My son is suicidal and I'm embrassed to tell my family

Anonymous - posted on 09/06/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Less than a month ago, my son's (17 years) his girlfriend broke up with him and hes been depressed ever since. It's at the point where he wants to take his life and taking drugs. I'm too embrassed to tell my family. I feel like the worst mother in the world. I just got a phone call that he's at the cop station and they are going to admit him to a mental hospital. I wanted to know how other mothers in my situation coped with this. I'm scared and worried that I will get that phone call that my son is gone.

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Aina - posted on 09/06/2015

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im so sorry you are going through this. its a horrible gut wrenching thing. But you need support. My step child was 12 when she wanted to die. She swallowed a bottle of advil and we only found out when her mother took her to the hospital. there were signs, she didnt come out of her room at her moms, refused to see me and her father for over a month... After that all hell broke loose. She was talking about death non stop, was failing school, drawing bloodied images, disappearing, and was just a mess. Her mother would not admit there was a problem she said its a phase. first you need to admit there is an issue, and whatever insignificant issues he may be going through (to you) they are serious and life altering for him. he is 17 and thats a lot of life lived already. i dont know the circumstances that brought him here but its not one event. my step daughter is turning 14 now, and she is on anti depressants but we are supposed to take her off this October. her reasons were mostly a lack of structure and lack of purpose in life. she moved in with us and we gave her one. i would tell the closest in your family Only if you think they can help. Sometimes a 3rd person needs to come in and make it right. my SD would not go to school, she hid in her room at the beginning. i would come home, lay down next to her and just ask simple questions. Do you want some water, are you hungry. you know we love you. If she didn't want to talk i would tell her stories about my experiences. about friends. i would tell her that feelings are temporary, and they do go away, I offered therapists probably 100 times, she refused because her mother told her somebody will come and take her away. She agreed finally on my millionth attempt. i kept telling her there may just be an imbalance, its not her fault, a doctor may be able to help. She opened up to me and i started adding her to MY life. I needed her advise on work, on business, on my toddler son. She found meaning because somebody needed her. Talking is the answer.
She did not go to therapy well, she refused to talk to anybody. for some reason she chose me. But your son may need a therapist to understand. And you would need to listen to the guidance and acknowledge whatever issues he has. she lives with us now and is happy but it was a 6 month process to get her away from that. If you think your family will be kind, and loving and non judgmental then tell them.

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