my son is 5 and wont sleep in his own room
Clare - posted on 08/17/2011
my daughter is 7 and she hasnt slept in her own bed since she was very young when she was 18 months old she witnessed a fire over the road from where we lived and it has made her scared to sleep on her we have been in our new place for 3 years now and she will play in her room but not sleep she is so scared to fall asleep because her nightmares are about fire the whole time.
she only feels safe if me or my husband are in her room but its not fair on my husband he works long hours and he needs his sleep pls ANY IDEAS we have tried reward charts treats nothing works
User - posted on 12/11/2008
Kids love routine whatever it might be do the same thing every night. Bath brush teeth pj's story pray turn on night lights. Tuck them into bed and tell them good night I love you. If he get's out of bed the 1st time take him back and say it's bed time sweety get back in bed and tuck him. The next time just take him back without saying anything and put him in bed. Keep this up and he will be sleeping in his room in no time.
TNell - posted on 12/11/2008
Two things have worked for us: For my first daughter and my son: if my husband and I have "couch time" where him and I just sit together and either read a book or talk while the kids are awake, my two stay in bed the whole night. For my second daughter: when she had her three year old check up I had the doctor tell her that big girls stay in their own beds. That way I could tell her at home that we are suppossed to have her stay in her own bed, even the doctor says that! Sometimes she would try but we just had to be consistent and now it's only if she has a bad dream that she wants to come in. We still be consistent but I'll tuck her back into bed and pray with her and stay for a minute when that happens. Good luck!
Rebecca - posted on 12/11/2008
i have a 7 yr old and she will sleep in her room with no problem and my 2 yr old loves sleeing in her room too.. but every time igo and put my son in his room he will wake up cring..he keeps saying there a shadow man in his room but i never see any one in there...
Corne - posted on 12/11/2008
My eldest is 4 and still won't sleep in her own room eventhough we made it beautiful, just right for a little girl! Now I have an 8 month old baby, which makes it even worse as big sis is jealous of little sis sleeping in mommy's room... I've thought of moving baby into her sister's room as soon as she is one, so that they can be together and big sis can "look after" little sis, something she does really well. I hope this works!
Lindsey - posted on 12/11/2008
Is it going to bed or waking in the night? Going to bed I've juist started what I read as being called "the pop in method" taking her to bed then saying I'll be back in 5 mins then increasing it & it's worked so far. For me she's waking in the night & coming in to our bed, always wanting me too, this goes on for up to 2 hours sometimes ahhhhhh
Erin - posted on 12/10/2008
I would try laying with him and reading to him but do not stay in there until he falls asleep or that will get into another habit you will have to break (I am having to do that with my 4 and 6 year right now). Mine will not fall asleep on their own. Let him read/look at books and just keep checking on him and letting him know you are there for him. Also, you might try a stuffed animal. Both my boys use stuffed animals to sleep with. They call them their "family" and won't sleep with out them. It seems to work. At least I got them out of our bed (most of the time). Good luck!!
Julie - posted on 12/10/2008
Yeah, the toy idea worked for a bit but it's getting too expensive... ;)
I definitely wouldn't put a TV in my son's room; he always gets to watch a show before storytime, but falling asleep to the TV would start a bad habit for him for sure! The night light idea is good, though; he has one of those paper moon table night lights right now, but maybe having him pick out a new one would be fun. The thing is, his Ikea bed was at the middle-loft-level, so he wouldn't try to get out before, but I thought he'd be more comfortable with it on the floor, so I spent a whole day taking it apart and putting it back together at the lower level, and now he gets out, running and crying constantly! I like the idea from another post about something they saw on Super Nanny... Thanks for the tips; please keep them coming!
Vashta - posted on 12/10/2008
You might try a night light or a tv with his favorite cartoons to fall asleep to... And maybe for the first week or so going in there and laying down with him until he falls asleep... reading and such... Then surprise him with his favorite breakfast the next day for sleeping in his own room all night! Good luck!
Lindsey - posted on 12/10/2008
This is one I'm trying to tackle now with my just over 3 yrd old. Got the bedtime bit done & she's staying there now but not all through the night, may just try the toys but might start with stickers first, maybe fill a sheet of paper & get a toy at the end as nothiong here that costs low that would work!
Carina - posted on 12/10/2008
My daughter (age 4) wouldn't sleep in her room without sneeking into my bed or crying for me. So, I went to Target and bought a bunch of those $1 toys that I thought she would like. I told her that every time she slept in her bed, all night long, without waking me or my husband up, she could pick out a toy. Worked within two nights. Of course, to start, I got nicer toys to "up the ante". Now she sleeps in her bed without rewards and actually prefers her own bed now. I gave her a toy for about 5 days to a week.
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