My son ran away from daycare

Shae - posted on 11/02/2015 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I am taking my 33 month old (three in January) son to daycare since he was 11 months old. The ladies love him and care for him very well. On top of the care he has received, educational component at the daycare is very good as well. I have a five-month-old daughter and was sick with the flu last week, so I decide to take my son into daycare on one of his days off, as a drop in. Well, a very scary thing happened. I received a call from the day care director telling me that there had been construction the night before and that a space was left in the play yard fence...and my son wandered away unnoticed. I happened to be driving right past the daycare so I turned around and went to the daycare and he wasn't there. Apparently he had been playing in the Parkade which is adjacent to several doctors offices and a lady had saw him and called him over and took him to the doctors office. The staff had started looking for him and were made aware that he was in the nearby doctors office. The lady who found him refused to give him back to the day care until the police were called as well as myself. My question to everybody out there. is I know this was a freak situation, considering the day care director was not made aware the fence was left open, but the teachers did and didn't think kids would leave. I feel so unsettled now. I go back to work next year and I have to trust the daycare with both of my little children. I'm so scared and I can't stop thinking about all the "what if's" is there any advice & or suggestions. I just keep thinking about how long he was by himself in the Parkade and I'm so thankful that he knew enough to just hang out in the Parkade and not go to the busy street which was to the left and to the right.

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Ev - posted on 11/03/2015

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And another thought occurred to me: Sometimes depending on what happens after a child gets out at a daycare, if an investigation is done by the state agency, they can bring charges against the director and owners of the day care for being negligent about the situation besides those teachers that were involved and even close the facility down. In my state they are very adamant about the care of kids.

Ev - posted on 11/03/2015

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I worked in a preschool and we had a clip board with sign in and out sheets on it. We had to sign out the kids as we went out and sign them in as we went in to make sure we had them all. We also had one person that was to precheck the play areas before our assigned time outside for the gates closed, fence issues and to pick up trash and stuff so the kids would not get it. We teachers had to divide up on the playarea and keep an eye on the kids at all times as best we could. It strikes me odd that those teachers that knew the fence was compromised did not tell the director and did not keep a better watch on that area to make sure no kid was lost outside it. That would have been grounds for dismissal where I worked and even been investigated by the state agency that oversaw day cares. Those people could have lost not only their job but not been allowed to work with kids ever again.

Sarah - posted on 11/03/2015

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I agree with Dove. How the director responds to this event will help you decide. If she notifies the parents that starting immediately the play yard fence will be inspected for weakness by two separate teachers before the kids go out to play. Or, something else proactive to show she is aware they made a mistake and are making efforts to not let it happen again. How long was he gone? Head counts should be every 5-10 minutes when outside. That would help me choose; if they blow it off like a freak accident, or take it seriously as a near tragedy. Thankfully your child is fine.

Jodi - posted on 11/02/2015

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Okay, if there had been construction the night before, the director of the daycare would have known about it and had a responsibility to check that where that construction was at and how it impacted the business. End of story. Clearly the director did not do this. I would be demanding a better explanation than "the day care director was not made aware the fence was left open". It was her duty of care, if she knew there was construction going on, to make herself aware.

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Sarah - posted on 11/03/2015

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I just deleted my whole post. Shae, if you want to talk about the "what ifs" that are stuck in your head. I will share my own personal "near miss" Otherwise. I encourage you to push the daycare to provide you a plan to convince you this won't happen again. It is thru errors that we learn. Of course, you don't want your child to be the cost. He is ok, he probably is unfazed. You are, of course, and you need to be able to trust the daycare.

Shae - posted on 11/03/2015

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Thank you ladies for all the encouragement. I absolutely agree that the day care director should stop passing the buck. My has been is meeting with the daycare tonight and I guess we'll see what other occurrence is happening. I received a phone call from the lady that actually found my son and she did confirm that he was playing on the busy street. This is such a surreal experience. I just don't know if we should continue him at his daycare center or not? I've been told that everything has been fine. Ugh. :(

Jodi - posted on 11/03/2015

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"The day care director said she had no idea because she wasn't informed of the construction contractor leaving the fence open."

But knowing that the fence was being worked on, she had a responsibility to check it. Sorry, I'm not buying the story that she had no idea because it was her responsibility to CHECK. She KNEW there was construction going on. She didn't follow up.

Ev - posted on 11/03/2015

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That was the points I was getting at. Here where I live it is quite taken literally serious. If someone knows something it should be reported to director or someone who is in charge too. I do not know how many times I had to report co workers on things or other issues to get them addressed. If I had not...kids would have been hurt.

Shae - posted on 11/03/2015

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Sarah, The class apparently went on at 10:25, and by second headcount 1035 they noticed he was gone. So some of the time is a little bit sketchy but for the most part they're thinking he was going anywhere from 5 to 10 minutes. I'll lady found him in the parking lot by the day care as she was going to a doctors appointment there. But now it's coming out that maybe he was playing on the busy street and that's where the lady found him. I don't know I'm really confused about everything I'm just glad he's OK.

Shae - posted on 11/03/2015

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Evelyn no further action was taken by police. The licensing agency here in the province I live in is moving forward with investigations. Unfortunately for the daycare teacher I believe she may be getting dismissed. But at the end of the day, her lack of judgment could've cost my child his life.

Shae - posted on 11/03/2015

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Thanks Dove. Yes they have absolutely been very remorseful. The day care director said she had no idea because she wasn't informed of the construction contractor leaving the fence open. The situation that is problematic is at the daycare teacher, who was the headteacher did know and just assumed the children would not have got out

Dove - posted on 11/03/2015

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If he's been there almost 2 years and this is the first incident of concern I would probably give them another chance instead of just pulling him out. It NEVER should have happened and they are completely to blame, but they are also human and humans screw up sometimes. Now... it also depends on how they handle the situation. Did the director tell you she was unaware? If the teachers knew it was open and just didn't 'think' the kids would leave... the director needs to make sure some sort of disciplinary action is taken for those teachers... AND the director should apologize for not fully checking the grounds after knowing that a construction crew had been nearby.

I might still pull him, but it would depend on if they admit fault and take steps to rectify their fault... or if they just make excuses and try to cover up the mistake.

Shae - posted on 11/03/2015

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Thanks Jodi. I agree. Do you think I should feel concerned about still having my son there? I think I'm more affected than him.

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