Robyn - posted on 11/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My son's father is on the birth certificate, child support has been established and custody has not been established. In my state it is assumed that both parents share custody.
From day 1 I have given my son's father the choice to pick days and times that he wants our son. For the past 6 months it has been 1 day a week for 5 or 6 hours.
Father's day was a Sunday (the day he always takes him) but he didn't ask for our son. Instead he wanted him the Saturday before for his birthday (my son's dad's birthday).
I gave my son's father another chance to try and make us two work and maybe date again. Two out of the four days we spent together he didn't want our son with. Now Thanksgiving just passed and he wanted me to go to lunch with him. He didn't want to include our son. I declined the lunch date. I was asked out to a movie tomorrow night and I declined that also.
If Christmas goes by without him wanting to see our son I will be filing for custody. My son is only a year old but I don't know what else to do. Obviously it hurts me more than my son but I can't help it. Am I wrong to feel this way? If I was going to date someone else I would expect the guy to want to only spend time with me to begin with, but this is my son's father. I'm confused.