My son just had his coming out conversation with me. I knew for a long time. I even questioned him about it when he was 14. He furiously denied it & I let it go. I should have persisted then but I chose not to. His father & I have been divorced for 10 years. We never talk because his new wife made him promise to never talk to me again. I'm okay with that....until now. t


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Angela - posted on 05/28/2014




Shawnn's right - he can pick and choose exactly whom he wants to come out to.

If you have important, personal news to share with people, would you want to share it with someone who was going to be negative? Whether your news is good or bad or just news that can't necessarily be categorized into good or bad, would you really want to share it, baring your soul, to someone who would sneer, criticize or just make you feel uncomfortable when the news you had to give was something important to you and you were making a brave step in telling others?

He has the right to remain silent, LOL!!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/28/2014




Well, he can choose who he comes out to. If his father is homophobic, I wouldn't come out to him, for sure. My brother still hasn't come out to our dad, even though the entire rest of the family knows...

As far as the communication with your ex goes, his wife has no right to ask him to completely cut off contact, because you have a child together. Get your attorney to file in court that she is causing alienation in the parenting relationship (I'm sure there's a legal phrase for it), and get him involved again.

Lynette - posted on 05/28/2014




My problem is that his father is a HUGE homophobe . My son is terrified to tell his dad. He said he doesn't want to disappoint him. It breaks my heart. What can I do to help him? I'm at a loss. HELP !!!

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