My son's teacher is bullying him. She recently told him that she can make his life miserable.

User - posted on 04/18/2013 ( 211 moms have responded )

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My son is being bullied by his teacher. In the beginning of the year she insulted his reading ability in the front of the whole classroom. He came home very upset & told me he didn't want to go back to school. He is a child who loves school. I contacted the teacher and the assistant principal, and arranged a meeting. When I met with the teacher & assistant principal, the teacher denied making any kind of an insult. She did admit realizing he does have a weakness in reading & offered to provide him with extra help. Well this was the beginning of a horrible struggle for my son. Instead of helping him, she began to isolate him from the rest of the class by making him sit in the back row of the classroom. She went to other teachers and administration claiming that my son is a problem child & has anger issues. I couldn't believe it when I kept getting phone calls from the Assistant principal advising me that my son was going to be either suspended, serving detention, or having to eat lunch in her office. Reasons being from my son not being respectful to the teacher. We have had meeting after meetings with the Assistant principal. My son keeps telling me & the assistant principal that the teacher tries to get him upset & embarrass him in front of the class and even on field trips. She recently told my son that she's been teaching at the school for many years & if he don't start doing things her way that she will make his life miserable! I had enough & contacted the Principal & the Dist office. They advised me that they would take care of this issue right away. I told them that on many occasions I've begged the Assistant Principal to take my son out of this teachers classroom but, she refused to move him and said she would resolve the issue. I have had enough! Every time my Son complains this teacher is harassing or embarrassing him, he gets suspended , held in detention, or has to eat lunch in the office. I've begged for help. My son has been sick to his stomach every time he has to go to her class. He's even complained of a sick stomach in the mornings, hoping I will keep him home from school. This has affected his grades not only in this teachers class but almost every class. I have talked to the other teachers, they do not have a problem with my son. They have told me they have seen a change in his grades. Some of the teachers even advised me that the teacher who's bullying my son, has been doing this for many years. That if she don't like a student, she will make life miserable. The two teachers who told me this also asked me to keep them anonymous. They said they have seen in the past too many times that she always seems to turn the problem around & can be very difficult. I've talked to other students and their parents. This teacher has a record of targeting certain students and making their life miserable. I even talked to previous students who had her as a teacher years ago. They too said this teacher will never change. Well I've had enough! I'm going to help stop this teacher from making any more students life miserable. I am making a formal complaint with the Board of Education. If I get no resolve then I am going to take this issue to the News. I will do what every can to help my son from ever being bullied by another teacher or administrator again. I am his mother and if I don't help him succeed in school with out being harassed & bullied by a teacher & or administrators, then who will.... I hope this is helpful for any other Moms that may be suffering while watching their child suffer at the hand of a teacher that should be teaching them instead of torturing them!

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Marcy - posted on 04/21/2013

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Went through the exact same thing with my son in middle school. The situation created life long issues for him. He finally took a mini tape recorder to school. Kept it in his pocket. Turned it on before he went into class. Played the tape for the principal and the teacher was fired that day.

Mele Moana - posted on 04/21/2013

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Sorry Cindy with all due respect I don't think this is teacher having a bad day! I too am a teacher and under no circumstances is this appropriate! She is the adult so the child comes FIRST! Here in New Zealand it would have not taken this long to rectify!! I come from a family of teachers and asking a mother whose child is clearly being bullied to look at it from a teachers point of view for a moment in this case is not helpful!! There are other cases for goodness sake!! It does not take a genius to know not all teachers are wonderful or should be teaching!! Trust me I know the teachers side and you are not wrong but this is clearly not a child acting up! Put yourself in his shoes for a moment! I am sorry for your own troubles no one deserves that but you are obviously not the kind of teacher who would make a child feel less than! It saddens me that in this day and age children should feel sick about going to school where outside of the home they should feel encouraged to become their very best at whatever stage! As a teacher I advocate for the students who are children after all!!

