My son will be 3 what's an easy way to potty train him?

Kristin - posted on 05/01/2012 ( 50 moms have responded )

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My son will be 3 in October what's an easy way to potty train him?

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Sherri - posted on 05/01/2012

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Once you decide you are going to potty train 100%. You put him in underwear 100% of the time except for naps or bedtime, no matter how many accidents he has. You place him on the potty every 20mins for 1-5mins or until something happens.

Lots of praise when something happens, lots of we'll try in a little bit for when it doesn't and lots of it's okay we will make it next time for accidents.

You need to make sure you can start potty training when you don't have to leave your house for 2 or 3 days.

Deanna - posted on 05/04/2012

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I potty trained my son 1 month before he turned 3. I dont know if it was the technique I used, or if I was lucky, but it was extremely easy!!! Once you really want to start, get rid of the diapers all together!! Dont use them for outings, nap, sleep... just tell him- no more diapers ur a big boy now! I used the sticker/reward method! When you first start training, you will have to learn your little ones schedule. First start off by putting them on the potty every 20 mins. Sometimes they will go, sometimes they wont. Every time my son went pee-pee, I would give him a sticker & a piece of candy. I made a sticker chart and he would put the sticker on once he was done. He always wanted more stickers to put on, but I stuck to my plan and he only received a sticker when he went potty! Every 3 stickers or poop on the potty, he would get a prize! I bought a bunch of small toys at the dollar store and put them in a shoe box up on a shelf in the bathroom. After doing this for 1 week, he was trained! Maybe 3 or 4 accidents in the first month, but that was it!! no more diapers :)

& for nighttime, just make sure they go potty right b4 bed and put a matress pad under the sheet... if he has an accident, thats fine (just change the sheet) but he will learn to wake up in the night to go potty! to feel wet in the middle of the night is not a good feeling and they will learn quickly! if u keep a diaper on at night, they will know they can go in the diaper and it will be a set back!

Good Luck!

Sherri - posted on 05/03/2012

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Ana all my kids were potty trained before 3yrs old. Actually my last was potty trained at 26mo's but for Pamela to slam Kristin for not having started potty training by 17mo's. That is a bit ridiculous. Also just because your daughter was potty trained by 18mo's that is not the majority and most boys are not ready by that age. Yes they have to be ready to be able to potty train.

Trust me you won't win this argument with me. I have potty trained kids for the last 20yrs. As I have worked with kids for the last 20yrs and have 4 children of my own. Now I have never in 20yrs not had a child that wasn't potty trained by 3yrs. However, full blown potty training should be a process that takes 2 or 3 days not months. If it takes months then they weren't ready the parent just wanted them to be. Also introducing the potty and full blown potty training are two completely different things. To just start introducing the potty at 1 1/2 or so I completely agree with that way when you do potty train they are completely comfortable with it.

Munira - posted on 05/02/2012

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Both my kids were pottytrained at 3 through the weekend. I kept my saturday and sunday free. Keep them in underwear so that if there is any accident, the will find it uncomfortable. Hence, giving them a sense of Wanting to go to the toilet instead of Having To.

I take them every 1 hour to 1.5 hours, but u have to be consistent. Set a timer or reminder if u forget a lot like me :S. And lastly... Be patient. Bring in a magazine of sit on a stool and tweet if u have to, so that u don't end up rushing them.

Best of luck!

Joanne - posted on 05/04/2012

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My daughter loves bubbles. I would give her them to sit on the potty. If she peed, she would get a sticker on her potty chart. Also, I removed her diaper ---went straight to underwear. If she peed her pants she would get wet, and dislike it. It makes a mess for you, but in the end it works. Also, make the potty available, as opposed to leaving it locked in the bathroom. At 18 months I had her almost trained, and then she regressed and wouldn't even sit on it. I figured it was too early anyway and didn't push her. Eventually, she decided to do it herself, but she was familiar with the concept long before that. She'll be 3 in June and she's been potty trained for about 6 months now. I say get them used to it, find something they like to help assist the process, and give them a reward once the deed is done. It did no harm to my daughter. She does not need bubbles or a sticker to pee in the potty now, and she does it on her own. I also lightly expressed the negatives of wetting her pants everytime she did it. When she was ready it took 2 weeks. Good luck! :)

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Jennifer - posted on 09/18/2012

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Amber Anderson - posted on 05/08/2012



I also would like to know. My son just turned 3 in April and he will not go #2 on the potty consistently only #1. It's hard when I work full time and only have weekends to do this. Any suggestions??



