My son is 45 and has just disclosed that he had a memory (during a medical procedure)

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Palmira - posted on 03/25/2014

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Speaking from experience, some things you just have to let go. Turn them over to God and forgive...that's when your healing begins. I should know...and no, it's never easy, but it's a choice. If we continue with being angry, upset and so forth, we feed the enemy seed and begin to lose sight and focus in Christ and then the bitterness...takes place. I would say pray for him and over him...with God, all things are possible. Let the healing begin...it's not too late. We must forgive, to be forgiven. I'm so sorry for all that your son is going through. Thankful to God, you're there for him. Be strong and courageous for The Lord your God is with you! 🙏👍🌹

Sylvia - posted on 03/24/2014

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No. He just told me today. He remembered earlier this week, during a medical procedure. I don't know if he will contact the perpetrator but I do know that that has to be his decision. I hope that he will. Thanks again.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/24/2014

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Have you contacted the uncle? Has he? You never really said except that he lives in Europe.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/24/2014

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I am so sorry he is going through so much. I really hope he seeks out therapy for the issues at hand. How awful to finally remember at 45. I wish you and him the best.

Sylvia - posted on 03/24/2014

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..Thank you for your reply. He si barely hanging on. He was diagnosed with ptsd about 8 years ago pertaining to trauma he experienced overseas. At that time, he had not remembered the childhood abuse. He had very brief therapy and at this time is not open to even cosidering any more therapy. He is so sad and depressed and haing trouble keeping up his part time work.
His uncle is still, alive, over 70 with serious heart problems and has lived in Europe (thank God) since my son was 6 years old.
My son (who has been a pacifist for many years) said today that he would like to kill his abuser to make sure he does not hurt anyone else.
This is so new. I can only hope that he will get to the point of wanting therapy when he is ready. Thanks again for your response.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/24/2014

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OMG, how is he handling this? Please don't make this about you. Make this about him. I understand you dealt with many victims, but it is very different when it is your own child.

Is your son in therapy? How is he dealing with this horror? Has he addressed his uncle?

Sylvia - posted on 03/24/2014

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Sorry, I did not get to finish. He had a memory of being sexually assaulted by his uncle when he was 5 years old. I am feeling in shock and feeling that I didnot respond supportiely enough even though I have recently retired from a career where I had many, many women who were surviors of childhood sexual abuse disclose to me. So I should have known the best way to respond but was overcome with emotion and guilt for not knowing.

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