My son was kicked off his school bus he has an IEP

B Marie - posted on 10/08/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son was kicked off his school bus because some of the kids said he said he would stab the bus driver if she tried taking something away from him. He came to this new school with a history from another school. Not to mention the alleged incident happened the same week he got in school suspension. There are several factors in the situation. We live 15 miles away from the school. I am very frustrated and am hoping to find some help of some sort to help resolve my problem.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/08/2016

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OK, so he had a "small" incident at school that resulted in ISS? Or the incident on the bus caused the ISS?

Children do not get in school suspension for nothing or a misunderstanding. There has to be a major incident. I know. My kid went off on another kid in class, so he turned himself in to the office, and was given ISS for the incident. Furthermore, bus drivers don't just kick a kid off for an alleged statement. They would investigate, and there is a method for a parent to request an investigation.

As far as the woman being your mother's neighbor, and there being issues between your mother and her neighbor, that has no bearing on the performance of her job, and you just said that she does not know of the relationship with your mother, so she wasn't being spiteful, there had to have been a basis.

If you feel that his past record is affecting his interactions now, this is a good time to point out that poor behaviour follows a person, and they have to work doubly hard to regain people's trust. You can also have a meeting with school authorities to address the problem if you feel your son is receiving unfair treatment.

ETA: (Since you closed the thread) I am sorry that you don't like the answer. Having worked at all age levels in the school system, I can tell you that a child does not have a record that follows them for no reason. As much as we all wish that our kids were perfect, in reality, they are not.

The fact that you closed the thread, rather than reading constructive advice that you may not agree with, indicates that you only want people to validate your side, rather than address the problem behaviour. I figured this would be so, actually, as soon as I read in your OP that your son is on an IEP. You seem to think that an IEP excuses poor behaviour, when, in fact, it does not.

In this light, you can expect his interactions to increase, and you will struggle with his behaviour more as he gets older, if you do not start learning how to instill proper behaviour now. Blaming things like "the bus driver is my mother's neighbor, and they've has issues for years" only teaches your son that it is OK to place the blame anywhere but where it belongs, which is a big problem with people these days.

B Marie - posted on 10/08/2016

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We can't talk to the bus driver she is my mom's neighbor and they have had issues for years. My son and I just moved here so she didn't know he was my mom's grandson to begin with. His behavior had improved he had a small incident at school. Because of his history form his other school they are treating him differently. Most kids would of gotten a warning. But they are going on hear say. They said this incident happened 2 weeks ago, they just informed us this week that he will no longer be able to ride the bus.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/08/2016

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So you speak with the bus driver, get their side of the incident.

If your son has a history, then it would appear that he has some things that need to be worked on, and if he is already in ISS, then it would appear that his behaviour isn't improving.

Being on an IEP doesn't excuse unacceptable behaviour.

What is his IEP for? In my experience, most will contain a provision for counseling visits if necessary for behaviour assistance.

If the bus driver's story can be corroborated in any way, then you need to probably get ready to figure out transportation for your son. If there is no proof other than hearsay, then take that to the school authorities, and ask that the incident be investigated

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