@Amber Anderson -

I feel your pain! My son was the exact same way! Had my heart broken! I started with toilet training in May and he had #1 perfected immediately, but #2 was a bit longer, nearly 4 weeks! He would tell me after the fact that he'd done it. I would bring him to the toilet and have him watch me cleaning his underwear (empty what I could in the toilet) and then have him look at it and explain to him that that's where #2 goes, just like #1. There was a lot of rinsing of soiled underwear and I eventually got tired of it and started throwing them out! I bought some really cheap underwear that I wasn't too bothered if he soiled them.



I had friends tell me to go back to nappies because I'd started him too young (he was 37 months), but I didn't think so and I was determined to get him out of nappies! I knew he was ready I just think he was perhaps afraid. Anyway, one day he went on his own, it was only a little "pebble" but I made a HUGE deal out of it and things just kind of snowballed from there. The next time he went on his own and did a #2 and then he called me in there and I made another big deal out of it. Perhaps he just needed a bit of privacy...? LOL



Something else that I saw somewhere - a parent had created a "poop jar" (sorry, sounds gross, but it's not what you think!) She went to the dollar store and filled it with cheap little toys and/or sweets and every time her child did a #2, they got something out of the jar.



I used to reward my DS with M & M's - I'd give him about 10 when he'd do a #2, but once we got through the bag of M & M's that was it - I didn't buy or give him anymore. Since he gotten the hang of it I figured he didn't need them anymore and when he asked for them after I told him that he didn't need them anymore because he was a big boy.



Anyway, this is what worked for me, but I think the most important thing was just patient persistence. It was tough at times I'll admit, because I was rinsing dirty underwear at least once a day for a while!! Good luck!

Bobmusicgirl4 - posted on 09/18/2012

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Honestly, I think you waited too long. The longer you wait, the harder it is. Mine was fully trained by age two, sleeping through the night.

The easiest way: let him learn by example! Go potty in front of him so he's more comfortable with the idea and he won't think he's the only one! There's no sense in hiding the fact that everybody goes!

Brittany - posted on 05/14/2012

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My son will be 3 at the end of July and I found that letting him run around with no pants on got him to go on the potty. We have a potty chair and one of those seats that goes on the toilet and he prefers to go on the toilet without the little seat. Last month he started going on the potty and has been going ever since. Going poop isn't so easy, he still wants to go in a diaper or pull up so when I know he has to poop I take his undewear off and leave him alone and he'll run into the bathroom and go. Another thing is I got him boxer briefs just like daddy ;) Good luck!!

Cassandra - posted on 05/12/2012

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This wasn't my question, but I am so glad someone asked it! Thanks for the great tips! Official potty training starts Monday! Yay excited!

Michele - posted on 05/10/2012

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Try the Signing Time website. They have a wonderful potty watch. My grandson is doing fantastic. Every time he hears it we go. Yes he does say no occasionally but I do a whoo whoo potty dance and he follows me every time. I find once they get the peeing the rest will come. Lol just be patient and make it fun. You will have frustration but it will pass. You will do great!

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Yes that is very true about pull ups. Also try to choose potty training in a time where there are no drastic changes in life, like yo start work, or get moved form house and stuff like that.

Joanne - posted on 05/08/2012

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I trained by daughter at 3 and some months. I didn't use a potty, just the regular one with a seat that fits over the toilet so she wouldn't fall in. I told her that I couldn't get any more diapers and they were just for bedtime when I started. I just watched her and took her to the bathroom when she looked like she needed to go. It took a week and I stopped putting her in diapers after a few weeks becasuse she was waking up dry. She's 5 now and has never had an accident.
I heard that boys take a little longer than girls, so don't stress. He'll train when he's ready. Just one peice of advice though, don't use the pull ups. They will prolong the process since they are just like diapers. Good luck!

