My son is in Prison and his Ex is trying to take his parental rights.

Sandy - posted on 10/31/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Tell what you think.. My oldest son was married with 3 small children my beautiful granddaughters and he got into some trouble one weekend after they had a fight and he was sent to prison for 3 yrs. At first she was visiting him and then she filed for divorce and then she was still going to see him telling him they were together. Then she met a guy and married and now she will not allow my son contact for over a year now with the girls. .We talk to and see them but now they moved to Oklahoma and the law there is after she lives in Oklahoma 6 months she can file abandonment charges against my son and take his parental rights away.. Now he is devastated.. He was a good dad and took good care of the girls before now.. The oldest cries for him all the time. I can not believe someone would or could do this. In Oklahoma if you do not see the kids for 2 yrs the mother if she has a husband willing to take care of the kids can have his rights taken away without him signing or agreeing on it..I am sick over this.

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Ashley - posted on 11/09/2012

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also, if that does not stop her, then get a lawyer and fight for grandparents rights.

Ashley - posted on 11/09/2012

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she can not get him for abandonment unless there has been absolutely no contact the whole 6 months. if he writes a letter, or calls them, or even pays anything for child support, that is considered contact. so, he needs to get to calling and writing as much as possible, and he needs proof of it. also, needs to pay child support, even if its not alot, pay something and use that as proof also.

Sandy - posted on 11/09/2012

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Her side of the story is screw him. He is the one that went to jail and I dont want him coming home messing up my life. Her friend told me that its because she loves him and dont want to be around him in fear of wanting to leave her husband for him because she knows he was a good man and dad..

Sandy - posted on 11/09/2012

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We have talked to a Lawyer and she is in contempt for leaving the state but in Oklahoma the law is she can take his rights away because he has not seen them in 2 years. Its just sad and I wish I could do more but we are praying and my son is praying and has a good relationship with our pastor. He was raised in church,, He just made a stupid mistake that has cost him alot.. His exwife was going to stay with him until she met someone else. And still she was talking to him for about 6 to 8 months after she met the guy untill they married..

Sandy - posted on 11/09/2012

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Lacye he was a very good dad.. He loved to cook and was the one who got the kids a bath and ready for bed and told them bedtime stories thats why the oldest cries for him all the time. Its so sad and it is his fault for doing the stupid thing he did but I still do not believe its not worth losing your kids forever.. She is the one that has gotten into trouble for leaving bruises and pulling their hair and so forth.

Sandy - posted on 11/09/2012

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Well they did not have a bad fight a arguement and he left not wanting to fight and went out with some friends and ended up doing drugs. And the guys got into trouble. She just does not want to have anything to do with him because she decided that if he loved her and the kids he would not have done something so stupid. She is now married to a abusive husband and she is affraid when my son comes home it will just put more pressure on their marriage. However I do not feel like any of that is worth losing your complete parental rights. I promise you that the motive is selfish my son is not a angel but he is a loving man and was very good with his kids. She and her new husband have 3 cps cases on them from the daycare and school calling. I think its just a very hard situation and she should not be able to do that. But thanks for all your comments.

Sophia Marie - posted on 11/03/2012

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pray and tell your son to stay out of problems.. so he can come out and get things together for his girls.

Dove - posted on 11/01/2012

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Have him talk to his lawyer. Lacye and Little Miss are right except there are usually (though certainly not always) 3 sides to every story. His, hers, and the truth somewhere in the middle.

Lacye - posted on 11/01/2012

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There are a lot of factors that are going to have to play in this. What did he go to jail for is going to be one of them. What kind of father was he before he went to jail?



Like Little Miss said, there are always two sides to every story. But if your son's side of the story is right, she can't have his rights taken away because he is in jail. If anything, I think he can make her move back closer because she left with the kids without consulting him first. I'm not sure if that is something that can be done or not, but it's something to look into.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/01/2012

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I would love to hear her side. Really, I am sure you are not getting the full story being his mother. We are missing some pretty key points, like you said he went to jail after a really bad fight between them. Did he beat her? Maybe she is scared to have him with the kids. You may think all was fine and dandy in there house before he went to jail, but there must have been a build up. Maybe she is scared to have him around the kids. Maybe your son is not the best father you think he is.



There is a reason that she is doing this. Hopefully she is not just being a bitch. But your son can fight it. You want to really help him? Buy him a plane ticket to go see his kids so he won't be abandoning them. Or he can pay for it himself. He is an adult. he has a job right? is he paying child support? So much is missing from this story.

Michelle - posted on 10/31/2012

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I completely agree with Shawnn he did not abandon his children she is withholding them and his lawyer can do lots to stop this so get on it immediately. This way there is proof that he did not abandon nor choose to leave his children.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/31/2012

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Then your son needs to get his lawyer (I'm certain he's got one) and petition for visitation.



Although I don't necessarily think that his kids visiting him is prison is the best situation, but he made his choices, and ended up where he is. I know that not EVERYONE in prison is necessarily a horrible person, but the choices they made that landed them there aren't necessarily stellar, either.



But, I'd say that if he's got his lawyer fighting and petitioning on his behalf, she wouldn't be able to charge abandonment, especially since she was the one that quit allowing visitations, so he needs to have his lawyer jump on that ASAP.

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