my son's father has not been involved in his life since day one. He is now 29 months.

Jackelyn - posted on 10/10/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )

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His father tried to have someone beat me up while pregnant and asked that they make sure to kill the baby in my belly. His girlfriend also was threatening me while being pregnant and now that i just got married and my son is calling him daddy he wants to take me to court for full custody. What should i do? He is only doing this to hurt me and has no interest in our son. He lives 1.5 miles from us and has not seen his son in almost two years.

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Jodi - posted on 10/11/2013

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Michelle, this isn't about me, I'm not sure why you are directing questions at me?

Michelle - posted on 10/11/2013

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Jodi - did you ever file for full custody of your son? Has the father ever been adjudicated the father since you were never married? Is there a court order for child support?

Jodi - posted on 10/10/2013

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Good move :) But just be prepared for the fact that courts are reluctant to remove parental rights from a parent and are likely to grant him supervised visitation at minimum (if he files for visitation and if he turns up in court).

Jackelyn - posted on 10/10/2013

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I am planning on going to the ywca first thing in the morning. They help woman in these kind of situations. Im going to try and file to have his rights taken before he files the custody papers

Jodi - posted on 10/10/2013

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The fact is, any time you sleep with someone and wind up pregnant, it gets complicated. It isn't him making it complicated for you. You have both made it complicated for one another. You could lose custody if you just decide to move now, and if there ends up being court ordered visitation, you can't move unless either you can maintain a visitation schedule ordered by the courts, or you have approval of the courts to vary the visitation. If he has already filed, then you need to talk to a lawyer (you should talk to one anyway).

Jackelyn - posted on 10/10/2013

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his father was previously married and has 3 children with her. He took her to court and made it very complicated for her. She can not move out of state but he has been involved in those children's lives since day one. He has only spent about 12 hours with our son who is now 29 months and has not seen him in almost two years. he has never paid a lick of child support or kept his word to any of the promises he made about helping with our son as long as i was cool. I tried to stay civil with him for our son but he makes that completely impossible. He has no idea that i want to move though. I just know what hell do

Jodi - posted on 10/10/2013

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Well, he may be able to get away with that, depending on the laws in your state. I am in Australia, so I can't be sure. But I know that here, I can't move anywhere that may interfere with the relationship and visitation between ,y son and his father (not that I am seeking to do that). His dad did try to restrict what state I could live in but didn't get that through on the basis that as long as he was still getting his visitation and I made that happen, he can't restrict or control where I live.

Having said that, however, has this court action been triggered by your attempt to move?

Jackelyn - posted on 10/10/2013

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i do have reliable witnesses. No i didn't file a police report because i really didn't think he would ever take me to court or be apart of our son's life. He is also trying to make it where i wont be able to leave the state of washington with our son

Jodi - posted on 10/10/2013

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Are the witnesses reliable? And did you report it to the police? I am only asking because on this basis, you may be able to argue supervised visitation only.

Jackelyn - posted on 10/10/2013

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i have witnesses and the girl he wanted to beat me up is who told me about it

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