My son wont mind me!

April LaShae - posted on 08/01/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hello, my 3 almost 4 year old is just not really minding me I have to tell him no 15 times then he figures out im not going to let him do it he makes a mad face and stomps off saying im mad or I hate you or I hate my toys just being mean and then gets over it, How do I fix this i have grounded him took toys away, put him in time out and spanked him. What do I need to do? Thanks.

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Dove - posted on 08/01/2012

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Maybe he needs more activity/something to do. Little boys have LOTS of energy and the less they get to run out that energy... the worse they behave.

Rose - posted on 08/01/2012

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April.. Keep at him my little boy just turned 4 he was the SAME way I kid you not! Everything you are doing is JUST FINE! I even went as far as giving my child vinegar because he would not mind me or his manners. The vinegar STOPED him dead in his tracks and now he's my awesome little man again minding his mama. DON'T get discouraged your mama, keep showing that and I promise he will shape up!

Dove - posted on 08/01/2012

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Is he doing what he's not supposed to be doing while you are telling him no 15 times or is he just asking? Granted, the asking is annoying and finding a way to stop that is definitely ideal, but if he's not doing what he's asking about.... what are you punishing? The fact that he's angry he's not getting his way?

Try telling him no just one time. If he asks again you can tell him 'my answer is no and it's not changing. If you ask again then you can go into your room until you are ready to accept my answer.' Then PUT him in his room if he asks again and keep putting him back if he gets out and goes on about the same thing.

Unless you aren't mentioning something I don't see any reason to be grounding him or spanking him for his behavior....

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Just keep reminding him that no means no. At that age they just like the test and see what they can get away with. Grounding, taking toys, and spanking just teaches them to be sneaky. They will say hurtful things for the reaction they get from you. But most of the time they don't mean it.

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April LaShae - posted on 08/02/2012

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Thank all of you for your help I'm sure ill get him under control thanks again!

Brittany - posted on 08/01/2012

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I've been in these shoes. I've always felt I did pretty well as a single mom until the 3s kicked in full force. It became too much. I spoke to my son's pediatrician about his behavior and was referred to a behavioral counselor. He has been seeing his case manager in the office and at home since May and I have seen so much improvement. It may not be the right option for everyone but it never hurts to ask for help when you're over your head.

April LaShae - posted on 08/01/2012

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no i spank him when he yells at me when i tell him something and he just keeps yelling the spanking works most the time but he just asks me like can i go outside or etc and ill tell him no and hell start crying and asking over and over and then hell say i hate you and run to his room. I do put him in his room and tell him to stay intell he understands that no means no on that problem but it still dont work its the same thing every day with different questions I know kids will be kids but he has always been a great kid up intell the past month and he has a bad mouth and just trys to do what he wants. I do believe in spankings there is nothing wrong with that I know most people dont but I got them when I was little so all my children will too when they do something that deserves it but I forgot to say that he also has a little brother thats 2 and a little sister thats 6 months so I dont know if its the younger brother and sister thats causing this new behavior or what because the 2 year old is going threw terrible 2s so

Chaya - posted on 08/01/2012

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Eventually a spanking will get through to him. When I'd spank my daughter when she was little, I told her why I was doing it. I never had a problem with her doing that thing again.

April LaShae - posted on 08/01/2012

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I know he dont mean it because he tells me he loves me all the time he learned that from another child but thanks for the help!

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