Amber - posted on 05/08/2012

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I also would like to know. My son just turned 3 in April and he will not go #2 on the potty consistently only #1. It's hard when I work full time and only have weekends to do this. Any suggestions???

Karinne - posted on 05/08/2012

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Let him run around naked and make sure u get a toddler potty for the regular tolit so he doesn't feel like he is gonna fall in if he sits on it I know mine won't go if he feels like he is gonna fall in he'll let u know when he has to potty if he is naked or at least mine does lol or he'll try and bring u a diapper when he needs to go just encourage him to use the big boy potty!! Good luck

Christina - posted on 05/08/2012

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some kids do take longer it all depends on the child i know from experience i know im potty training to kids right now and it takes patience and time and it coule take 2 months or 1 day and some kids r different

Christina - posted on 05/08/2012

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make reward sheet and if he poop or pee in his toilet put a sticker on it i have the only weekly mon-sunday and its fun way for ur toddler enjoy and having fun at the same time

Missie - posted on 05/08/2012

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pick some warm days to have him not in any sort of underwear. You and he will be able to quickly see when he has to go, and once they are successful a few times, it is much easier to continue

Ana - posted on 05/07/2012

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It took me almost 2 months to train her b/c she was wearing pull-ups at nightime....so when I saw she was waking up with dry diapers for almost 2 weeks I decided to go diaper free at night as well (that's why the whole process took me almost 2 months) Also, its not that she was not ready to potty train, I was also trying to get her of the breast and having a bottle before bed resulted in wet diapers in the morning. So moving the bottle to 1-2 hours before bedtime did the trick!

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I didn't insult any body, I didn't even intend to write that to you, just a general overview of that. If you didn't need to bribe with toys, good for you, I had that idea with my daughter, and I didn't need it because from the first time she wore regular underwear she let me know every time she wanted to go to the bathroom. Then only "negative" thing I got from her is she asked for diapers so she didn't have to stop playing to go to the toilet. I don't understand something though, if from the first day you put her on th epotty she never poooped in her diaper, then how come you say it took you 2 months to train her? ... anyways I just posted to help Kristin and give some info about children and potty training, that's all. I never insulted anybody, I never used any inappropriate language, or similar. I was just INFORMING.

Ana - posted on 05/06/2012

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Ana Gonzalez....I know your post was directed towards my comment. Just because my daughter took almost 2 months to be potty trained, that doesnt mean she wasnt ready! From the first day I put her in the potty she NEVER pooped in her diaper ( and I didn't have to bribe her with any BIG girl toys to do that) so I guess she did have good control of her bowel movements, plus she had zero accidents! (and she also wasnt traumatized from getting potty trained early!) Every child is different and I'm not insulting anybody! (like you just did!) Some children can be potty trained over a weekend, some take more time....that doesnt make them more or less ready to be potty trained!

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Potty training should NEVER take months. First of all, if you start potty training before the kid is ready, then it will take months and lots of accidents, making it a hard and maybe not so pleasant task. Besides that, vowel movements and stuff is something kids under the age of 2 can't control, so there are two options: you start potty training them before that age, and you get a lot of accidents, and a frustrated child that will then become difficult to potty train when the right time comes(when they are REALLY able to control their vowel movements) .. it will just psychologically harm them, because they will feel so frustrated that they pee or poo on their clothes because they just simply CAN'T control it. The other option, is that you start potty training at an early age, have a lot of accidents, and besides the kid's frustration, you can also harm they muscles, because they might really try, and is something that can become harmful to them in the future, if you don't think so, ask a paediatrician. And why is this? because when babies are born they NOT FULLY developed, many of their organs and body functions actually mature on their first 6 years of age... or even more.

