My son won't stop biting in school

Nell - posted on 01/25/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is four years old and I cannot get him to stop biting in school. This is the second day we have had to pick him up for biting in class. Has anyone else had or having this problem? Or does anyone else have any advice to share? I ask him why he is doing it and he just tells me he doesn't know!

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Ev - posted on 01/25/2013

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How old was your son, Michelle? Biting him back as you found out did not work. It hardly works. Sometimes it does. But its not the best thing to do.

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well, I tell you what.. I went through the same problem with my son.. he was biting all the time and he finally has gotton out of the phase. I told him no and would bite him back.. not hard or anything.. but of course he thought that was funny.. so, that really didnt work.. It was a phase. I think it was mostly for attention. I really dont have too much advice.. it was just a phase he went through and just stopped on his own.

Ev - posted on 01/25/2013

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You are welcome. It could also be the need to change rooms and also to get the school to talk to the other kid's mother.

Nell - posted on 01/25/2013

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Evelyn Ty for the advice. I have tried talking to him it's very hard to get it out of him on why he is doing this.. But from what I gather from him it's a boy at his school taunting him. I have been trying to teach him to go to his teachers and use his words and he has. This boy just won't leave him alone. So I'm thinking of having a parent teacher meeting. Ty for your advice :)

Ev - posted on 01/25/2013

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Okay, there has to be something going on beyond just mere biting. At this age, a child should be over the biting episode at the ages of 18 months to about 2 years old. You should take your child to his or her doctor and see what the doctor recommends for biting issues.

Holly~~I have to disagree with you on a few things you posted.

Making a child bite on a bar of soap~~using soap of any kind for any reason is not a good idea. There is a reason that they say not to place in the mouth. Some soaps have chemicals and dyes that can make the child sick. Also, if it came to the attention of children's services it could be looked on as abuse. Also NO PROVIDER IS ALLOWED TO DO THIS.

Self-biting is not the answer either. I know of kids who bite themselves when they get mad when there is no one else in reach. If they bite hard enough they can damage that arm or finger or whatever is bitten. Its not good to encourage this. What should be done instead is to work with the kids to teach them to use their words by setting example. You should say you know that the child is mad and its not easy not having their way, having that toy or whatever is going on. NEVER encourage biting self.

A pacifier? At age four they are too old for a pacifier. Give them something else to chew on such as a teething ring or a chew toy. A pacifier being bitten is not safe as the small pieces can cause choking.

As for the diaper rash cream on the bite mark, never heard of it but I have heard of using Vasiline for the same thing. Also use an ice pack. This will help the swelling a lot more than any cream applied. It will also help with bruises and redness.

The best thing to do with a biter is to talk to them and show them how to express themselves by example. Teach them words needed to say stop, I want a turn, help please, no, and other terms that the age they are can understand. It takes time to make this work. Also try to figure out what is causing the problem and triggers the bite. It could be a kid, transition to a new activity, parents leaving the child at daycare, and many other things. Once you figure out what is causing this child to bite you can take the right steps to keep it from happening and also provide examples of what is okay to do.

Holly - posted on 01/25/2013

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well here are a few mothods that are tried and true with my mother (who runs a home day care, and only does these things with the parent's approval)

- make the child bite soap
- tell the child that if they get really mad and want to bite someone, they are better off biting themselve's (this way they can feel what pain they are putting the other child in)
- give them a pacifier and if thet want tobite something let them bite the pacifier
- also let the daycare provider know that diaper rash cream on the bite mark area help heal the bite mark quickly, and it doesn't end up as bruised looking.

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