MY SON IS 7 MONTHS AND HIS FATHER GET LOUD AND UPSET WITH HIM WHEN HE GETS UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT FOR A BOTTLE I TOLD HIM NOT TO YELL AT HIM BUT HE INSIST THAT HE WILL HANDLE HIM HOW HE WANTS TO AND THEN WE END UP FIGHTING SO I NEED HELP ON TO HOW TO HANDLE THIS SITUATION.

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Medic - posted on 12/08/2010

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So Nicole please don't give him the chance to hurt him....do you know what its like as an EMT to respond to a call for a baby not acting right and come into a house to find an obviously dead child and the imprint of a child in the sheetrock wall?? Its horrible and it wasn't even my child. All of the different forms of abuse we see is rediculous and all of the people that did that abuse had red flags that came up way ahead of time. Please for your child don't wait till something happens to protect that baby.

Medic - posted on 12/08/2010

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Show him the door and tell him not to let it hit him in the ass on his way out. If he can't deal now whats next. It is not a far leap from yelling to worse.

Jena - posted on 12/08/2010

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Nicole listen to these ladies!!! He will not stop at yelling soon it will be physical !! I was right where you are 37 years ago and I almost lost my son to an abusive "mate". Get out and get out now and never look back! Your baby deserve to live in a home where he feels safe

Jodi - posted on 12/08/2010

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Nicole, going by your various posts, I can only conclude that this man is abusive, and you need to get out. Abuse isn't always physical. Yelling at a 7 month old is abuse. Obviously you have concerns that he will hurt the baby. I agree with the other ladies. You need to get out now before someone gets hurt.

Medic - posted on 12/08/2010

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It was shared to make a point.....a VERY serious point....no kid has to be abused or yelled at. I'm sorry but so many people brush off things convincing themselves it will get better. It is a mothers job to protect their children at all costs and things like that happen all the time......come ride out with me for a while.

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Medic - posted on 12/15/2010

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It is a ridiculous notion that it is your job to silence your kids and bend over backwards to please your husband. I don't give 2 cents worth of care if he did work hard all day what do you think you did...the same. He needs to step up and be a man or hit the door.

Bekisu - posted on 12/15/2010

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my gal feel i u bad, i kw wat u are talking about, it happens, ur man needs ur attention or needs to rest after the days job, well wat i do is i try to attend to the child, and make sure that my baby eats enough b4 bed time,change diepars, and jt make sure she is comfortable, most especially pray to God to give him a sound sleep gal dat works alot for me.

Jena - posted on 12/14/2010

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Keep posting here to let us all know how things are going. I worry for you and your baby...if he refuses to leave then you and your baby leave do not tell where you are going, there are safe houses for you and your baby to go to,, as the first place he will look for you is at friends or family. Keep that in mind if things keep getting worse

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Its time to show him the door, thats abuse and is just going to get wrose before it gets better. What did he think the baby is going to do, babies cry thats what they do. So tel him that you he can get out until he gets help.

Brianna - posted on 12/13/2010

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thats horrible. i mean when my daughter slept in our bedroom by 2 1/2 months of age my hubby was starting to get really frustrated with wakin up do often (he works really long hours so is really tired) so i moved her into her own room and just had the baby monitor and well it really helped him sleep because there was less noise in the room and less movement.

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Well done Nicole, you did the only thing you could for your son, you are an amzing mummy.

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Nicole, I'm glad you're standing up for your son, and if you need anything just send me a message, even if you need to vent.

Jennifer, I appreciate you sharing your experience. It brought tears to my eyes. I think you got the point across with it. I don't understand how people can do these things to babies, or to any child for that matter.

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Sorry Nicole, I just saw your post saying you made him leave. However; the numbers are still there if you need them.

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2010

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There is a lot of help out there for situations like this. He IS going to end up hurting that baby and you HAVE to get out.
If you tell me where you live, I can give you a number to call, or you can google the national hotline for domestic violence.

Krista - posted on 12/13/2010

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Nicole, I'm really glad to hear you put your foot down. Melissa has an excellent point. Waking up in the middle of the night for a bottle is NOTHING compared to the way a toddler can push your every button. So if he's yelling over something as innocent as a baby's basic need for a nighttime feeding, what on earth would he do with a toddler who spills things, throws things, makes messes, climbs up on stuff, and does all of the other normal toddler things?



