My son's girlfriend gets him to pay for 90% of the expenses.

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Samatha - posted on 07/23/2015

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I think you have to stop giving him money. If it's his own money, then he'll just have to learn the hard way when she leaves him penniless.

Dove - posted on 07/23/2015

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The only way this is any of your business is... 1) if he has a severe mental health delay and functions like a child... or 2) You are supplying the money that he is using (in which case the obvious solution would be to stop providing money).

Otherwise... what he does w/ his life really isn't any of your business.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/23/2015

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If your 33 year old adult son wants to spend his earnings on his GF, then that is what he should do.

Were your parents trying to control what your BF/husband or whatever- was contributing? Or better yet, were his parents in control of your family business and spending when you were 33 years old?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/22/2015

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Wait. Your son is 33 YEARS OLD and you still are trying to control his finances? Do you supply his finances, or are you just being overbearing about your adult son? Do you like or not like the girlfriend?
I'm sensing a strong sense of "I don't like who my (ADULT) son has chosen for a partner, so I'm going to freak out about his spending on her".
Honey, I hate to say it, he's an adult, and he is well able to make his own financial decisions. My oldest is 21, and I don't look into his financial situation, so I don't see where your 33 YO's finances are any of your business.

Michelle - posted on 07/22/2015

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I agree with Jodi. He's an adult and there's nothing you can do about he chooses to live his live. Hopefully he will see it soon, if not then that's his fault.

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2015

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If he is a functioning adult, then it's not your business. I'm sure he is aware of the fact that he is paying for most things. If he's not aware of that, then he's not exactly the brightest crayon in the box, is he? Let it go - he is 33 YEARS OLD!!! His problem, not yours.

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2015

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How old is your son? If he is an adult, you can express your concern, but other than that, there is nothing you can do.

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