My son is smoking pot!?

Katelyn - posted on 07/17/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I found out earlier today that my 15 year old son is smoking pot. Another concerned mom said she couldn't her son with pot and advised me to confront my son. When I confronted my son he admitted to using it to relive stress from school. He is a straight A student and is very social. I'm so worried about him and I don't know if I should punish him by taking his XBOX and phone and confining him to the house or not. I know that pot isn't a very harmful drug but I don't believe he should be experimenting with it at this age. Should I be worried about harder drugs?

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Jodi - posted on 07/17/2014

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Don't punish him. But get him some professional help. He shouldn't be using it as a crutch to help him relieve stress. You need to get him into some counselling to help him with healthier ways of coping with his anxieties. It is really important at this age that he learn coping strategies without becoming dependent on substances, because if he can't, yes, it can lead to other drugs and substance abuse.

I'd also be concerned about where he is getting it from. At the very least, you should talk to the school about what supports they can provide, including counselling and monitoring the situation. They are often experienced at dealing with this kind of thing, including the school anxieties.

And don't tell yourself it is not harmful. Your son is 15, his brain is still developing and this DOES indeed have an effect on that. As a teacher of teens, I have seen the effects that drug addiction, even marijuana, can have on kids.

Katelyn - posted on 07/17/2014

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I think I gave the wrong impression. I realize marijuana can be harmful and I'm not glad my son is using it but I'm especially happy he isn't smoking cigarettes or alcohol. I watched my mother slowly kill herself with cigarettes and working as a nurse I have seen terrible things from alcohol. I believe in the use of marijuana medicinally but it shouldn't be in the hands of kids or anyone under the age of 26 because the brain is continuing to develop through the age of 25 and marijuana can have devastating effects on a developing brain.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/17/2014

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I saw it, LM...coming through loud and clear on this side

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/17/2014

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Ditto Jodi. I'm an advocate, but not for underage consumption of anything.

Also, even if you live in Colorado or Washington state, where consumption is legal, one still must be 21.

So, either way, he's breaking the law, he's affecting his brain's development, and he needs to learn a better way to handle stress. If he's relying on a crutch now, it will only get worse as he gets older if he's not got better coping mechanisms.

Jodi - posted on 07/17/2014

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No worries Katelyn. I just see a lot of people coming on here trying to say marijuana is harmless, hence my response :)

But it does sound like your son is at risk of addiction if he is depending on it psychologically, so deal with it from that perspective. Make sure you can have open conversations with him about his anxieties and provide him lots of love and support. He sounds like he needs it. Keep the trust in the relationship, because that is really important in trying to deal with this. If you punish or are too harsh about it, you will push him away, and that's the last thing you want. Sure, let him know he needs to earn and maintain your trust, but also thank him for confiding in you, and tell him you are on his side and want to help him.

Good luck!

Gena - posted on 07/17/2014

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Jodi gave some great advice! And like she said,dont think marijuana isnt harmful.

Katelyn - posted on 07/17/2014

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Jodi,

Thank you for your response. I think what you are suggesting make a whole lot more sense than punishing him. I will definitely look into counseling.

Thanks again.

Katelyn - posted on 07/17/2014

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Please excuse my typo in the second sentence. I meant caught rather than couldn't. :)

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