Taryn - posted on 10/03/2011 ( 33 moms have responded )
My son is 3 years old and he never tells me, or anyone, "I love you."
He will tell me and other people that he loves them. If I ask him "do you love Grandma?" He will say yes. "Do you love me?" SOMETIMES he will say "Yes."
I ask him why he doesn't tell me he loves me. I tell him I love him all the time. He usually gives superficial answers like "Because you didn't bring me a present!" and silly little 3-year-old selfish phase responses.
I suppose I shouldn't be so upset, but it really bothers me. I don't know why he won't say it or what I can do to get him to say it. It's not like the other little phases he goes through, like constantly correcting me that he is a "big boy" and not a baby or being extra selfish. He's never said it, since he began talking. I just don't understand.
Can someone explain this? Or tell me what I can do to help get him to say it?
He doesn't see anyone tell me that they love me. My parents don't say it to me, although they do say it to him. I don't have a husband or boyfriend or anything that tell me "I love you". I can only assume he doesn't say it to me because he doesn't see other people say it to me, but it seems like a pretty flimsy hypothesis.