Tiara - posted on 04/20/2013

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If I were you I would seriously think of getting one of those lil button cams you can buy online. Sounds devious and deceitful but if no one is taking you seriously then you got to do what you got to do. Just do not let him know he has it on. Kids cant keep secrets. If I were in your shoes thats what I would do. Maybe then something will be done about this bullying teacher if there is sound or video proof.

Angela - posted on 04/20/2013

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I like the idea of the camera! Might as well do it for awhile and see if you can get some video. It's the child's word against the teacher's, it's sad that a child's voice doesn't have much effect on a situation like that :(

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Mary - posted on 12/05/2013

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I am not a mom, but I am a student who's being bullied by a teacher, my parents went and spoke to the teacher and he said that he "didn't realize" that he was harming me, so now he bullies me in a more polite way, a way that I can't accuse him with, for example when he embarrasses me in front of my classmates he'll end it with "Just kidding" or "You are my friend" I don't know what to do anymore, my grades are down and I am in grade 11 this is an important year for college; I even thought of suicide, but then I realized I can't let him win. I am just so miserable. Oh, and also we live in a country where rules suck, like courts literally do nothing, there's no law, it's savage where we live, so I can't sue him at all. I feel alone in this, I feel that not even my parents can help me.

Tamala - posted on 05/30/2013

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We have got exactly the same situation in our little school. Two boys who have had this teacher have had to see a physc!! One boy was even soiling his pants and he was grade 4 at this stage! Parents have gone to the ed dept who have all just managed to sweep it under the carpet as the principal of our school and the person in the ed dept are friends, and the teacher in question is the daughter of the friend in the ed dept. Our school numbers have dropped from 100 down to 80 because of her. Kids have been taken out of the school and sent to new beginnings!! It is such a shame when you do get a bad egg as we have absolutely fantastic teachers in all the other classrooms. My advise is just to make sure your sons happiness remains your first priority. The teacher involved can do so much damage in such little time. Goodluck and well done for standing up for what's right!

Robyn - posted on 05/17/2013

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I do not understand how Teacher can do that I was BULLIED BY A COLLEGE PROFESSOR and I heard of a lot of students in various schools getting bullied by teachers, Principals, and other staff members. I do not think this is even appropriate knowing that some people pay good money to send their kids to any type of school. Maybe that is why a lot of parents are HOME SCHOOLING their kids.... think about that

Kj - posted on 05/04/2013

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This kind of behavior is not as isolated an issue as we are lead to believe..teachers are not taught how to cope with many situations and some that do are reprimanded by the manner in which they handled it...I feel this should be a mandatory workshop offered to all teachers...and then a designated group at the school organized to follow-up on all incidents. Parents need to step up and realize this issue will not just go away....this form of abuse has been going on for years...and has had consequences on many peoples lives and carries over to adulthood thus affecting relationships in both work and how we treat each other...I for one applaud you for your " chutzpah " and hope you will succeed at getting attention to this very serious matter.....I have had personally experienced " bullying " in my childhood and recently with a G-C....it scars many.....

Jen - posted on 05/01/2013

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Have ur son carry a tape recorder so you have the proof what this teacher is doing! Teachers are amazing and so blessed we have them, but theyr are those few that try to ruin it for the rest!

Shelly - posted on 04/30/2013

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One more comment in regards to the posts below, I have a long term sub position with some behavior issue children with low reading ability and I am guessing some kids arent completly honest with their parents, but thats why I call the parents and have open communication. Also, I can be hard on my kids in class but that is usually because they are being a disruption to other students good luck and keep on top of it, I think its better to have an involved caring parent then one who doesnt care or pay attention to the childs concerns.

Shelly - posted on 04/30/2013

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Good for you. I dont know where you are located but also for the rest of the year look into virtual schools or home schooling to keep him out of her class. I am a sunstitute and feel for your son. We do get kids with behavior issues but does not sound like your son has a problem. And, you have gone through all the proper channels with no avail. Good luck.