Now of course, human body is not an exact clock, that right the day the child turns 2 their intestines and muscles down there are ready for potty training. You have to look after clues and sign that tells you that he or she IS READY for potty training. (Who ever said some posts "ago" that you don't ask your kid before feeding solids, this is actually something their digestive system should be ready for too as well, if you try giving solids to an unmature digestive system, the baby will puke the food instread of digesting it.. that's why yo start with solids at a certain age, and not when the baby is barely a newborn!)...So what are the signs your child is ready for potty train? the child can show a dislike of having a dirty diaper (smaller children usually poop on their diapers or pee, and they keep playing you have to tell their diaper is derty because of smell or checking him, on the ones who start to be ready they stop playing or let you now their disconfort), also they usually stop their activity to do their business, they tell you they are going to pee or poo, or they tell afterwards, another good sign also is they don't poo or pee all the time at random times but they have like some times fixed for doing so, and also when in the mornings their diapers are not dirty or wet. When kids are PHYSIOLOGICALLY ready for potty training, training should be done in as little as one day! ... and I know because that's the way I do it. Since it is around age 2, they are old enough to understand that they can go to the bathroom when they feel the need and they are actually able to hold it long enough as to go to the bathroom. Since they can hold it, they will not be traumatized from potty training and this task will be as easy as cutting a cake.

As an example I trained my daughter when she was 2 and some months... I noticed when she was ready because she told me when she wet her diaper, she didn't like having a dirty diaper, and her diaper was always clean in the mornings, she actually pee and poo just the right moment she woke up. So of course you have to make them want to be potty trained. I didn't use a potty because like someone else already said before they are disgusting to clean, and then its can turn difficult for them to want to use the toilet. I went mother and daughter shopping, I let her know she was now a big girl and had the opportunity of using underwear just as pretty as mine. So she picked the underwear she liked most, and I bought it for her. We went to another store and she picked the seat for the toilet she most liked, and I told her, I am buying this fo ryou to use it, if not then I will return it to the store. The very same day we got home, I put her on the underwear, and told her not to get it dirty because it would get ugly and would have to be thrown away. I also bought her some toys I would give her if she went to the toilet. THat very same day she always told me when she needed to go to the bathroom, and there were NEVER no accidents. I used the underwear both day and night, I didn't buy any diapers any more. She never wet or poo herself, and the only time she wet the bed was one this time she was sick with a flu.

Dove - posted on 05/06/2012

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Easy way to potty train? Let them do it themselves. ;)

Worked great for my son. Yes, he was 'introduced' to the potty at 15 months, but whether or not he went or when he went was 100% his decision. He has been fully day and night trained since a few months before turning 3.

My best friend started training one of her boys at 2 and he had accidents almost daily (and sometimes multiple times a day) for almost 2 years. She had a baby when her second child turned 2, so didn't even think to try and potty train him until he turned 3. It only took a couple of weeks at the most.

When they are READY (which can be as early as a year and a half or even as late as 3 or 4) any potty training 'method' can be easy. When they aren't ready, any method can be a battle.

Becky - posted on 05/06/2012

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My mom, had 3 boys, would put a squirt of ivory liq in the potty & would say let's go make bubbles.. worked for them! I used a jar of mm's. Every potty trip got an mm. Dad needs to show how it will be done when he's big also....

Kristi - posted on 05/04/2012

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Most people seem to be missing the fact that boys generally take longer than girls to potty train. Just don't get discouraged when he's not potty trained after a couple days. It might take months. Just keep up the praise and rewards. Good luck!

Kellie - posted on 05/04/2012

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@Jennifer Connolly, I don't think that was for you. I think she just happened to post after you.

My daughter had an active interest in the potty and loved pooping in the potty right before she turned 3 - she hated being in a dirty diaper. She still didn't pee in the potty, unless she was there to poop; that is, until we switched to big girl panties full time, no matter where we were, or what we were doing. We would ask her every 15 min or so (more often if she had just had something to drink) if she had to go pee. Right before we would leave, we'd have her sit on the potty for about 10 min.

My son showed interest around 2 years old for like a week; we went out and bought him a potty. He sat on it once and then never looked at it again. He'll be 3 in July. He's mentioned a few times about potty, which we immediately sit him on one. He just sits there for a second and then wants off. The good news though, is that he is starting to show an interest again (I think). He also loves to flush, close the seat, wash and dry his hands.