He needs to develop a lot more patience if he's going to be a father. He also needs to do some growing up of his own -- if he didn't want to be woken up in the middle of the night by a baby, then he should have wrapped his rascal a little better, no?



Anyway, I'm glad to hear that you're putting your baby first -- you're doing the right thing, and I wish you lots of luck. Single motherhood isn't easy, but we're all here anytime you need advice or just to vent.

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I'm proud of you for having the strength to do what is right for your child. Keep us posted and know that we are hear to help.

Jeanne Cecile - posted on 12/09/2010

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would you be willing to let him be alone with your son and see where or how he can manage on his own, or would that be out of the questions. I really do not have the answer but I'm willing to be there if you would like to talk.

JuLeah - posted on 12/09/2010

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He is causing your baby to be frightened and clearly lacks basic understanding of children or parenting. This will get worse as your child grows, not better. Take parenting classes yourself, read parenting books. Get ready to raise this child alone.

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it made me sick to read this. you don't yell at a damn 7 month old. i'm sorry but to me, it's a form of abuse. the child is hungry and you yell?? ok, let's think about it like this - what will he do when the child starts breaking things, spilling things, pooping on the floor, etc., etc. all the normal things that comes with the infant/toddler years??? seriously, this is a BAD situation and i'm frightened for this child's future. sorry, but as a stranger looking in, this is a recipe for disaster.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/09/2010

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Good for you Nicole. I hope that you have a wonderful support system. Even if you don't, you have a healthy happy little boy. Please keep us posted!

Alison - posted on 12/09/2010

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Nicole, I am thrilled to hear the you have put your foot down. I hope he will agree to anger management therapy so he can have a real relationship with his son some day.

Angela - posted on 12/09/2010

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Tell him to just drink all day and see if in the middle of the night he dont wake up and want something to drink. My goodness, he is just a baby, my 3 yr old still gets up in the middle of the night for somethng to drink. i used to get upset and yell at her and tell her to go bac to sleep, and she would cry even more. now i get up get her drink, and shes bac to sleep n no time at all. thats much easier than all the screaming and yelling, because all that does is get everyone upset, and then everyone loses sleep.

Nicole - posted on 12/09/2010

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I WANT TO THANK ALL YOU LADIES FOR YOUR ADVICE I TOLD HIM WE NEED SOMTIME APART AND HE WILL NOT BE LEFT ALONE WITH HIS SON WHEN HE COMES TO VISIT AND THAT HE NEEDS TO GET HELP FAST BECAUSE ME AND MY SON WILL WALK AWAY FROM HIM FOR GOOD.

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What about u n ur baby sleep in a seperate room ....the yelling would stop automatically

Melissa - posted on 12/09/2010

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It is difficult enough dealing with an upset/hungry baby at midnight let alone another Baby who seems not to understand what having a child means. I will warn you now, the behavior of your partner will come back to bite you. Children copy everything from there parents.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/08/2010

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I wish to God you did not share that Jennifer...that made my heart sink. I cannot get the image out of my head.

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I would definately ask him to go to the doctors. Babies cry...surely he realised this before yous decided to have a baby. A baby doesn't cry for the hell of it and he should know that! Seeesh he's a meany beany!

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It is so sad to hear that he is yelling at your little baby for waking up in the night to eat. He's crying because he is hungry, not to upset his father. I would have him go talk to the pediatrician about what is appropriate as previously suggested. If nothing changes, keep in mind that you are the one who needs to protect your baby and provide him with a loving and safe environment. Even if that is without his dad. Good luck.

Nicole - posted on 12/08/2010

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JENNIFER I TOLD HIM HE HAS AN ANGER PROBLEM HE YELLS AT HIM ALL THE TIME WHEN HE CRIES

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Your partner needs anger management if he thinks it's ok to yell at a baby! If I were you I would just do the feed myself.

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That breaks my heart to hear that he is yelling at a 7 month old. Your son is still a baby and is crying for a reason. Does his father go with you to the pediatrician? Maybe the Dr could explain to him that it is normal for your son to cry when he is hungry and he needs to be calming to the child. In my own opinion that is abuse and you should do whatever you have to do to protect your child. Your baby is going to make messes and have accidents... how will his father handle that?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/08/2010

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geesh...maybe handle the midnight feeding yourself? Talk with him calmly during the day time and tell him how much it upsets you...that your baby is just hungry, and does not deserve to be yelled at...this is perfectly normal for this age. I am sorry and hope you work through this soon.

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