My son is 20 years old.

Ijeoma - posted on 08/10/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )




My 20 years old son has been to 4 different colleges without good grades. He forged his grades in his first college. I had to call his school who told me that he was suspended due to his poor academic showing. I placed him in a community college and he flunked twice. He has recently became very angry destroying things in his room and screaming and causing at me sometimes which he never used to do. He tells me that me and his dad does not care even though we had spent thousands in his school fees.He took my husband checks and wrote himself checks totaling $2,500.He is now planning to enroll himself in a different college and get a financial aid to pay for it.He was working in my husband's office but my husband just let him go because he rarely showed up to work. He lives in our home and goes out every night and comes back late the next morning without telling anyone where or whom he is with.This is affecting my other teenage kids what do I do? I am so terrified that he will get himself into trouble and destroy his life. Please can some one help me.


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Florence - posted on 08/12/2013




Thanks Evelyn,I sometimes blame myself because I have pampared him so much by giving him almost eveything he had asked for.He now thinks he owns me and what saddens me more is to see my 17 year old son cry when his big brother is acting out.

Ev - posted on 08/10/2013




At this point I would kick his butt out of the house. If all he wants to do is be lazy and disrespectful of your family then he needs to go. Its not up to your or his father to do things for him anymore nor pay for his education. He is an adult now and with that comes responsiblity. IF he fails its not your fault but his. You have raised him with your idea of morals and values and if he can not abide by that in your house then he needs to leave. Also you can not make his choices no more. He has to learn to do for himself.

Michelle - posted on 08/10/2013




He needs to get out into the world on his own. If he's not into studying then he needs to get a job. NOT in the family business though. Cut those apron strings now.
He is stealing and doing fraudulent activities so you have every right to kick him out of your house.

Jaylacarr - posted on 08/10/2013




First you need to say get off your butt if you going to be in my house you should respect your home and family if he does it change kick him out sorry

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