Angela - posted on 12/25/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
My boyfriend has been living with us for 4 months, Everything was fine between he and my son until he started visiting his dad on weekends. This past visit his bio dads' mother refused to give my son back to us, because they want custody of him. A whole week went by before The police agreed to rescue my son from them. They called dcf on us, reporting abuse, neglect and an unsafe environment which dcf found to be false. After the past visit, upon coming home to us, he cries any time my boyfriend comes near him or even talks to him. He clings to me, and pushes him away. My boyfriend
has done nothing but love him, he does so much for my son. In the first 3 months my boyfriend was learning how to be a dad to him, he would yell, and he scared my son a bit. my boyfriend would feel awful every time and he would apologize to both my son and I right after, then my son would warm right back up to him afterward. My boyfriend just thought that's how you get a child to stop being defiant. It's how my boyfriend was raised. Remember, my boyfriend is completely new to being a dad. sometimes my boyfriend and I would have really loud arguments, and that freaked my son out a bit, but we've learned to solve our differences differenly, and much more calmly, and my boyfriend is now much softer with my son. Even still, he never acted like this until his past visit with gram and biological dad, even with the frustrating quirks mentioned above. My sons father And grandmother are very spiteful, and so are the rest of their side of the family. I am wishing I knew what went on to cause this.