I have a friend who tried to rush her oldest, b/c she didn't want two in diapers -- I think she ended up having him in diapers longer, b/c he was four when he was finally trained and it took her MONTHS and constant accidents and he would cry every time he peed in his pants. I think it was too much pressure for the 2.5 year old. After a few crying (and wet pants) incidents, she took him to his pediatrician, who recommended she lay off of the training for a while. Then by 3.5 years old, I think she was done with "laying off", but it took her almost 6 months. Poor thing was probably petrified of the toilet!!

Sherri - posted on 05/04/2012

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I also agree with Jennifer C. I never have used a little potty as #1 they are just disgusting to have to clean and #2 they need to learn how to use the toilet eventually so why not just start them out on it from the beginning. We just always got the inserts that fit on the big toilet and a stool that has worked for us for all the kids.

Bettie - posted on 05/04/2012

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Don't stress on this It will happen and Don't listen to the rude commits, they don't help... As Caitin said have fun with it, my daughter was pottied trained @ 2 and my son took until almost 4.. So It will happen. now working on grand-kids,

Bettie - posted on 05/04/2012

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Hi get a potty chair and take him every time you or your hubby go in, Then ask several times a day, make a little game outa it,( Let's go pee pee potty. then clap if he does,. even if he just sits there, turn on the water, sometime the water helps ya go..We are going thru this with our granddaughter that will be 3 in July. We gave her a animal cookie to get her going in, AFTER she pottied.. it works,,,, then fade outa the treats... just to get him started..,
Good luck
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Caitlin - posted on 05/04/2012

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Kristen you're so right people should not comment if their going to be rude, Don't stress yourself out if he's not picking it up as fast as other kids his age or younger even. My first son was 3 before he was fully potty trained. I had him going pee pee on the potty but he wouldn't go number 2 for a while. My second son was fully potty trained by 2 so every kid is different and they will go when their ready. Good luck and have with it!

User - posted on 05/04/2012

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The best thing to do is to leave his diaper off when at home, and make it very exciting that he has big boy underpants on!! It will make it alot easier. Prepare for accidents lol

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2012

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@Michelle Waldbillig - Was that warning for me? I don't understand - I only told her how my experience went with my children. I wasn't criticizing the original poster...

Michelle - posted on 05/04/2012

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The OP came on here to ask advice on the best way to potty train, not to be told that she "should" have done it at a certain time. Please refrain from posting if you feel you can't constructively help her.

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Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2012

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Kristin Francis - posted 2 hours ago

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Last time I checked i checked there was no right time. And I've had a lot on my plate if u have to know. I didn't get on here and ask for advice for people to sit here and have people questioning on why he's not potty trained already. People do things differently with their kids. So if ur going to comment rudely don't comment at all thank u. And to everyone else thanks for the advice and not being rude like some people.



Amen to that Kristin! My son was 3 on 1st of March and I still haven't started with him yet, but plan to in the coming weeks. I have 4 children (3S 1D) and I started them all at around 3-4 years. My first child has special needs so he started at around 4. Also, I skipped the "potty" and went straight for the toilet using a seat insert and step, as I felt there might be an issue when trying to get them to use the toilet, i.e., when you're out and about - unless you plan on bringing the potty everywhere you go.

Kristi - posted on 05/03/2012

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Treats work or rewards for going in the potty and not in the pull ups. Going out in public is the hardest part because of stores and malls not having child Friendly toilet seats. You can get a folding potty seat. My son still goes in his night time pull up, but he gets praise when it's dry in the morning

Kristin - posted on 05/03/2012

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Last time I checked i checked there was no right time. And I've had a lot on my plate if u have to know. I didn't get on here and ask for advice for people to sit here and have people questioning on why he's not potty trained already. People do things differently with their kids. So if ur going to comment rudely don't comment at all thank u. And to everyone else thanks for the advice and not being rude like some people.

