My son's father says he wont changed his life or ways for his son.

Gina - posted on 01/31/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son's father has always lived for himself. Yes, he has provided for his kids and shown love, but he never puts them 1st before making any decision. He took me to court for visitation and although I know he can do as he pleases he has yet to spend any time alone with his kids. He does everything with whom ever he may be dating at the time. The last thing he did was that he went on away for a or 2 and left my son in the care of his girlfriends uncle. my son went to an amusement park with the girls uncle and he was suppose to drop my son of at the end of the day to my son fathers sister. I had no idea this was going on by the time I knew my son was at the amusement park his answer was well you know I can't go b/c I recently had surgery but yet he went on a trip away with his girlfriend. He told me that if I feel he's such a bad Dad I should take him to court and take away all his rights. I told him I could not believe what he was saying and that it showed how much he loved his kids by saying such thing. He went and told my our son from his mouth that he wouldn't changed his life for anyone that he didn't think he did anything wrong by sending him with the girls uncle but he was not going to stop his life all because he had a son. I was in awe when I heard this I am so confused I don't know what to do. I know my son is dealing with a lot of pain he's 13 years old and his dad thinks that because he's a boy he can say the things he says to him.
What advice can anyone give me? I am really confused! Can anyone relate?

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Gina - posted on 01/31/2014

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@Shawnn Lively well, yes he is an abusing person, very controlling my son thinks money solves everything his dad knows how to be manipulative like that. my son has witness in the past verbal, physical abuse that is why we are not together. My whole point is this if you have kids and you don't see anything wrong with this well OK. that's your take but, for you to leave your kids in the care of another adult and no my son was about 8 to 9 years old when this happen if not mistaken he is 13 now I should had said that before. I don't think a parent should take the other to court so that they would have to leave them with others. and even though I know his dad loves him I know he was never taught better and after all that man has done to put my son against me and win our son with money I still try to look him in the eye and ask him is this all worth it for him b/c it's his son we are talking about. for a man to tell you take me to court and take away my parental rights if you feel I'm that bad of a parent says plenty of you. Would you tell your kid I wont ever change my life for you or anyone. The man is married for god sakes and he tells his son when are you getting a girlfriend so you can introduce me to the mothers.WHO DOES THAT? I could not makes this up if I wanted too. My son as no respect for anyone b/c his dad just can't show him this and I don't want to be blamed for been the bad parent and moving away or fighting all the time I think my son has endure enough and I just want the best for him even though his dad can't give him that no matter all the money he may have.

Gina - posted on 01/31/2014

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@Shawnn Lively well, yes he is an abusing person, very controlling my son thinks money solves everything his dad knows how to be manipulative like that. my son has witness in the past verbal, physical abuse that is why we are not together. My whole point is this if you have kids and you don't see anything wrong with this well OK. that's your take but, for you to leave your kids in the care of another adult and no my son was about 8 to 9 years old when this happen if not mistaken he is 13 now I should had said that before. I don't think a parent should take the other to court so that they would have to leave them with others. and even though I know his dad loves him I know he was never taught better and after all that man has done to put my son against me and win our son with money I still try to look him in the eye and ask him is this all worth it for him b/c it's his son we are talking about. for a man to tell you take me to court and take away my parental rights if you feel I'm that bad of a parent says plenty of you. Would you tell your kid I wont ever change my life for you or anyone. The man is married for god sakes and he tells his son when are you getting a girlfriend so you can introduce me to the mothers.WHO DOES THAT? I could not makes this up if I wanted too. My son as no respect for anyone b/c his dad just can't show him this and I don't want to be blamed for been the bad parent and moving away or fighting all the time I think my son has endure enough and I just want the best for him even though his dad can't give him that no matter all the money he may have.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/31/2014

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Well, at first I thought that perhaps this was involving a young child, but a 13 yo?

Most 13 yo kids can survive a day at the amusement park without adult supervision. In that particular instance, I'd say that you're over reacting. A lot.

And, if that's the type of example you're going to present in court to a judge, don't expect a lot of results.

What REALLY makes him a 'bad' father? Is he abusive? Does he do drugs? Does he expose the kid to sexual images? Does he sexually abuse the kid, or allow his girlfriend to do so? Does he take adequate care (feeding, etc) of the kid when they have their time together? Does the kid enjoy spending time with his dad?

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