My son was told today that he is the weight of a 16 yr old boy...He is 8 and 4'4'' and weighs 93lbs. i have noticed that he was getting bigger, but really a 16 yr old? He is an active kid and he doesn't eat anything out of the ordinary. Anyone have any tips on maybe what I can do to help him lose some of this weight or if 93 lbs is expected for a 16 yr old?

Rhapsody - posted on 05/15/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have noticed that he was getting bigger, but really a 16 yr old? He is an active kid and he doesn't eat anything out of the ordinary. Anyone have any tips on maybe what I can do to help him lose some of this weight or if 93 lbs is expected for a 16 yr old?


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Raye - posted on 05/15/2015




My 8 y/o stepson is about 65 pounds. He's active in sports, but he's not what I would call "muscular". He has a tiny bit of pudge in the belly. Muscle weighs more than fat, so if your kid is really active in sports and appears muscular, then that could account for some of it. My SS has a smaller frame, but some kids are truly "big boned" (not just a euphemism for being fat). I still think 93 pounds is probably a good deal overweight for his size.

Kesaiserris gave some good tips on nutrition.

Kesaiserris - posted on 05/15/2015




By ordinary do you mean a typical modern diet? Consisting of normal kid friendly foods like hotdogs, pizzas, burgers, chicken nuggets, and soda. These foods are high in calories, addictive, and of very little value nutritionally. These shouldn't be his everyday foods.

A healthy plate should be divided like so 1/2 veggies/some fruit (kids tend to favor raw vegetables to cooked ones) 1/4 lean protein (avoid breaded and processed meats as much as possible), and 1/4 low GI Carbs (whole grains, oatmeal, barley, sweet potatoes brown rice that sort of thing). Eating like this more often than not will ensure everyone in the household is getting what they need nutritionally. Keeping things low GI and eating small frequent meals helps with fatigue and honestly keeping the blood sugar levels stable is the easiest way to shed excess weight. This might be a big change (in which case have a Friday night new recipe night where you cook something together, something healthy, let your son pick the recipe, kids are much more receptive to food when they are involved in selection and preparation). Remember it takes about 16 tries to acquire a taste for a new food. For my daughter I have a gauge. If she retches and is utterly disgusted I skip it. If she doesn't like it but isn't repulsed I keep trying the food in different ways (but gradually in small portions). If she is okay with it then I offer it a few times a week alongside her more preferred vegetables. Tomatoes was a definite dislike now it is an asked for favorite.

Avoid letting him take snacks directly from the package. Either use individual serving size packages or portion them out for him. If he is eating chips from a family size bag it is really hard to gauge the amount of chips but in general people tend to eat significantly more when eating from the bag.

Kids also have access to food outside of the house. Whenever my daughter visits her grandparents she has unlimited access to treats. She also goes to an after school program and they offer a snack. I figured the snack was some fruit or a sandwich but she wasn't really eating dinner so I asked her turns out she was getting up to five sandwiches plus pancakes! No wonder she was too full to eat at dinner time. When she visits friends the parents sometimes offer ice cream and cookies to the kids. My daughter is 7 so even that young they may be getting food elsewhere in excess of what you offer at home.

My daughter drinks mostly water. This is important. Soda and juice are high in calories and terrible for the blood sugar levels. So while I don't believe in diets (for kids or adults, I believe in moderation) I do believe that if you just eliminate soda and change noting else (if he drinks it regularly) that you will see a huge difference.

Portions, an 8 year old shouldn't be served the same amount as an adult. Also keep in mind kids go through phases some days they eat everything in sight, some days they just nibble. My daughter eats more before a growth spurt and then right after she is picky and fussy and not that hungry (not a good time for the new veggies). So learn your son's rhythms. I don't make my daughter clear her plate but I ask her to prioritize the veggies. She usually eats those first and that way at least the most nutritional bit gets in. Most kids are pretty good at stopping before it is too much (if they undistracted) but if we force them to clean their plates we ruin that natural intuition. I let her watch television and play sedentary computer games only in the evenings (we don't eat in front of the television to avoid mindless munching, portion out movie snacks), she is outside running around most of the day and that keeps her weight healthy. Eat at the dinner table and home-cooked over takeaway. We eat too much takeaway so I know it is hard when you are busy but make batches and freeze portions for quick meals at home.

Lastly make sure your son is getting enough sleep, too little sleep or an inconsistent bedtime schedule is bad for the metabolism.

Dove - posted on 05/15/2015




I would definitely not say that is the weight of a 16 year old. I know girls and boys are built differently and 93 pounds is quite a heavier weight for his age and height... but my 13 year old daughter is 5'3"+ and weighs 113 pounds... and is a perfect size for her age and build.

I did a 'healthy weight calculator' for you... for whatever that is worth... and his current weight is about 30 pounds heavier than what 'they' say... so it does look like some changes need to be made, but I would really have no idea where to start. The only thing I can think of is to eliminate soda (if he drinks it) and limit any junk food.

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