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Teresa reading all these posts clearly shows you are not alone. I hope it has renewed in you the wisdom and strength to handle the situation. Knowledge of different approaches that we as parents would do if in your shoes. Prespectives from teachers who are presently teaching and have defended some of their actions based on how they feel a classroom should be run. Yet still don't understand that it's a learning enviroment not their own controling domain. We the parents allow our children to be put into the hands of Educators and we do EXPECT our children to be taught without fear, humiliation, threats and without discrimination. Teresa I fully support you although I am not there. We have to advocate for our children and not become passive. My University tried bullying me until I reminded them who is paying the bill so really they work for me. Prayers are with you and your family.

Candi - posted on 04/30/2013

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If you ask me you should write letters to the school board or whatever you have to do to get her fired or him removed out of her class . If she is making comments like that she isn't a teacher she is a bully .

Sharon - posted on 04/29/2013

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Teresa, Is there a reason you haven't dealt with the Prinicipal instead of the VP? It really sounds like you need to go to the school board, and the parent advocate. Call your school board, and find out who you need to talk to. I know here in Md they are very responsive, and immediate in taking care of things like that if you approach them. it's important to emphasize your child is not a problem child, and get proof from his other former teachers that he is not, as well. Get ready to do battle honey if you have to. It may come to that, and so much damage can be done so hurry.

Sharon - posted on 04/29/2013

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This is horrible, but so true. My grandson had a teacher who was from another culture, and for 3 weeks straight she was telling my older grandson; in the same school that my grandson was not doing his homework, distracting the class, and everyday it was a different complaint. He was 5 at the time, and he kept saying he was doing nothing wrong. My grandson is very well mannered, and listens well so I couldn't understand what was happening, and he was doing his work. So my daughter and i went to the school to observe. This teacher had isolated my grandson to a desk in the back of the room alone. He had to sit at the edge of the group during story time. We observed so many things wrong it would write a book. We went straight to the principal, who tried to turn it around and make us wrong for being in the classroom. My daughter is young, but very assertive when it comes to advocating for her son. She informed the principal that she had 24 hours to correct the situation before we visited the school superintendant, called the news, and consulted an attorney. My grandson was receiving a IEP and had some special needs so we had a good plan. The principal called the teacher in, who acknowledged doing all the things we alledged to my grandson, and saw nothing wrong with it.
she admitted timing him out for hours among other things She was a first year teacher, as well as from a culture where women are devalued by men, which I suspect played into her behavior as well. When we talked to her everything she said about my grandchild was negative. I asked her did he do anything right. She just looked at me.
My grandson was moved to another classroom immediately, and the teacher was eventually removed. There really are some teachers who need to be in another profession.

Sharon - posted on 04/29/2013

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This teacher is a BULLY !!! and considering the laws they are putting in place against kids bullying other kids, I know it should definitely not be acceptable for a adult public school teacher. Bypass them all, and go to the Superintendent of schools. Tell him your child is being bullied, and that is illegal. Get a voice activated recorder that your son won't have to turn on. And continue to fight for him. You threaten them with legal action, if you have to, and definitely start popping in unexpectantly.

Stacy - posted on 04/29/2013

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So, Linda Bowles Da Silva, what is your reaction to the things Teresa said about this teacher's reputation? I noticed that you didn't address that at all. As a teacher, do you acknowledge that there are teachers who tend to behave in a manner unbecoming to the teaching profession? I believe Teresa and her son. If Teresa's son IS to blame, then the teacher should be adult enough to ask that the child be removed from her roster, rather than hunkering down for a year of "duking it out". The teacher needs to grow up! She's the adult, and the one expected to make a proactive learning environment for everyone in her class regardless of her personal feelings.

