Sarah - posted on 03/07/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
My son, Austin, is biologically my sister's son, but I've had guardianship since he was 6 months old. I. originally took custody so she could go to rehab and b/c his dad was in prison. She came out of rehab unrehabbed. She stayed at our house for a while, but eventually her habit came between all of us. I kicked her out and kept Austin, she knew he was okay and was alright with it. She ended up getting in more trouble and eventually going to prison. He started calling me Mom after she left, and she understands he needs a Mom, so she's okay with it, (As much as she can be, I'm sure!) She's been gone for a little over 4 years, now, and his Dad has been back in prison twice since. Everytime he get's out he does his best to undermine Austin's stability here. He told him, at 3, that I didn't want to be his Mom. He told him, at 5, that I didn't love him as much as his 'real' parents did. Now, at 6, he's back again, and telling him he doesn't have to listen to me since I'm not his Mom. The only stability he's had in his entire life is our house. I don't understand, or care, why he's trying to ruin what Austin has here. What I need is to know how to help him feel secure. I don't want to have to bad mouth his dad, but I need Austin to know he's safe, loved, and, most of all, I need him to listen to me. He started having seizures last November, and they're aggravated by stress. I love this little boy, I just want him to be okay and not have "issues!"