My son is 2 yrs 3mos and having zero interest in potty training or shall I say sitting on his mini potty for more then 15 sec, concentrating and producing any urine or poop

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Michelle - posted on 02/08/2014

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Sometimes if you have them watch some potty training videos that talk about using the potty, and books, it helps them with the situation. When my son didn't want to stay on the potty to try and do his business, I would bring in some books and read to him. There would be times that I just stay with him and explained that everybody went potty, and then told him everyone he knows that goes pee pee in the potty. When I told him that Grandpa did use the potty, he couldn't believe it, and decided to give it a try. Reminding him every now and again seemed to help.

Laura - posted on 01/18/2009

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I am having the same issue except my son is 3 and will be 4 in August we have tried everything the doctor says not to push it he will do it at his own time.. I think my younger son will be trained before him. If you have found anything that works please clue me in..

Kimberly - posted on 01/18/2009

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My oldest son is 3 1/2. He uses the potty at preschool, even does his own pants and pull-up. At home, he has no interest at all. He has used the potty at home, for both, but except for occasionally going before he takes a bath, he says no whenever I ask him about it. My theory is that he will do it when he is ready...we'll see :) Good luck to you!

PJ - posted on 01/12/2009

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My oldest is not quite 2 1/2 years.  He has recently seen his dad use the toilet and shown an interest.  The trick was his dad and the 'big potty'.  He's used the 'big potty' a few times now, but is definitely not trained.  Our pediatric urologist recommended letting the child set the pace.  If trained too early, children sometimes end up with 'problems' and in his office several years later.  Best wishes.

Erica - posted on 01/12/2009

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Both of my girls were not interested until they were 2 1/2, at two they would fight me so I just waited until 2 1/2 and tried again. Sometimes if you push them when they are not ready they just go backwards!

Amanda - posted on 01/12/2009

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Don't stress about it too much. I have a girl (and girls are supposed to be easier) and she was not interested in the potty at all until she was almost 3.

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Quoting Christina:

My son is 2 yrs 3mos and having zero interest in potty training or shall I say sitting on his mini potty for more then 15 sec, concentrating and producing any urine or poop




hi my daughter just turned three i tried when she was 2 and she also wasnt ready , i just let her go when she was ready i found that when i pushed she didnt want to go to the big potty she only started going because i was lucky in the fact that she goes to family day care with kids her own age and they all started together



my advise is just let him go when he is ready and that day will come

Tiffany - posted on 01/11/2009

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We had movies and videos that my child LOVED (aren't there with the newest one yet).  I know I have seen several at Babies R Us.  Maybe you could try that.  Then baby steps from there.  If they see an older sibling, or cousin or mommy or daddy do it, then they will want to do it to.  Maybe you can try the books or movies.  Good luck to you.  My advice is not to push, they will let you know, but some positive "ideas" with these types of suggestions won't hurt!!!



 



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Tiffany - posted on 01/11/2009

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We had movies and videos that my child LOVED (aren't there with the newest one yet).  I know I have seen several at Babies R Us.  Maybe you could try that.  Then baby steps from there.  If they see an older sibling, or cousin or mommy or daddy do it, then they will want to do it to.  Maybe you can try the books or movies.  Good luck to you.  My advice is not to push, they will let you know, but some positive "ideas" with these types of suggestions won't hurt!!!



 



Tiffany

Heather - posted on 01/11/2009

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pushing them before they show an interest can make it harder.  Make sure he see's you use the toilet and daddy too.  You may also want to try a seat insert.  He may want to try using the big potty like mommy and daddy.  My son won't use the little potty unless he is at nana's house.  2 is generally a beginning age, but don't expect to much out of your son.  We have an open door in our home when any of us use the bathroom so little ones will see what happens.  My daughter potty trained at 2 1/2, but my son at 2 1/2 is just beginning and I expect it to take at least another 3-6 months.  He has days where he'll use it several times and then go a day or two without wanting to use it.  I ask, but don't push him into doing something he's not ready to do.



Good luck! 

Toni - posted on 01/11/2009

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The earlier you start trying to potty train, the longer it takes to train them. If you start when they are ready then it will be alot easier. I have three kids, and my oldest son was 3 when he showed interest. He started peeing in the potty, but refused to poop. It took a long time before he would consider pooping in the potty. If you don't HAVE to train them (for school reasons or daycare) then I would lay off a little bit and let him start by watching his daddy or another male go to the potty.

Chantel - posted on 01/11/2009

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Quoting Christina:

My son is 2 yrs 3mos and having zero interest in potty training or shall I say sitting on his mini potty for more then 15 sec, concentrating and producing any urine or poop




Watch the movie "look who's taking too" and seriously what they did on there with the potty helped like three of my friends with their kids to get them to go to the washroom. it might sound stupid but its worth a shot!

