My son/toddler is 3 and asks why he doesn't have a daddy.. He's in prison and will be for a longg time. Any suggestions?
Jennifer - posted on 05/06/2014
A tot is to young to understand anything this deep. I would keep it very simple and reassuring. "You have a daddy, but he can't be here" is often enough. If he is in the "Why?" phase like my 3 yr old is you may have to follow it up with another comment or two, but keep them simple. Don't lie to him though. If his dad wants to see him and you plan on him being involved later say something like "he wants to see you, but can't yet, so I'll have to love on you for both of us right now!" Then kiss and tickle! This type of comment is fine if it is true, but you don't want to say it if dad is someone you would never let be involved with your child. If this is the case say "sometimes it just happens that way. When it does a mommies heart gets to grow twice as big so she can love you twice as much!" and chase after/tickle him. Don't make it into too big of a game though or you will never here the end of it! If it does seem to be a repeated question ask him a different question. Preferably something silly that will take his mind of his question. His question comes from curiosity but he isn't capable of reasoning it out fully at this point so don't overwhelm him with an answer that is bigger than he can handle.
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