My son is 2yrs old and has never slept through one night, since he was born. Suggestions?

Tania - posted on 05/23/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My son is 2yrs old and has NEVER slept through one entire night. I'm exhausted. I'm willing to try almost anything. I don't believe in medicating him so that I can sleep. But he also needs to have a good nights sleep. Please suggest something / anything that has worked for you and your little one.

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Deborah - posted on 05/24/2009

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Your son sounds exactly like mine. Also very bright, very active. My son is now 5, he did not sleep through the night until he was 3. He would wake up at least once a night usually for reassurance. I'm not a big fan of the crying it out business - each to their own - but he has now turned out ok now. I think that some kids just don't sleep as well. Hang in there it will end, you know yourself what's best for your own child, remember that.

We did/continue to do a combination of things: we redid his room when he was just over 2 1/2 with a cars theme - everything - the bed the walls, the lamps to make it as fun as possible so that he wanted to be in his bedroom (and not in ours!). Fairly strict bed time routine, supper, a little tv or toys, bath, brush teeth, snuggle up in bed with either Mom or Dad and lots of books to read. We used to read about 6 a night, we're now down to 1 or 2 longer ones. (Because your son's so bright try to make sure the bedtime stories are not too stimulating. Try to find books about kids/animals stories that end with going to sleep. This really does work for our son! Local library is a great resource) My son really needed the hugs, affection and calming down time. We limit liquids after supper. High protein supper if possible because this keeps them fuller longer. If he's hungry still we give him a yoghurt before bed (yes sometimes we have to brush teeth twice) - this seems to work and keep his tummy from rumbling if he didn't eat a lot of supper. No rough and tumble play after bath. Close all curtains in the house even if its still light outstide so that he's not distracted by outside events - especially during the summer months. Any visitors around at bed time, must also adhere to the calm, quiet lights out approach or they are ushered out the door! I know its hard but if he does have to nap try to limit the time period to 30-45 mins rather than 1-2 hrs. Yes wake him up gradually if you can so that you don't have an even crankier child!

I hope this helps, remember to ask for help from friends and family - if you have grandparents available encourage sleepovers so that you can occasionally have a solid 8 hrs. Its amazing how just one good sleep can tide you over for a while!

Best of luck. Do let me know if this was helpful?

Beth - posted on 07/13/2009

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i feel your pain my son is almost 3. I had tried everything no eating after a set time, No sweets no naps everything. but at the time he was having problems with his ears. so i went to a ENT and he after tring different things sent me to a allerist who then told me he had asthma. they put him on a breathing machine he takes once a day. now he sleeps all night. i am not the medicating type either but since he has started the tretments i have no problems with colds ear infection or not sleeping it wonderful

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Just relax! My boy slept five hours without waking for the very first time when he was one 1 year and four months old. I stopped feeding hie at hignt when he was 8 month old. I realized that he is just too active child during the day, so he keeps the pace during the sleep. It is better now. He is 2 and 8 months now and at least once a week he wakes up during the night asking for me in his room. Almost every night, still, he would say laudly "mooom" but he goes back to sleep on his own. I am against co-sleeping, but against C-I-O method as well. You just have to relax and if you can (which I couldn't at all!) try to catch up some sleep during the day. AND LOVE HIM THE WAY HE IS! Some moms don't get the easy-to-do children. Respect.

Antonia - posted on 05/23/2009

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I suggest seeing a sleep therapist. It sounds like your little boy has quite a problem

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Sowmya - posted on 10/13/2012

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Hi Tania,

I have a 23 month old, and I am going through the exact same problem. He;'s never slept a single day through the night since he was born, no problem going to sleep, but just cannot stay asleep. Could you please let me know if you were able to find a way that worked with all of you? I'm very interested in hearing what others have done/ gone through to find a solution.

Thanks!

Sowmya.

Lyanda - posted on 07/14/2009

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Quoting Shannon:

I agree with everyone who said routine, routine, routine. I am definitely against letting them cry it out...they are babies, and they need to know they can trust mommy and daddy no matter what. And you won't have a 15 year old sleeping in your bed, but you will have a 15 year old who comes to you with problems! Anyway, first thing to do is make sure there are no sleeping disorders. here's what I did with my little guy: Make sure they are full, they have a specific bedtime routine, and that he is comfortable. When he cries, let him go 5 minutes. Go in there, give him a kiss or sing to him, but do not pick him up. When he cries again, wait 7 minutes. Go in again, and just lay him down with no talking. Keep that pattern going up until 10 minutes, even if you have to do it over and over. Eventually, he will learn the routine and not be able to manipulate you, and he'll sleep through the night, and you will too!