Stacy - posted on 04/29/2013

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I think if I were in your shoes, I would do 2 things, Teresa. First, I would sneak up on her. Start showing up at odd times, watching her interactions with my child and other students. This way, she won't know when you will or won't be around and she doesn't have the security of a controlled meeting environment. Second, I would give my son a digital recorder and instruct him to carry it in his shirt pocket and press record anytime he is in the vicinity of that hag. I think if he refuses to do it, or acts like he thinks it won't work, you need to leverage back and say "Well, you need to try, son, or this will continue and everyone will eventually stop listening to and believing you!!" If he comes home and says that he was told he cannot use that digital recorder, then you know someone in that school has something to hide. At that point, I would hightail it to the school, recorder in hand, and tell them that I pay their wages and I will determine what happens when it comes to my son. School officials are the biggest bullies on the planet. Even worse than mean children.

Sandra - posted on 04/27/2013

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I agree with your plan of action. I went all the way up and did not get any satisfaction with my grandson that I am guardian of. He is bipolar and his situation was similar and he was the one being made an example of. I ended up withdrawing him and enrolling him into the Georgia Cyber Academy. It has been a life-saver. He has been in the online public school for 4 years and is now in 10th grade. He is making good grades, still has his IEP but doing great. I don't know if that would be an option for you if this doesn't work out but you might want to check it out at www.k12.com and choose your state. They have some really great teachers and the children stay at home and do their lessons. It is a very flexible schedule. It also is a public school, so they send you everything you need and there is no tuition.

Stacy - posted on 04/27/2013

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thank you so much for ur post. My daughters situation is similar and I feel even if I change schools I still want her stopped. No other child should have to worry abt their spirit being crushed

Janelle - posted on 04/26/2013

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You should be able to DEMAND that your son be changed to another teacher. If not then.....I would involve the media as you said. That will get them more interested in the root of the problem. Maybe you can find previous parents of students that can stand up with you on this issue. !!! This is NOT behavior of a real teacher...it's the behavior of a person that does not need to be in that type of profession. She needs to be OUSTED!

Jennifer - posted on 04/25/2013

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TD, short of having hidden surveillance to record what's going on, that might be tough. I feel sorry for kids in school that go through this with peers that bully and jerk off teachers. It seriously makes me advocate for home schooling even more, but I know some parents can't take off so much time to do that, so what are the options in this rotten economy? I really feel for you parents that have bullied children.

TD - posted on 04/25/2013

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My biggest question is how do you prove emotional abuse or bullying by a teacher in school ? Is it not going to hard to win the case ?

TD - posted on 04/25/2013

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I am sorry but that really scares me as I am currently so much worried about my daughter having a life long issue because her being bullied by her tecahers. Long story. She is a first grader and recently had panick atttcks a couple of times in class from the bullying. She also tells me something that are related with that which are emotional issues cause d by that. I am arranging coucnceling for her, so parying that the counceling would help and it wion't be a life time issue.
Is it okay if I ask you if you got a chance to do anything that would help your son with his emotions on time or was it too late as you said it cause dhim a life long issues ?

Wow it is unbelivable the school was ganing up on my daughter a 6 yera old, so she has been bullied by more than one teacher but the last one was really bad.

Jennifer - posted on 04/25/2013

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Honestly, I would've gone to the school with your son and sat in class every day to watch this teacher. You are his parent and have right to be personally involved. But please, take it as far as you can go to get this teacher out of teaching because they are obviously doing more damage to kids than good. Be strong.

Amy - posted on 04/25/2013

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Tracey, I hope your post brought enlightenment to people who have not considered gifted children's behavior.

