My son's decision, his Junior prom, or his step sisters wedding?

Dawne - posted on 04/30/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )




My son was planning on going to his step sisters wedding, out of state. He is not in the wedding party, just invited to go. He originally said he woud go, 3 months ago. Recently (a month) he started dating a girl and asked her to Prom, both are Juniors.Prom falls the day after his step sisters wedding, which again is out of state. His dad can cancel the ticket. My dilemma is, he wasn't thinking about wedding dates for a step sister he has seen twice in the last 3 years when he asked his girlfriend to prom. It didn't occur to me to even question the date when he told me he was going to ask her. His step mom is angry, his dad says his grandma, who is not the stepsisters grandma but by marriage, is angry and my son shouldn't call. I'm torn as to whether to advise him to go to the wedding, or to say Go for Prom!, make your memory. his girlfriend has bought the dress, they have plans with friends....he doesn't even want to talk to his dad. What should my advice to him be?


Michelle - posted on 04/30/2015




I would tell him that it's his choice to make and not to listen to the rest of the family. He will have to live with his choice, not them.
If he is having trouble making the choice get him to write down a pros and cons list. It may help him decide the best choice for HIM.


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Jodi - posted on 05/01/2015




I guess, if he HAS to make a choice, my question would be, how far away is the wedding? If he is cancelling at last minute, that's kind of rude, no matter how you look at it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/30/2015




Can he fly back for the prom in the morning? Or even after the wedding?

Dove - posted on 04/30/2015




I would let him know that it is his choice and I would 100% support whichever one he wants to do and tell the rest of the family it is his call to make... Period... the pros and cons list is a good idea.

Ledia - posted on 04/30/2015




Why can't he do both? How far out of state is it? I can fly from the east coast to California in less than 6 hours. Prom doesn't usually start until 7pm, even with dinner and pictures before, he shouldn't need to be ready before 4:30 or 5pm. He could go to the wedding, spend the night, and catch a 7am flight home, and even if it is a 6 hour flight, he'd be home by 1pm--plenty of time to get ready for prom. Or if that is cutting too close, he could catch a late plane right after the wedding and sleep on the plane.

If for some reason both is truly out of the question, I would help him make the list as Michelle recommended. It's his choice.

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