Donna - posted on 07/19/2015 ( 16 moms have responded )
My son steals out of my purse. he has stolen my tax money, he steals my medications, he go to very expensive stores and steals as far as I know. He gets mad when confronted and yells and acts like a child. he lives with me, because our home has been broken down by his father, who although, steals, lies, does drugs, cheated all through a very long marriage and now after I had to raise the children alone and work all through the marriage, they make me look like the bad guy. I've given up my own life to take care of children, husband, work, everything you can imagine and my husband decided to empty all acts and is with very young women, drugs and even tried to drug his own child. there is no where to turn, i have no family and no friends or support group. over the many years in marriage i was kept from having friends. But now with one son home and the other son suffering bipolar personality inherited from his father and other mental problems, I feel like a big failure. I did above and behind my duty for all of them, but most of all I loved them all more then myself. The kids see how my husband kicked me around and got away with it and I see they have repeated the cycle. I never had a real family of my own growing up. I was almost always alone. I'm alone now. Divorced, but in no way do I want to start dating. I don't want to go through the hell of marriage or a boyfriend expecting me to take care of him. I have my one son at home. he mouths off to me. then he sometimes apologizes. He will say he had a rough day. He barely works, but is extremely talented. I don't know what to do. I want him to be happy and successful, but its like he is self destructive and doing everything he can to destroy our relationship, so he can boohoo how he has no family. I understand that pain. I had no family, but I worked so hard to make everything for them. But ex-husband took it all and I could not afford the attorney's he paid for. So I was robbed, not only of a life, but have watched my children be destroyed and see how his father has gotten away with all kinds of criminal behavior. I don't think I have a chance in hell of helping anyone. I'm a wreck from all that has happened. I always tell my child I love him, but he continues to steal from me. I have no idea what he does when he is out and who he is with. He is very popular with the girls and he has lots of friends. I think he feels that we were rich and now we are poor. which by todays standards, I think I've held it together and he is embarrassed of me. That I'm not one of those girls who is living the high life. I too am traumatized. I just starting seeing a therapist, but I seriously think she is to young for me. She does not have the life time experiences I've been though, so she goes by the book and what she has learned from books. which is not real life. I can't sleep, I don't eat all day, then I eat at night because I'm up all night. I have horrible nightmares of my husband coming to kill me. He was a violent man. I know I've touched just a little bit on several subjects, but I'm at my wits end. I never stole an nickel from my mother or father, ever. I can't understand why he is doing this. I come from a broken home too, just as my son does, but i did not have all the things my son has. I had nothing at all. Not even the talent he possesses. I can't talk to him. He is so angry at everything and everyone that he takes it out on me. I don't think anyone has an answer for me. I wish there was an answer to help him and to help me to be away from all toxic people. Just when I thought I was free of toxic relatives, now I have my youngest who may possibly turn out to be the worse.