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They say that boys take longer than girls, but what I think they mean is that boys don't show interest as soon as girls. I asked my son every day for months if he wanted to sit on the potty and he kept saying no. Eventually, when he started telling me when he was pooping or peeing, I realized it was seriously time. I let us run out of diapers (making sure we had training pants), and told him that since we had no diapers, we had no choice but to use the potty. The first time without diapers that he had to poop, he insisted on going in his trainer. That didn't go well, so from then on he's used the potty. It took a total of 2 days for him to be fully trained. He was 2 years, 9 months old, and I am glad that I didn't try sooner. Don't push it, and don't force your son if he isn't ready. It's like they say, you don't see any kid in high school wearing a diaper - it will happen when it's time.

Sarah - posted on 01/11/2009

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Well, I have two boys and potty training was frustrating.  They also has zero interest.  It wasn't until my eldest turned 3.5 and he saw grown up men going to the bathroom at preschool.  Not that they went in and watched but they noticed.  I am a single mom so I didn't have the luxury of dad showing them what to do.  If his dad is still in the picture it wouldn't hurt to let him watch dad. 

Andrea - posted on 01/11/2009

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there is a great book one for boys and one for girls about a little boy who learns to use the potty. We read that several times and aimed for "targets" in the potty. Let him throw them in - Cheerios work great or fruit loops and when he is ready you wont be able to get him out of the bathroom.

Andrea - posted on 01/11/2009

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there is a great book one for boys and one for girls about a little boy who learns to use the potty. We read that several times and aimed for "targets" in the potty. Let him throw them in - Cheerios work great or fruit loops and when he is ready you wont be able to get him out of the bathroom.

Sarah - posted on 01/11/2009

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My daughter just started to potty train about a month ago and she will be three at the end of this month. I tried a couple of times to get her going and she showed some intersest in it. But it was not going to happen on my time. So we went back to our cloth diapers and just let it be for a while. Then one day she just looked at me and said that she wanted to wear panties! And she has been wearing panties and going pee and poop on the potty since. We are wearing pull-ups for nap and bed time still. He will do it when he is ready, I promise you. Till then don't worry about it. He is still young. Take care

Liz - posted on 01/11/2009

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My son was 3 1/2 before he was potty trained.  Thank Goodness Pampers came out with the size 6 diaper when they did!!!!  I decided that after I waiting "patiently" for him to get into it, that I was going to have to do it on my terms then.



Best time is do begin in the summer.  Put sandles on them (easy to wash off with accidents), underwear, shorts and most importantly, continue their routine,  (have them go every two hours  for 10 minutes.)  I would sit my son on the potty everynight while the bath water was running, it would make him want to go.  I first did the bribbing with M&M's, but then I thought to start rewarding with color water in his bathtub.  With 6 accidents the first day, it went to 2 the next, and he was then potty trained.  By the forth day, he was doing it.  I never did the pull up...EVER...not even at night.  That takes on a whole nother problem.  I would say within less than a week, he was potty trained and only had a few accidents after the next month.  He never pee'd in his bed.  All liquids were stopped before the bath was taken.  Allittle water to brush teeth.



Good luck Mommies...it get's better! God Bless!

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I work at a daycare and to be honest...it is rare to have a boyo who is potty trained at two! My only son was 3 1/2 before he would, and at that age he was just being lazy and I had to stick him in undies...so I say wait and don't stresss out! If you are stressed and frustrated then he will be too and it will take so much longer! He isn't interested right now...by your description, so I wouldn't push it. You can definitely talk about it still and try now and then if you want, but in my experience (six years at the daycare and personally) he won't be ready for about a year...

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I've heard a lot that boys don't really potty train until 3. That's when my son potty trained. We finally just put him in underwear/training pants all the time and he finally got it. He was about 4 months from turning 4 when he finally was trained. My grandmother always said, "When they can lay their wees wees over the edge, they'll go potty." It couldn't be more true!

Carrie - posted on 01/11/2009

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Wait a year! I tried at two and my little boy had no interest! I tried again just before he turned three. I used his big boy underwear and the plastic training pants. The first time he pee'd, he hated the feeling of wet underwear. I made him stay in for a minute and he cried. We only had a few accidents after that. The pull-ups defeat the purpose...we used diapers at night for about a week and then he was pretty well trained! Good luck.

Piri - posted on 01/11/2009

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Christina I have 3 boys and I found that untill they are not ready and that's around 3 years it won't work. Once they are ready and it bothers them they will be potty trained in a week or so. All my 3 boys turned 3 and then in 2 weeks we were out of dipers and trainig pants.



