Nikita - posted on 07/15/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )
Should i be concerned? I didnt have a concern till my ex inlaws pointed it out. He knows how to swim, well with a life jacket. He shows me what he wants by taking me to what he wants, the fridge, cupboards. grabbing shoes, when he wants to go outseife or life jacket for a swim. Brings me my shows as well. He used to copy my mom when she sang like mumbling the tune. Then he just stopped. When he watches shows he remembers jingles right away and dances to them. So i never really though his lack of talking or no talking at all was an issue.
He just got back from a visit with the ex in laws and they said he's autistic. I just felt that he was taking his time learning. Now i'm constantly wondering if he is. He stares off into space once in awhile. But is it wrong for a child to do so? Hes always kind of done it.
I got upset but didnt show it as they barely see him and they dont know of how bright he is. The feedback i got back was basically there is something wrong with my son. I broke down crying and got kind of upset with his dad when he phoned. They suggested that he should be around more kids. Which i have tried doing. Also he doesn't really like being around other kids he tends to play alone. I've noticed he doesn't know how to react to kids his age. They are either mean and or he just like to go off on his own. My ex's family are telling me he needs to be around other kids and i do bring him to playgrounds and play lands. He has fun and plays but he wants to leave right away. They also know the strain i am having financially and its summer and most free programs only run in the fall to spring. I cant afford other programs right now. I got upset. As i am raising my son on my own and alone. They are wealthy, VERY wealthy and don't help me. They have sent me a box of diapers four shirts and have only seen him three times since he was born. I have stressed about programs i wanted to put him in and asked for help to get him a zoo pass, or just for a little help.
I'm stressed financially and now even more stressed thinking about how i can get him into a early childhood program and how i can afford it if my son is autistic. My nephew is autistic but has a extreme case of it. I looked it up and cant find a definite explanation why my son isn't talking. I really do read and talk with him. . He sits there and looks through books as if he is reading them.
I just feel like i'm doing something wrong. I also moved from home and into a city where i dont know anybody so having friends over with kids wouldn't be an option..Hurry up fall! so we can get into some free programs.