 



 



 



 



this is called the controled crying method



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Carolina - posted on 07/14/2009

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my now 12yr old was the same on her 3rd b'day when i could finally hold a conversation with her I asked her why she kept waking up and she said she just wanted me!..... so I explained that it made mummy cranky and upset and it meant having a bad day with her and I didn't like it. We stopped the bottle before bed and took the dummy away and she slept thru ever since. Sorry no miracle cure but i'm with you. It took another 18mths to work up the courage to have another baby in case she did the same thing....my next child slept thru from 6weeks and has ever since. it was bliss!

Stacey - posted on 07/13/2009

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Sorry guys, I am not a believer of controlled crying. I tried it cos I was desperate, but couldn't follow through. Babies do need to cry some to go to sleep, but there is a difference between a baby that is 'grizzling' to get to sleep or get your attention and a baby that is 'emotional'. This is why I highly reccommend 'Save our Sleep'.

Stacey - posted on 07/13/2009

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My two were not good sleepers, my son woke every 2 hrs at 9 months. I tried a lot of methods which failed, before coming across 'Save our Sleep' by Tizzie Hall. I would reccommend it to anyone. Within a week of using this method, my little boy was sleeping through 7pm-7am. I also used it with my second, at an earlier age and had her sleeping through at 3 months.

Amanda - posted on 06/19/2009

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at this age I would just LET HIM CRY. do not attend to him. He is most likely doing it out of habit. Ignore him unless he has legit needs.

Melissa - posted on 06/19/2009

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what great advice deborah couldnt have sed it better myself!

one of the only ways i could get my son to sleep better also was to cut out his nap alltogether and at the time he usually falls asleep i take him to the park or get out the playdoe or do painting, just to keep him going aything to keep his mind active!
like counting games or have them halp you prepare food or involve them in the task you are doing if u are to buisy to take them out!
your son sounds alot like mine way above most kids his age, according to his leapfrog tag and read on the computer he is up to the age of a 7-8 yr old in some area's! he has just turned 3!
it must be a problem of active mind i realy would try to see the doctor if nothing works its worth getting checked

good luck hun hope some of us have helped somehow!!

Catherine - posted on 05/24/2009

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I am posting here so I can see helpful hints! Mine is 3.5yrs old, has always REFUSED day time naps, and doesn´t sleep all night either. If he does [by some miracle] sleep from bedtime through - it is through till 4:30am, when he wakes up, and will NOT get into a bed - not even ours! He is awake, so the day must start!!

Catherine - posted on 05/24/2009

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I am posting here so I can see helpful hints! Mine is 3.5yrs old, has always REFUSED day time naps, and doesn´t sleep all night either. If he does [by some miracle] sleep from bedtime through - it is through till 4:30am, when he wakes up, and will NOT get into a bed - not even ours! He is awake, so the day must start!!

Tania - posted on 05/24/2009

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I keep a regular routine with my little boy. He does not like sweet things. He does not have much salt in his diet, because it has the same effect as sugar on most other kids. He falls asleep fine. He is in his own bed and his own room, which he loves. But he gets up and comes to my room and wakes me up. Sometimes crying, but mostly just disturbed. He goes back to his bed with my help. Sometimes he asks for water, occasionaly for bottle. But he still wakes up about 5 times a night. We tried sleep therapy for about 4 nights, but he gets so worked up that he vomits. He is in a playgroup till mid-day & has a nap when he gets home. He is very bright & ahead of most kids his age: He knows his numbers from 1 - 10. He can count in the correct order till 6. He knows all his shapes & colours. He sings a few songs & loves music. I know he has an active mind and imagination. Getting to sleep, not a problem. Staying asleep... big problem.
Thank you all for your respones. Please keep sending me suggetsions & I will try them. I will let you know when I have had success!

Shannon - posted on 05/23/2009

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I agree with everyone who said routine, routine, routine. I am definitely against letting them cry it out...they are babies, and they need to know they can trust mommy and daddy no matter what. And you won't have a 15 year old sleeping in your bed, but you will have a 15 year old who comes to you with problems! Anyway, first thing to do is make sure there are no sleeping disorders. here's what I did with my little guy: Make sure they are full, they have a specific bedtime routine, and that he is comfortable. When he cries, let him go 5 minutes. Go in there, give him a kiss or sing to him, but do not pick him up. When he cries again, wait 7 minutes. Go in again, and just lay him down with no talking. Keep that pattern going up until 10 minutes, even if you have to do it over and over. Eventually, he will learn the routine and not be able to manipulate you, and he'll sleep through the night, and you will too!

Melissa - posted on 05/23/2009

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p.s please write bk if this works and let me know becouse i will be realy glad if i have helped sum1 make a diffrence!

and another idea is to give foods during the day that are slow releasing carbs like shredies for breakfast and pasta and chicken for tea!

