My sons doesn't need me anymore

Veron - posted on 11/15/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )




Sometimes I feel that my six year old doesn't want me helping him most of the time. I know he wants to learn everything on his own but I miss those days of always having his mommy doing something for him. The next is that he doesn't want me kissing him anymore, no more kisses before he goes to school and no more random kissing mommy for no reason and he wants to sleep on his own....I'm sad and don't know what to do......HELP!!!!!


Julie - posted on 11/16/2010




Hey I am 43 and the other day I cried and wanted my mommy! we always need our mommies just in different ways and every age will bring new delights of ways that your realtionship will develop and grow..and Mothers and sons ..My goodness! the specail bond between my brother and mom was something that we as girls were always in awe of... this time period may be passing but there is still a lot of great moments to be had!

Leanne - posted on 06/16/2012




he will always need his mom! however, at this stage of his development, he should be doing most things independently and showing interests in new things. remember that he still needs your love, support and guidance to make good choices as he continues to grow! i know that doesn't really help ease the sadness, but try to embrace his independence!

Sherri - posted on 11/16/2010




He still needs you just in different ways. Your relationship is changing because he is becoming older. Trust me his needing you has not gone down in the least, in all actuality as he nears teenager years they will need you more then they ever needed you in their infant and toddler years. Wait and see I have a almost 14 yr old, 12 yr old and 4 yr old.

Mom - posted on 11/16/2010




He should have been sleeping on his own long before now! Instead of being proud of how grown up he is getting, you want him to continue to act like a one year old. Hmm.Sounds like mom may need some help.

Angie - posted on 11/16/2010




Yea! You are doing an amazing job giving your son the skills and confidence to become independent. It is difficult to let them go and, I hate to say it, but it doesn't get easier. My son is 17 and will soon be leaving home to college. I am so proud of him but I still cry several times a week when I think of my home without his deep voice. Try to see these steps for what they are, the process of him becoming his own man.

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Melinda - posted on 06/12/2012




Just interact with his daily social life, like go to his school once or twice a week. Try participating with his school activies, in the after school program take them a snack.
This should work little kids are easy to be lead or mislead now teenagers are difficult. Good Luck.

Christy - posted on 06/12/2012




Hi there I am reaching out to you ladies to ask if any of you are going through the teen years with your child where they are easily embarrassed by you, don't want to kiss you goodnight, hold your hand, etc. If so, please write to me at and include a photo of you and your boy as well as a phone number where I can reach you. This is for a television show so please be aware you should be comfortable with being on camera.

Bonnie - posted on 11/16/2010




Aww..I know it's sad. I haven't gone through that yet, but i'm bracing myself. He just needs you in different ways now than he did when he was younger. He is starting to mature and be more independant, also probably a little curious to try things on his own and see what the outcome will be. Lucky you though for him wanting to sleep on his own. You could catch up on lost sleep!

Jodi - posted on 11/16/2010




I have a 13 year old boy - believe me, he needs you. As Louise said, however, he just needs you in different ways. It is really hard to let go as they grow up, but as long as you are there for them, they still need you.

Louise - posted on 11/16/2010




At six he needs his mummy in different ways and from now on your relationship will change until he is an adult.Like you said soon he will not want mummy kissing him at the school gates as this is not cool but there is nothing wrong with a cuddle when he comes home. I have been through this twice with my sons and it is hard to accept but just be pleased that your son is a strong independant boy. He loves you just the same as he always did but expresses it in other ways. Try and make mother and son days where you do things that you both enjoy like bowling or going to the cinema. These days will get more important the older he gets and he will always be able to communicate with you if you have a good relationship. Don't be sad your raising a perfectly normal little chap!

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I don't know how to help you because I'm not there yet. My son is only 3 and still in that needy phase. But you know what? Maybe it will help you to know that you've helped me. I've been really frustrated with him lately. Not just him, but sometimes the life of a SAHM gets very monotonous and with him up my butt all the time I have been feeling a little worn and like I'm going nuts. Reading what you have to say has helped to remind me that he won't always be like this and that someday I'm gonna miss him always wanting to be up my butt. So in about 3 years, expect to see me posting too about how much I miss my baby boy.

Stifler's - posted on 11/15/2010




Aww. He is getting independent and it's a really good thing for him although it's sad for you.

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