Sheenu - posted on 04/25/2013

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I felt horrible reading what happened with your son and apprciate the step you've taken. I also had the similar situation.my son is 6 now. I always felt that my son's previous class teacher always wanted him to say 'Sorry' to other students on small issues. I felt horrible, but i could not so much on this matter really. it was definitely not reasonable. and my son always kept saying sorry even outside the school. he lost his confidence. Because I am from minority, i took it as a part of racism and took it. Still feel guilty that I was a helpless mum and could not help my son. Still having some people around in the school who are unreasnable to my son in different ways, but probably I am not a great mum like you! Reen x

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I am a more direct kind of woman. My niece had this happen to her and I walked to the principals office and said I had a problem with so and so and we need to talk now before I publicly announce what this teacher is doing. I will announce it to the world. I looked right into the teachers eyes and said "I don't tolerate bulling by students or teachers. You WILL stop picking on your students and know this you work for us the parents. If you care to keep your job keep doing it. This was your first and last warning. Now I expect an apology from you to the whole class. It was done and didn't have a problem after that. Parents have to be ready to fight for their child. My teachers did that to me and I vowed it would never happen to my nieces and nephews or now my daughters. That's why I went into Elementary Ed/Phsyc. I sound mean but after my discussion there was no guessing what I expected. I'm sorry people like that still make it into teaching.

Linda - posted on 04/25/2013

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Your child should just change classes and I don't know why the VP is not doing that.

Your post made me shudder. Spend a day in our shoes. You know how your kids can push your buttons well they figure out how to bug the teachers too. We have 180 kids passing through our classrooms everyday in high school. Our goal is to get information across to them and their goal is to distract. Maybe not in a mean spirited way but, they are with a lot of friends and they don't want to work. I don't approve of your teacher's behavior but it's not going to change because it sounds like you have turned into a bit of a bully yourself.

I had a parent accuse me of being a bully from what her teenager had told her. I had a tough class and they really didn't want to work. I am a tough teacher because I don't believe children should be wasting their time in school. I had another aide in the class with me and I was not bullying her son or anyone else in class as she accused me. I was trying to get them to work. He was moved which was the best thing for me because I don't need a parent who can't work with me; that isn't helping her son. The ironic thing was I liked the student and i know i was helping him. He often came by and said hello to me after he was removed from class.

Remember teachers spend a lot of time with your kids. I am a parent myself. I am careful to not be critical of my kids' teachers because i know how hard the job is and lets face it teachers are human. I don't want them taking a bad relationship with me out on my kids.

If your son has reading problems that is very embarrassing for them as they get older and they will do anything to hide that including lots of class distraction. You would be better helping him by getting some resource classes for reading. He will have a hard time coping in high school with out extra help.

Chrissy - posted on 04/25/2013

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Teresa, when I was in 5th grade and new at the school, my teacher singled me out and decided I needed to be tortured by the popular kids. I was a shy kid, kind of dorky and well mannered (my dad was an Episcopal minister and my mom was a school counselor). I didn't have any learning issues or any kind of acting out issues, I was just the teacher's chosen target. There was no reason for why my teacher decided to have the popular kids tease and harass me. My mother, who worked at the school, tried to have me switched to the other 5th grade class there, but the principal was not sympathetic at all. I have very little memories of my 5th grade year as I was so traumatized by the kids I blacked it out. My Mom said I came home many days crying about what had happened that day at school.

My point to telling you this story is to back you up that there are teachers who are just plain awful. I would try all I could to get my kid out of that environment as best I could, just like my Mom tried her best to get me out of my torment.

My heart goes out to your son; he doesn't deserve to be treated badly at all.

Chana - posted on 04/25/2013

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I have been reading the latest post on this and I also reread the original post. After doing so I realized something with all do respect to the two teachers that wish to remain anonymous they are MANDATED REPORTERS of child abuse and in reality that is what this is. I worked in the education field (Pre-school) for 16 years prior to becoming a stay at home mom and I had reported co-workers. I believe all educators in all states are mandated reporters you may want to look into this and address it with those anonymous teachers. Just a thought. Sometimes things are taken more seriuosly when reported by someone in the same profession.