Pushing won't work..........trust me, with my first one i tried and tried all kinds of tricks. It's a frustration for mom and the child too, just wait and it will just happen :)



 

User - posted on 01/11/2009

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He's too young. Start him at 3 otherwise you will spend the whole year plus however long after he is tree to have successful training

Jill - posted on 01/11/2009

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I'm in the middle of potty training my second. He is 2 years, 1 mth and I also have a 4-1/2 year old. Neither of them was interested in the little potty chairs even though it played music. I started them right on a big potty and that worked much better. My oldest started training at 19 mths, but reverted several times...I believe it was the pull-ups and inconsistency with the day care that made it take a year for him. Our youngest seems to be getting the hang of it fairly quickly and we mostly stick to big boy pants during the day and diapers at naps and bedtime. Good luck and have patients. Oh and we rewared with colored marshmallows or with our oldest we broke Oreos up into quarters and he would just get the one little piece.

Heather - posted on 01/11/2009

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Well...When I was potty training I would reward with candy...I also would turn the fawset on and plug the drain..Thesound will make them tinkle,that is if you can get them to sit long enough..:)

Laura - posted on 01/11/2009

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Hi, I was a preschool teacher of twos for almost 10 years, and kids will train when they are ready, boys often do train later. Several things to look for to see if he is ready...does he hide when he goes B.M. ? If he is hiding, and seems to have control of it, he may be ready. Kids are able to control their urinary tract muscles before their rectal muscles...so you know if he is hiding A. he knows what he is doing and B. that he has control. Second, is he able to verbalize that he is going potty? If he is, your timing is right. Lastly, the BIGGEST mistake I have seen many parents make is that they use pull ups. Pull ups look like diapers, feel like diapers, must be diapers. The best way to get them to train is to use training pants that preferably have an attatched plastic liner. Sears used to sell them. These work best because they catch the urine, and B.M and allow them to feel the wet mess or the warm yucky mess. It does not feel pleasant, and most kids don't like the feeling.



I have found that if your child is ready and is a fairly normal developing child, it will only take a week. Unfortunately, while the pullups seem like a good idea, they really do delay potty training.



I hope this helps, and good luck! Oh, and try not to stress too much, Not too many normal developing teenagers are not potty trained :)

Laura - posted on 01/11/2009

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Hi, I was a preschool teacher of twos for almost 10 years, and kids will train when they are ready, boys often do train later. Several things to look for to see if he is ready...does he hide when he goes B.M. ? If he is hiding, and seems to have control of it, he may be ready. Kids are able to control their urinary tract muscles before their rectal muscles...so you know if he is hiding A. he knows what he is doing and B. that he has control. Second, is he able to verbalize that he is going potty? If he is, your timing is right. Lastly, the BIGGEST mistake I have seen many parents make is that they use pull ups. Pull ups look like diapers, feel like diapers, must be diapers. The best way to get them to train is to use training pants that preferably have an attatched plastic liner. Sears used to sell them. These work best because they catch the urine, and B.M and allow them to feel the wet mess or the warm yucky mess. It does not feel pleasant, and most kids don't like the feeling.



I have found that if your child is ready and is a fairly normal developing child, it will only take a week. Unfortunately, while the pullups seem like a good idea, they really do delay potty training.



I hope this helps, and good luck! Oh, and try not to stress too much, Not too many normal developing teenagers are not potty trained :)

Dee-Ann - posted on 01/11/2009

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Hi Christina:  I have to agree with Lynn Herrmann, I have 3 boys my oldest is now 12, then 9, and 4 and let me tell you they decide when they need to go potty. I tried training my oldest at 2 because my Mom said it was about time... He had accidents right up to s.k. with my second son I just let him tell me when. I would ask everytime I changed him: " When are you going to go on the potty instead of these yucky diapers?" at first he would shout 100days or 2000days then one day he said 3days, so we marked it on the calendar and boom the day came and no more diapers.... My 3rd was the easiest: A friend was training her daughter and there was no way mine was going to be left behind! but he was 3years old. Be patient and let him be little for as long as possible soon he won't want anything to do with you and will cross the street so no one knows you went to town together!  good luck!

User - posted on 01/11/2009

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I worked for a year trying to get my son to go consistently on the potty. I praised, rewarded, begged, charted, gave stickers, took away rewards...Nothing would convince him. Finally, my husband and I let him wear training pants and told him that soon he would be 4, and 4 year olds are big boys! The day he turned 4, he decided on his own that he did not want to wear training pants any more. He went from being inconsistent and needing help in the bathroom to going on the potty by himself.  Don't stress and just let him do it in his own time.  My pediatrician told me that and I ignored her. For a year I stressed out and now he is just fine! Good luck!

User - posted on 01/11/2009

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I worked for a year trying to get my son to go consistently on the potty. I praised, rewarded, begged, charted, gave stickers, took away rewards...Nothing would convince him. Finally, my husband and I let him wear training pants and told him that soon he would be 4, and 4 year olds are big boys! The day he turned 4, he decided on his own that he did not want to wear training pants any more. He went from being inconsistent and needing help in the bathroom to going on the potty by himself.  Don't stress and just let him do it in his own time.  My pediatrician told me that and I ignored her. For a year I stressed out and now he is just fine! Good luck!

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