my son quit home , do I have to support him?

Nadia - posted on 08/22/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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good afternoon,
My questions? my sons quit home (he's 16 and decide to quit by himself and his own choice), he was in the shelter.
Do I have to support him? the shelter said yes but me I told them "no, I am not going to paid anything, because he quit home y himself , I did not kick him".
I am lost, my canadian husband sponsor me and my son for the immigration, but still my son did not have any legal statut.
I really need help from someone, or someboy.
Thanks

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Firebird - posted on 08/23/2013

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Legally no you don't, since he was the one who left. I left home at 17, got a job and supported myself. Your son can do the same if he doesn't want to live at your house. By the way, I do live in Canada. As long as he is welcome to come back home (if he will follow your rules), you don't have to pay.

Michelle - posted on 08/22/2013

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I don't know about the laws in Canada but here in Australia, the government will help kids out that leave home from 16.
Surely there must be more to this story for him to leave home though.

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Michelle - posted on 08/23/2013

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You are strong and you would know that the more you try and get him to come home the more defiant he will be.
Let him see how bad and expensive the world is and make sure you lay down the rules again when he comes home with his tail between his legs.
He will soon realize how good he has it with you.
Stay strong. XXX

Nadia - posted on 08/23/2013

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more? my kid did not want to follow the simple rules, and believe only his dad.
his dad(my ex husband) was very bad with me.
he keep calling me b****, when he talk about me, but when I talk about him to the kids I just said " your dad is sick "
he use to beat me, and until the day he beat me to death, I stay with him.
When he find I filed for the divorce, he promise me to make everything for I come back with him or take the kids from me. The kids are the only ones can make me stay.
But I am the fighter, and I divorce, I keep my kids safe with me until I came in Canada.

Nadia - posted on 08/23/2013

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Thanks for the reply. My son is welcome to come back home, but he did not want to follow the rules.Simply rules: be home for meal times,take shower,never left any mess, do not stay on the computer after 10 pm,internet only 1 or 2 h during the week, but more on the week end, dirty clothes in the laundry basket, respect me and respect his step father..... but he did not want that. Also, my ex husband in France keep brain wash the boy by always said your mom is a b****,and a s****and if I was you " when she gave me any order for anything I just slap her face, just wait for her to be upstairs and come in/on her back and push her in the stair for she die this stupid b****. My son was nice teenager,but since September 2012, when he was back from holidays with his dad in france, I did not recognize him. He become addict to internet and his behavior was wild. I slap his face for remind him who I was and the respect. He complain to his dad for everything and nothing"mom she did not buy me this, or that, mom did not feed me, mom did not buy clothes," and it's always fight on the phone with my ex. I was so tired by my son lies and my ex fight, one day I cut the phone. OK, I have to buy another one, but when my ex call again , I calm down and told him" who know, you said the boy is in danger with me, I don't feed him,I don't care about him. I gave you one choice, next time keep him with you or leave me alone and let us in peace". One more things? I saved my ex life, I save his house, I helped him even when he was bad and disrespectful, he beat me to death one day and I filed for the divorce. But, he keep saying to the kids, I helped your mom, and I HAVE TO BEAT HER BECAUSE SHE WAS BAD. Be bad for my ex, mean just protect myself and the kids or answer to his words......my kids now, they said " when dad beat you, it was your fault,because you are the b***" I gave up with the arguments, I always answer " one day, you are going to regret what you said, but it will be to late, because I will be dead"
Anyway, now I am living with the wonderful man, who respect me, who did not called me name, who care lots for me and always do his best for me.
And my ex? he's single, his depression is worse, and he keep drowning in the dark side.
Take Care guys.
N

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