Lori - posted on 04/24/2013

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My recommendation would be to home school. ;) Teachers do not want to deal with "problem" kids. To those of you out there who are teachers, you need to quit complaining and do your job. You are responsible for the education of EVERY child in your class, not just the easy ones! My son was also bullied by his teacher. He is high functioning autistic and the teacher did not want him to have any supports and repeatedly said because he is intelligent, he should know better than to "act autistic." What a load of crap. We are now happily home schooling. My son can wiggle if he needs to, he can get up and walk around if he needs to, he can read aloud and LEARN the way is best for him. Public school has lost sight of the goal of educating our children and instead are trying to force them all into a mold and if they don't fit, they try to tear them down or cast them aside.

Regina - posted on 04/24/2013

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Tracey, hopefully my son will be as bright as you are. The first day he wanted to know why they were learning to spell orange. He said he learned that in preschool. The truth is he finds girls much more interesting than classwork and going to the carpet:)

Regina - posted on 04/24/2013

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My son gets straight A's and is kindergarten general ed. You might want to check yourself Mel because you are starting to sound as bizzare as these rude teachers. I have no intention of putting my son on medication because he is active, likes to talk and is the last one to get to the carpet. He is in KINDERGARTEN! I did go to my pediatrician. He was assessed and only comes up ADHD at school, per teachers observation. He has a therapist who visits him at school and she finds him to be slight impulsive but other than that a joy! So teachers have a tough job and that gives them the authority to be classless and unprofessional? Did I miss something Mel??

Tracey - posted on 04/24/2013

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I was one of those kids who couldn't sit still. My very worst year was my third grade year. My mom used to brag about the teacher for a long time because she finally taught me to sit still.

That's the year I went from being 3 years ahead on math to being right on target. Sound like a great thing?

Maybe for the teacher. Later I was tested, and the results were in the range for Profoundly Gifted. I could have started college at 12 or 13 years old, had the goal for my education not been Whack-A-Mole pound-her-down-to-average.

Although pounding me down didn't work--still went to school on a National Merit Scholarship, among others.

What I did gain from the experience was a sense that there was something fundamentally wrong with me, because fitting the mold my teacher expected from me was just not natural for me. My mom did realize halfway through the year that not only was I the shortest person in the class, I also needed glasses, so the teacher's seating me in the very back row where I couldn't see over the person in front of me was not a very good choice on her part. My eye doctor actually gave my mom a prescription for me to be seated in the front row, which my teacher was very grumpy about, although she was glad I quit getting out of my seat to get a better look at the blackboard. Apparently, before, she'd put me in the back row "to level the playing field"--if I couldn't see the blackboard I would be more on par with everyone else!

My mom, a retired teacher herself, now wishes she had homeschooled me to save me all the psychological problems that resulted from being made to feel the way I was made to feel. I do homeschool my kids--my oldest two are exactly like me, and I don't want the whole effort of their teachers to be on forcing them to sit still and slow down and wait for the class instead of the focus being on their unusual minds (mental calculus at 15 would be unusual by anyone's standards, I think) and the unique characterizations of such kids, like hypersensitivities (because they see and understand more than those around them, and at a higher level), and overexcitabilities (from the same cause), among others.

What do you think of that, Mel? What would you do with a profoundly gifted kid in your classroom? I just know far too many who have been pulled to be homeschooled or educated individually in some way. Would you recognize the always-on, never still, hypersensitive kid who thinks of more possibilities than the lesson presents as someone with an unusual mind and abilities, or would that kid be a "troublemaker"? We can't shut it off, you know. To this day I am curious about anything and everything, and run probabilities in my head for scenarios I imagine. This is way, way outside most peoples' experience, and most people like me don't talk about these things in public because it's so far outside most peoples' experience that they think we're putting it on. We're not. And no amount of tutoring will turn an average kid into someone like us. It's almost a disability, really. Especially when even teachers don't get it.

Regina - posted on 04/24/2013

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I go to 20 schools a month checking on children with autism so I know there are amazing teachers. The point is why abuse your power? authority? Every child is different and we were lucky to get into a school with a 926 API score and so ethnically diverse. My son is the only Caucasian child in the class and I realize there are ethnicities that believe the teacher is the be all to end all but a teacher needs ACCOUNTABILITY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 04/24/2013

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Um, come spend a day in my shoes! My 46 students are much easier to manage than their parents. Parents have CONsTANT excuses for EVERYTHiNG? They cause me much more stress than the students do because they are so demanding.

