My son just recently met his father & his family after not seeing them for 13 years since he was a baby

Teresa - posted on 09/27/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son is always wanting to call them and I told him that he should let them call him sometime. I never told them that they couldn't call & I don't know what their problem is but if they think that I'm going to sit there and allow my son to constantly call them they're crazy... Am I wrong for feeling this way ? Confused

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Jodi - posted on 09/28/2013

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My son only talks to his dad once a week too. That is a relationship. You can't dictate the relationship between he and his father. He is 13. He is old enough to deal with this himself. Maybe he is happy with the way it is. You don't need to tell him not to call his father because his father doesn't make the move to call him first, that's just wrong. How you feel doesn't matter. How your son feels is what matters.

Teresa - posted on 09/28/2013

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Jodi I have a problem with it because sometimes a whole week or mores goes by before they even try to make contact with him and I feel like he should try to build a relationship with his son and call him sometimes and when he does make contact it's through text messaging. I just feel that he should be a little more consistent .

Jodi - posted on 09/27/2013

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You are not wrong for feeling this way, no-one can tell you that how you feel is wrong. However, if he is the one wanting to ring his father, then you are wrong to tell him no. You should not intervene in their relationship. If his father asks him not to call all the time, then that is different. However, I am not understanding why you have a problem with your son calling and talking to them when he wants to.

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