Ana - posted on 05/03/2012

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Wow Sherri....tribes in Africa and "modern" United States? Actually Pamela does have a point, I introduced my daughter to the potty at 16 months and by 18 months she was fully potty trained(day and night trained). I find it ridiculous to wait till they are 3 or 4 years old to introduce them to the potty... and another thing I find ridiculous is to wait untill your child decides to start using the potty, I mean aren't you the parent?...shouldn't you be the one introducing or teaching things to your child? Do you as the parent introduce solid foods to a baby or do you wait untill the baby is old enough to make that choice for themselves? Do you enroll your child in school or do you wait until they feel they are ready to go on their own?

Sherri - posted on 05/03/2012

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Really Pamela most potty training does not begin that early. Most kids are potty trained between the ages of 2 1/2 and 3yrs old. It isn't a HABIT to start training at 2 1/2 that is quite the normal age to start in the US. What was she thinking?? Really what are you thinking demeaning her because she is asking advice at a very age appropriate time.

Here is some current information on potty training ages in the US. It seems you need to update your information.

Toilet training, or potty training, is the process of training a young child to use the toilet for urination and defecation, though training may start with a smaller toilet bowl-shaped device (often known as a potty). Cultural factors play a large part in what age is deemed appropriate, with the expectation for being potty trained ranging from 12 months for some tribes in Africa[1] to 36 months in the modern United States.
In 2002, the average age that parents recognized their child "showing an interest in using the potty" was 24–25 months, and daytime dryness was achieved on average at almost 3 years of age.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toilet_trai...

Angela - posted on 05/03/2012

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I started potty training this past Monday and i just put "big girl" panties on her and she had a few accidents the first day. But I just kept reminding her and asking her if she had to potty. It's now Thursday & we even went out to eat at friendlys and she peed on there big potty. If your consistent they'll be consistent. Rewards I did the first few days like lollipops and ice cream. A friend of mine gave me this idea to just dive right in and try and I was nervous but it's actually worked out great for us!

Louise - posted on 05/03/2012

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Let him go to the bathroom with daddy. it work for my twin grandboys. good luck.

Shelly - posted on 05/03/2012

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Get a copy of the book "Toilet training in less than a day" by Nathan H. Azrin and Richard M. Foxx. Check you local library for a copy. I used it with all three of my kids, and it works. You take one day, and you follow their training method, and your kid is trained in one day. It was much easier than I thought possible.

Caitlin - posted on 05/02/2012

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You're welcome! They love stuff like that and I wish I knew that with my 1st son but I learned that rick with my 2nd son and now pregnant with my 3rd son and I am going to do that with him as well.

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oh yeah cheerios, I did that with my son when he was little it was a great success! Thanks for the memory, really it was a good one, how he got excited when he would hit one.

Caitlin - posted on 05/02/2012

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You can also get the training pants that have plastic so its not to much of a mess but big boy undies with his favorite characters on them lots of praising like the other moms said to. You can also take cheerios or little paper boats and let him try and sick the boat or hit the cheerios. It makes it fun for them as well so he'll want to go.

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Praise lots of it and its ok we will try again when theres an accident. Clean it up move on. My granddaughter will be 4 in jluly and was still in diapers up until I think a bit over a week ago, when we couldnt afford diapers, it was potty training time. We have had great success with or well I have, with praise and patience. Mom on the other hand doesnt even want to deal with it anymore after the first poo accident,(dont ask its a long story) so I have successfully potty trained yet another sweetpea. I am so proud of her, I knew she was ready because she would tell me when she was going and when she had to go. Your child will let you know when they are ready. There will be setbacks and accidents, its all part of learning for both of you. Patience patience and praise.

Lady Heather - posted on 05/02/2012

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That's exactly what I did. If they are ready it works great. I thought my daughter would be up for it so I just told her she only has diapers for bed from now on. No accidents after day 2 and by day 5 we were out of the house at her playgroup using the big potty. I think it takes a long time and is frustrating when a) your kid isn't ready yet and b) you don't go whole hog with it. I know a lot of people who have been potty training forever because they started too young or use diapers for going out.

Marylou - posted on 05/02/2012

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I also took the potty outside (if it's nice weather) or had him sit on the potty about 30 minutes after they ate or drank to read a book. I could tell when they wanted to go becuase they would squirm or look at me and then I would praise and try to make them feel comfortable.

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