My son won't eat any dinner, Please help.

Tracey - posted on 04/12/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son won't eat any form of dinner, even if I serve it up to him again. When he was little we feed him lots of different foods and then he stopped eating any dinner. Please help I have run out of ideas.

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Jenn - posted on 04/12/2011

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I am going to make this very simple for you, like my pedi did for me. It is the parents job to provide nutritional and health meals from a variety of food groups as well as make healthy snacks readily available. It is the childs job to decide how much to eat (if any). Children go trhough phases of eating everything to eating nothing all the time. You shoukld never try to force your child to eat if they dont want to, it creates a bad relationship with food. As long as you keep offering meals and making them available, the child will eat when they are hungry. Children will not starve themselves. Also keep in mind that a child stomach is much smaller then ours, so a serving for a child may only be about 1/3 or 1/4 of what an adult serving may be. Why don't you try offering six smaller meals throughout the day instead of three big ones, or at least give a nutritious snack a few hours before dinner. The best thing to do is to keep offering the food. But do nothing else. It is not your job to force your child to eat, it causes unnecessary stress and power struggles. You have to pick your battles. Also try cutting down on the amount of beverages your child is drinking as the liquid may be filling him up so that he is not hungry when meals come around. Here are a few links to check out on this matter:

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/...

http://life.familyeducation.com/behavior...

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/3/t030800...

http://www.iloveindia.com/parenting/eati...

So remember, as much as it pains your heart to see your child go to bed without eating supper, let it be. Rest assured that they are not going to starve and will most likely eat their full breakfast in the morning. They are most likely not hungry or it may be a power struggle. Either way, accept their refusal and leave it at that. If it is a power thing, arguing and bribing will only make them refuse more. The only time when this is a real issue is if your child is malnourished, losing weight, dehydrated, not as active as usual, tired all the time, or any other health issues. If this is the case then please speak to your doctor for guidance. Good luck, and remember, just relax!!

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Faith - posted on 04/14/2011

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Post a reply!He will eat when he's hungry. One of my bigest mistakes with my 3, was making them eat and clean their plates. Now all three have weight problems now that they are grown. If he eats a good breakfast and lunch, he will be alright until he decides to eat dinner.

Tracey - posted on 04/13/2011

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Thanks for your help and the great advice. My son is 2 so I don't feel as bad if this their way of controlling the situation.

Bonnie - posted on 04/13/2011

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They do become picky at this age. I have a 2.5 year old and there are things that he use to eat before that he rarely wants now. As long as he is eating throughout the day and more so along the healthier line he should be fine. Also try to make sure he isn't eating too much close to dinner because then that will be another reason he won't want to eat.

Renee - posted on 04/13/2011

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How old is your son? My peditrician told me they get really picky around 2; it is a way they can feel they are in control. There are many areas in their life they can't control; therefore they use food to feel they are in control of something. There is this really need store in Alexandria on Broadway, Mag Pie, they have these face plates where the man is bald. You can dish up the different foods to decorate the face, Ex: meatloaf for beard, mashpotatoes for hair and vegetables for the ears. If he sees it as a fun activity he may eat better. Good Luck

Jennifer - posted on 04/13/2011

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I agree with the others, he will eat when he is hungry. Just make sure you are watching what he is eating after supper. My son who is now three, went through a phase where he didn't want to eat supper. I then realized why. I would give him a snack (small and healthy, but usually more appealing to a child than supper. ie yogurt, fruit, granola bar). Then, Daddy would pack his lunch bucket and give him some chips or other "junk" while he was doing that. Then, if Daddy decided to have cookies or chips for a snack himself, he would share with our son. Once I finally realized that he wasn't eating supper, because he knew tastier things were to come, I cut all those out. I would still give a snack, but only if he made a decent attempt at supper (I never make my kids finish it all if they don't want to), then I told my husband to stop the other junk. It took a couple nights with a boy going to bed upset because he didn't get the junk food, but he soon learned to eat dinner or he would go hungry.

Jayne - posted on 04/13/2011

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I'm not so sure that this is altogether bad, so long as he is eating enough throughout the day. Ever heard the saying Ëat like a king at breakfast, a prince at lunch and a pauper at dinner? it's really the least important meal of the day.

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