Regina - posted on 04/24/2013

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So your recommendation Mel? The point I was making is that a teacher is not qualified to give a parent comments about I knew he was an only child or he thinks the world revolves around him. The teacher should be saying how can we work together to make sure that your son accesses the curriculum to the best of his ability and does not interfer with anyone else. Everyone here wants to defend shitty comments by teachers and rude teachers with no answers of what desperate parents should do! I am tired of feeling like I am being abused by my son's school. It is as simple as that! I wish we could all, sit, stand, walk and talk in unison! My son stands out, thank GOD!! My son was one of the only kindergarteners going in that could read and write so does he bother kids? Or does he just have a punitive, militant teacher?? When the teacher told me my son was a risk taker! She was trying to put him down. I said, "Great, I am sure Barack Obama was a risk taker as a youth!"'

Regina - posted on 04/24/2013

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I am actually becoming a board certified behavior analyst and the teacher is bothered by that because she knows very little about active boys! I asked why the children sat on the carpet for 60 minutes. She has made comments that my son thinks the world revolves around him and she knows what it is like to be a single mom because her husband is a fireman and works a lot. The teacher and I have had yelling matches right at the front door of her class. I kept my son in the class for some reason because he seems to like her so really it has become an adult issue. She picks on my son and says the stupidest crap to me. I have posted on Greater Schools.com and Face book, gone to seminars, etc. The school seems to know about all of this. I have been accosted by the teacher's helper. This is a high perfoming school and my son is above average BUT I definitely need therapy after kindergarten. I am in the Board Ceritification coursework and work two jobs, therapist for speical needs children and case manager for LAUSD and KINDERGARTEN in the most stressful.I so need representation because the teacher thinks it is ok to point active children out and harass their single mothers!!

Regina - posted on 04/24/2013

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Yep, no open door at my son's school and I am not allowed to volunteer. Legally I can go into the classroom for 20 minutes but my son's teacher is such a ------! Why bother! My comment to her is what do you have to hide to not let me volunteer?? June 7th, last day of school! Yay!!!

Amy - posted on 04/24/2013

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Oh I would definitely get an attorney. People only abuse power while they can. *hugs*

Regina - posted on 04/24/2013

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Oh my goodness Peggy K, it sounds like you are talking about my son!! He is kinder and 6! I am so TIRED of hearing that my sons sticks out and is a risk taker and does not sit still and talks to other students, and does not repsect authority. He has been put in detention five or six times and I told them if they do it one more time the shit is going to hi the fan. I cannot have my son tell me one more time he is a bad boy, he is trying real hard and wishes he were dead cuz it is so hard to be still and be good. It breaks my heart. my son has 100% in all subjects BUT he would rather talk and walk around. The teacher hates my son and now we (teacher and myself) go at it.I definitely stand alone. I am single and the parents side withthis teacher. She is young and sweet but very condescending to my son and myself. I am having a meeting and think I need an attorney. She told me not to come into the class after 8:05, say my good-byes outside! Ok, then why are there 5 other moms in the class!? I could go on and on! I am not allowed to volunteer. I am going to have a big party June &th, the last day of school in Los Angeles!! Woo hoo!

Chile Adoptions Support NZ Parents. - posted on 04/24/2013

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Teachers look after your own Mental Health first.

?? If your parents passed away and you where dealing with grief that had and effect on your students then you should of taken a longgg break not just weeks of , but long enough to get your own head back together first, as then a reply comment here back from a Teacher, said ( she/he) you had cancer fine, however " if all a Teacher own personal issues takes such an effect on ones self, then on others, then "Spills over" in class to students, this is NOT acceptable at all.

then you needed far more help than the child/ren.

