My son is scared to come home

Jade3349 - posted on 09/15/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




So presently I'm going through a divorce and am caring for my 3 kids by myself and am a full time student and am not currently working, so things are really ruff for me. I myself am in grieving and I find myself more angry about things than my usually. So as a mother I have to of course delegate tasks for my 13 year old and I find myself yelling a lot. Well yesterday after my 13 son returned home from school a police officer came by the house and stated that a teacher was concerned because he has told somebody that he was afraid of coming home.
The officer came into the home and questioned my son about it and he denied it. I had a discussion about it with him and he said he didn't like my yelling and was able to identify that I am stressed. I agreed to being stressed and I was not mad at what he had said and told him that I really loved him and he had a lot of people in his life that would not let anything ever happen to him especially his mom.
So now I am thinking about putting him in counseling. I probably need some as well and my 2 younger children which are 3 and 4 years old. Just wandering what kind of feed back about this situation anyone could give me.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/15/2016




It is tough, and you are stressed. What you need is to find better coping mechanisms. Counseling would help you with that, and family counseling will help the kids with handling things as well.

It is always troubling to hear from our kids (however indirectly), that we are not meeting their emotional needs. Hang in there, stay strong and consider counseling

Dove - posted on 09/15/2016




Counseling for the entire family would probably be beneficial. If you are yelling to the point that your child is afraid to come home... you need professional help immediately.

Jodi - posted on 09/15/2016




Actually, he doesn't sound like the one who needs counselling, you are. If you have openly admitted that you are angry a lot and yell, then you need some help with your grieving. Your son just doesn't like the way you are right now and doesn't want to come home to it anymore. And he is probably a bit scared because you aren't the mum he knows.

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