - posted on 02/01/2009

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As a speech language pathologist I strongly urge you to have your son evaluated and start treatment. Yes all children are different and develop at their own rate but only having one word at 2 years 9 months is not typical. The sooner he receives therapy the better. I recommend contacting your local early intervention or school department. Your pediatrician should be able to help direct you but he is not needed to make an evaluation appointment.
You son does sound like many children I work with in early intervention and it is great that he is understanding you but unfortunately there is no way to know what is going on without a full developmental evaluation. Good luck!

Farhana - posted on 02/01/2009

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hi kylie i run a day home and noticed girls speek sooner then boys thats normal he might get frustrated cause he cant express him self ask him to use word to explain to u what he needs

Andrea - posted on 02/01/2009

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Hi Kylie, i took my son to a Paediatrition at around 2 1/2 years of age as he had similar problems as you describe with your son, he was soon diagnosed with mild Autism, since there had been a diagnosis made, it made life that much easier beacause we knew what we were dealing with then, and also we were directed by the Paediatrition to the right people to get the help we needed, i'm not saying this is what your son has, but going to a Paediatrition would prob be the best thing you can do, to help you understand and find out why he isn't saying those milestone words. My son is now 5 and in the last 12 months has started speaking in sentences, everyday he gets better and better, this is with the help of Speech therapy, Occupational Therapist and onging support from family and friends, i also found that Playgroup helped alot as he could see the other children talking which encouraged him to talk even more.

I wish you the best of luck.

Andrea

Kristi - posted on 02/01/2009

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Amen to your post Carla!  It amazes me that there are pediatricians out there that are still recommending that parents "wait and see" when all the research shows that Early Intervention is key!  Get 'em while they're  young!  

Jennifer - posted on 02/01/2009

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I have a 4 year old that is still struggleing but is getting there.  Have you tried speach therapy?  We still go 2 days a week.  I do understand your frunstration with not knowing what to do for you baby.

Carla - posted on 02/01/2009

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I'm with the speech therapist... I'm a special education teacher and feel like getting your child evaluated will do no harm.  I know that when we had Zoe tested by the speech therapist she commented that Zoe always tried to please her.  For example, the therapist handed her a ball and asked her to roll it back to her... Zoe did everything she could think of with that ball... she threw it, bounced it, rolled it.  Our children are smarter than we could ever imagine!  Try to find an early intervention speech therapist or audiologist... you want someone familiar with young children, have your child re-evaluated, and then decide what your options are.  As was said before, no evaluation or therapy should harm your child... just be proactive... proactive parents are the ones who are successful!

Melissa - posted on 02/01/2009

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I have twins that are 2 and are delayed in speech. Their doctor encourage us to have them interact with children their age so that they are kind of forced to talk. Every time they want something we make them ask or at least try to ask for what they want. My twins have an older brother that is going to be 17. He really wasn't speaking by the time he was 3 so the doctor had him screened for speech and he started to go to speech therapy at the age of 3

Kristi - posted on 02/01/2009

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Evaluations and/or therapy will NEVER harm your child.  As a speech language pathologist myself, I highly recommend that you have your child evaluated as soon as possible by an experienced speech therapist.  There are so many underlying causes for a child not to speak however it is not normal for children to not speak by 2.  Yes we all hear the story of Einstein however he was not normal.  It's awesome that your son understands everything however the more he begins to understand the more frustrated he will become about not being able to communicate.  Best of luck!  Check out asha.org for a referral in your area if you need one.

Kylie - posted on 02/01/2009

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hi there no he hasnt i thought i might give it til he did turn 3 ( my brother didnt dtart talking til he was three ) and was going to go to my GP and get a referal to a paediatriton and go from there is that was i should do they will be able to check for everything ( if there is any underlining causes???? ) is this the way to go im not 100% and i want to do everything i can for him

Bethleann - posted on 02/01/2009

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Has he been checked for having apraxia(speech delayment) that's what my son has.

Kylie - posted on 02/01/2009

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Hey there everyone thanks so much for your replies

The most frustrating thing is that his comprehension and understanding to EVERYTHING i say is unbelievable he associates the right sounds to the animals so he will say baa for sheep sssss for snake woof for dog moo and neigh but will not say the animals name when you tell him to get something he'll get it put it away ect etc he knows everything like his head hands feet etc etc he's amazing > I went and get his hearing tested and they came back ok and that was before he had his gromments ive taken him to speech theropy but stopped as i felt that put me backwards thats when he was just past 2 3months as he started using all the gestures ( like stop more etc) and not the words, We read to him all the time. I do like that idea of labelling everything. please keep the storys and advice comming in i really do appreicant it like im not the only one out there just makes it hard when you ahve friends that have kids the same age and are talking and singing and mine doesnt :( thanks again xo

Pam - posted on 02/01/2009

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My son is a little younger than yours, 27 months.  He still isn't talking either.  I'm not overly concerned because he can definitely understand what we are saying and is definitely learning.  We can tell,  when we ask him where certain animals, body parts, colors, letters, things in books we read to him, he points it out.  The only concern I would probably say for you since he had the problem with his ears, is to just make sure he can hear you ok.   Other than that each child is different.  Remember, Einstein didn't speak until he was 4.

Amy - posted on 02/01/2009

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watch for muscle tone,and movement inthe mouth area,and tongue.see what ,or if anything moves.can he make the oooh sound?If the problem is lack of movement,or poor movement,speech therapy,and tons or really hard gum,all day everyday,will strengthen it up,and get him speaking. GOOD LUCK!

Carla - posted on 02/01/2009

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My daughter had hearing issues... they said that she had fluid on the ears and we did 2 sets of tubes.  At 23 months she only said "da" and "ma", so I looked into speech therapy.  Long story short, she was misdiagnosed and in fact was profoundly deaf.  I'm not trying to scare you at all... just giving you my story.  She now has a cochlear implant and her speech is near perfect.  I would suggest that you see another ENT or go to a center that deals with deafness in children.



Other than that, the PEC system is a wonderful idea for any language deficit.  I would also recommend that you label EVERYTHING in your house.  My daughter is an excellent reader (above grade level) and I think it's because we labelled everything and pointed to the words when we spoke to her.  You might want to use some basic signs to communicate as well... kids really pick up on them  and it is an easy way for them to "talk".  Good luck and feel free to contact me at any time! 

Tara - posted on 02/01/2009

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I would also recommend a special ed screening and speech therapy. My son had a vocabulary of about 80 words at 2 1/2, and no phrases. Public Health got us in touch with the school district. He didn't begin speech therapy until 3 1/2 but after 2 months was talking almost as well as his peers.

User - posted on 02/01/2009

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Do you take care of his needs when he just points to what he wants? Reading to him, talking to him and engaging in play groups will also expand his vocabulary. You should definetly talk to your doctor and have an autism screening done it's normally done at 18 months-2yrs of age. You can also have his hearing checked...you can't speak words if you can't hear them first. There's many things that could be causing him to not speak at this age so consult with your doctor first.....Hope this helps.

Laurie - posted on 02/01/2009

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My son did not talk till he was two and a half. He also had ear problems. He had tubes put in and they cleaned out his ear canals. He had a year of speech therapy and this helped a little but then out of now where he started talking. He is four yrs old now and never stops talking.



Since he does have a word you know that he can at least make the connection of talking. Maybe you could try PECS (picture exchange communication) This would help him to at least get his point accross of what he wants to tell you. This may led to him beginning to talk b/c it could lower his frustration level.



All kids are different and they all start things at different ages. Hopefully he is just a stubborn lil one and everything will be fine.'

I wish you and your family the best of luck.

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