Children are to have Mentally Healthy stable Teachers at all times, not burnt out and continually stressed ones, specially when parents are expected to place so much trust in.

No excuses please.

Cheryl Deniece - posted on 04/24/2013

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Send your son to school WITH a recording device and catch her in the"Act" { so to speak
}. I would also be making an appointment with the Superintendent of your district and let them know what you have found out about this teacher. I would also make it clear that you will be getting a Lawyer and suing her in court. I would ask her former students and their parents that have been bullied by her to testify for your son.

Anon - posted on 04/24/2013

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Any school could have cowardly teachers, even good schools. Evil exists in the world, people are faulty. You can channel all your energy into the fight, or you can invest your time and your love into your child. Who knows your child better than you anyway? Wouldn't you really be the best teacher? There are many battles to wage out there, is this the one you want to fight? I'm fighting for my child's soul and I will do what I can to protect her from predators in the school and of the culture which is so opposed to the way God wants us to live. I will not feed my child to the wolves. She was gifted to me for a time that I may protect her and nurture her faith in God. That's why I homeschool her too.

Chile Adoptions Support NZ Parents. - posted on 04/24/2013

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PSS: one has to teach children not to give up be strong what ever and that there are bullies wherever ever you go may be , but one should NEVER leave any Child in any state of disappear, when at the hands of any Adults that are causing that despair..

Parents have the power to remove a child from that despair when as it effects their every day life and learning abilities. I simply would not allow the child to go back to a school that has such cowardly Teachers.

Anon - posted on 04/24/2013

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I had similar experiences as a child with teachers, after years of coming home in tears every day, my mother decided to homeschool me-- one of the best parenting decisions she ever made for me! You and your child/ family don't need that extra crap in your life...and it can be eliminated! Home schooling has many other wonderful attributes too, might be worth looking into.

Della - posted on 04/24/2013

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Your doing the right thing. Remove him from this teachers class and I give a formal complaint to the principal and cc it to the school board. Ask for help from past students and parents perhaps there is a background of students and parents to back you up or back her out! If you can insist on going to school with your son until he is moved from this horrible teachers class. Good luck we are the bets advocates for our children and teachers are human.

Chile Adoptions Support NZ Parents. - posted on 04/24/2013

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PS: If other professionals such as Teachers are aware that there has been and is a serious problem for some time, about another problem Teacher that is NOT showing respect becoming in a manner that Harms a Child Emotionally or other wise in their class, they ( no one in the school) are simply not protecting them/ that student whoever, either.

and the other professional Teachers while knowing this fact, of that school if they have never or don't speak out to who they need to not just parents , then those Teachers to some how should stand responsible as well, for not going to their own Principal in the first place.

How can Teachers teach to say Bulling is not right, then don't place in a complaint, or say Nothing? Simply "Cowards thrive where cowards can...."

Tracy Michelle - posted on 04/24/2013

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You have to think like the principal here. First thing I would do is to contact an anti bullying coordinator in your area. In Indy we have the Bully Prevention Alliance. Normally they deal with kid on kid bullying but bullying is bullying. 2nd I would look at getting hard evidence that your child is being bullied. A secret camera that records his week should be sufficient. With these tools your problem should be resolved. If not take the video to whichever local news channel does the best investigative reporting and take your story to them. He is your child and it your duty to protect him, especially from an abusvie adult whom he cannot fight back against. This teacher has a position of authority over him and it is so sad she is using it to humuliate him.

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You are doing everything you can. You should be proud of yourself. I would suggest that a parent has the right to be where their child is and maybe a suprise visit to the class is in order. Also some where in their administrative is a way they can visit and monitor her class. I would go to the news. Do you think you could get a petion signed by people? Also document. Take a calander and write what he says on the day it happened. It would be great to help future students, but you need to put your son first. Is there another school he could go to? Also if you can find a lawyer pro bono, a lawsuit speaks loudly. Try ACLU.

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