Melissa - posted on 05/23/2009

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i can sugest a few things i have had this problem but it is relitivly solved now

1)cut out all sweets and chocolate try it for a month and see if it helps
2)MOST IMPORTANT! cut out food coulorings smoe people think its just talk but they send my son through the roof!
3)keep him active during the day and do anything you can to stop day time naps!
4)a couple of hours before bed time take him out to the park or in the garden if sunny for a good run tire him out! if bad weather then a game of play fighting or something active
5)keep to a set bed time everry night routine is important and start to let him know in advance one hour till bed time then half an hour then ten then 5 mins and so on!
6)do a bed time story of his choice every night
7)when he wakes up let him know that its back to bed no negotiation or conversation or attention becouse if he thinks waking up gets him the attention then he will act out as much as he can

im sorry i know it seems alot but i know wat you are going through becouse i had the same trouble!
but if your desperate and you are determined stick to all these points and i can allmost garentee sucsess!

Cheryl - posted on 05/23/2009

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routine! my daughter has slept through the night since about 4 months old. we have a set routine and if i we don't do it she wont sleep... first we start with dinner around 6:30 pm after supper we play for a little while and than at about 7:30pm we have a nice warm bath. She likes to reach in while the tub is filling and make sure the water is just right, and before she gets in the tub she sits on the potty to pee. I use a night time soap that relaxes her enough that after the bath we put on a night time diaper and her favorite pajamas ( a heavy footie sleeper to stay nice and warm). We put her hair up in pig tails. Finally a nice warm bottle of milk to lay down with, and her favorite snugly toy ( a yellow stuffed elephant called peanut).She is out for the night just after 8:00 pm. Sometimes if we are ahead of schedule I'll read her a story to kill time, or if she seems too wound up I'll give her a healthy snack like grapes and graham crackers just to settle her belly. she is almost 14 months and about 90% of the time sleeps all night if she wakes up she finds her binky, which is on her pillow, and goes back to sleep. However it also leads to a morning routine as well when she wakes up at 7 am every day. Good luck! I hope this helps.

Selina - posted on 05/23/2009

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I have 4 kids ages 14, 3, 4, and 10 months. They all slept all night at very young ages. My baby slept 13 hours straight last night. These are things I did with my kids: Did not let them sleep with me, no pacifiers, not feed them in the night, if they woke up, I would check on them, but not let them see me and I would not get them out of their bed. I let them cry it out at very young ages so that I could just put them to bed and they would not cry anymore. I think now that your son is 2, it will be much harder. If he gets up, make him stay in his bed. Don't talk to him, just lay him down and walk away. He probably knows that if he cries, you will come get him. Good luck.

Sara - posted on 05/23/2009

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My daughter did not sleep through the night until she was over 2 either. But when she was almost 2 I stopped going into the room to comfort her. Someone told me that she has to learn to put herself back to sleep. After about 1 week I could still hear her on the baby monitor but she no longer screamed for me. She would make noises and play for a little while and then go back to sleep. And if you can't find anything to work, just know that someday he will sleep through the night. Hopefully that helps you feel better. Just like I can't wait for the day my daughter sleeps past 6am even on the weekends! Sometime a look past today helps me get through the tough days.

Stephanie - posted on 05/23/2009

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I feel for you, my older kids (now 7 and 4) never slept through the night until they were around three. I read all kinds of books and tried everything, and am to the conclusion that some kids and people just have different sleeping styles. I still don't sleep through the night, even if it wasn't for the kids, and I am 35! Now, they usually do great. I would just try to ease him back to sleep gently. Some other things I did were: having a sippy cup by the bed, if you were a nursing mommy, they are used to sucking to sleep, and my babies never took pacifiers. Try to make his room a big deal, have him pick out his sheets, have his buddies in his bed, and leave a light on if he needs it. Whatever gets him back to sleep the quickest, most stress free way. You may just have to tough it out. He may be napping too late/too long. I think it was around age 2 that my son moved his one nap up to like 12. Then he was good and ready for bed. Good luck!

Steffi - posted on 05/23/2009

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The truth of the matter is that you have to let her cry it out. I put a baby gate at my daughters door so that when she would climb out of her bed to get to me. After 3 nights, she got the hit and slept through the night. It's been a dream ever since. Now this wont work if he is in bed with you and your husband. So the first step would be the get him into his own bed first. The process could take a week if you have to de both. But, It's your son's sleeping independence that is most improtant. You don't want to end up with a 15 year old who still needs his mommy to fall asleep. :)

Kerryn - posted on 05/23/2009

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My son is exactly the same, Hes 2 aswell. We went to sleep clinic and tried all of that but the peadiatrician just keeps saying that we need t

o make sure hes got a full stomach and as worn down as possible, so no sleeps during the day. When he stopped having the one sleep during the day he did start to sleep,

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